How did I give birth to a goddamned daughter?
In my hometown, in the countryside, girls can't go to genealogy, they are not allowed to worship in ancestral halls, and their wives are not allowed to appear when their elders die and attend funerals. Ironically, the reason is that they are afraid of affecting the geomantic omen of future generations.
My uncle has no son and always scolds his daughter. "How did I give birth to a goddamned daughter?"
Even during the Chinese New Year, there is endless work to do. I eat alone on the stove with a bowl. Who advised her parents to ignore, "God damn it, finish eating and go to work!"
Later, his family adopted a boy, and his daughter was even more disliked. She dropped out of junior high school and forced her to get married, just for the bride price. It is no exaggeration to say that she sold her daughter.
What's even more exasperating is that the family who married in the past also preferred sons to daughters. She was like a coolie and a fertility tool, with endless abuse and endless work, and unfortunately she lived her whole life.
Marry a daughter to a son, buy a house and marry a wife
A colleague's best friend, and a younger brother at home is regarded as a treasure. After four years in college, she didn't receive any phone calls from her father. Only when her brother came to visit the city did his father call every day to ask about his condition and then ordered her to take good care of him.
She came to Shanghai to work hard after graduation. She really didn't have the money to borrow 2 yuan from her mother. When her father found out, he called her every week to urge her to pay back the money. "Your parents are not happy anymore." Finally, she had no choice but to borrow two thousand dollars from her friend, and her father never contacted her again.
When she went back for the Spring Festival, her father urged her to get married. "If you get married in the past two years, I will give you a 2% discount on the bride price." "You see, your brother is not young, and you have to buy him a car, a house and a wife."
in her father's eyes, she is a commodity that can be raised and sold, and there is no affection at all. If it weren't for her poor mother, she would have broken up with her father.
There are parents in the world who really think that "daughters are losers", and it is a joke that the palms of their hands are covered with meat.
If you don't have a son, get out of here.
This is what my friend told me. It's really shocking that there are such an inferior husband and an ignorant mother-in-law.
The girl married into a patriarchal family, and the first child gave birth to a daughter. Her mother-in-law looked unhappy, saying that girls were raised for others and would marry sooner or later. Since the birth of her daughter, she has never held a granddaughter.
after the opening of the second child policy, the mother-in-law urged her to have grandchildren, and the girl refused to have another child, so she quarreled with her husband and mother-in-law.
She feels that being born is unfair to her daughter. She began to favor her son before she was born, and her daughter was destined to be left out and despised from childhood.
The husband actually hit her and threatened to let her get out of the house if she didn't have children. What is even more exasperating is that the girl complained to her parents, who in turn advised her, "You will have a son and everyone will be happy."
if a woman lives in such a family, how can she be happy? What about family ties? What's the use of such a family if the husband and elders don't understand pity?
Finally, the girl divorced decisively with her daughter. But many girls are not so free and easy or independent, and more can't get rid of such a tragic family all their lives.
Girls should know
Before getting married, they must know the man's family. Even if the man doesn't prefer boys to girls, his parents will never marry him. No matter whether you have boys or girls in such a family, you are a second-class person outside the family.
If you are unfortunately married to such a family, girl, don't cry for yourself, learn to be independent, put away your humility and timidity, and leave!
a family that prefers boys to girls!