You want to get help from others, but it's just your wishful thinking. Most people will not help you, but will hinder your development in all aspects. Many people "can't see how you are".
In interpersonal communication, we all hope to get along well with others and start a business in Qi Xin. However, your idea is too naive. If you are excellent, others will curry favor with you. If you are poor, others will avoid you; People will laugh at you if you muddle along. The attitude of others towards you is actually determined by your own conditions.
Some people, smiling at you on the surface, actually look down on you at all, and even say some ugly things behind your back, trying to drag you into the water secretly.
People who really look down on you will have these four performances. I hope you can see clearly and don't be fooled into thinking that you have met a good person.
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When we are together, he either flatters you or perfunctory you.
When interacting with people, you often meet people who are very enthusiastic. He can always praise you, turn your shortcomings into strengths, and make up some messy achievements to impose on you. His words make you feel tall and really great. In fact, what he said is obviously hypocritical, and no one will believe it when he says it.
Some people, when interacting with you, don't care about your feelings at all, and don't want to listen to you. He always ignores what you say to him. He often says things like "hmm, ah, ok, oh" and doesn't look you in the eye when he speaks. Even when you are talking, he slowly leaves and ignores you.
People who look down on you are very special when they are in contact with you. Flattering you is actually to make you happy, to make you happy. When he perfunctory you, he is very unfriendly. It doesn't matter whether you are in front of him or not.
People who respect you will listen to you carefully and answer your questions seriously. He is sincere when chatting with you, and will not exaggerate your achievements or underestimate your potential. 02
Behind your back, he always gossips and laughs at you.
Some people, it is "face to face, behind a set". In front of you, he pretends to be friendly, but behind your back, he makes irresponsible remarks, taking your shortcomings and past events as his talk. He will even slander you just to see you get angry.
At work yesterday, my colleague Lao Wu said to me, "You know, Lao Liu thinks you are a night owl."
I said, "What's the matter? Do I work overtime and stay up all night? "
Lao Wu said, "That's not what I meant. The' night owl' that Lao Liu said is that he doesn't sleep at night, and he specializes in making dynamics in his circle of friends and eating with his boss. "
It suddenly dawned on me that what Lao Liu said out of thin air was nothing more than denigrating me. He simply looks down on me.
People who look down on you won't say anything in front of you, or even have any language communication with each other, but they will try their best to find your shortcomings and seize your handle. If he doesn't catch you, he will gossip and damage your image. If you are angered by his words, you are trapped by him.
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When there is an interest dispute, he always stands up and never gives in.
People who look down on you will never "yield to you". He can't wait to keep your interests for himself, and he doesn't want you to get any benefits. For example, if you are the owner of a supermarket, the business in the store is very good. He hopes that your business will get worse and worse. When he sees a customer coming to your store, he will stop others, say something ugly and drive the customer away.
People who look down on you may be jealous of you. When you get better and better, they will get in the way and try to drag you down.
For example, if you are a teacher at school, and you get the opportunity to choose a professional title through your own efforts, he will find all kinds of mistakes, collect so-called evidence and send it to the principal.
I hope you can admire you from the bottom of my heart through that better person. In case of interest disputes, he will yield to you and show great generosity. If others find fault everywhere, you should be wary of him, keep a distance from him and avoid his sharp edges.
As the saying goes, "the east gate is closed and the west gate is open." Don't argue with people who look down on you. Take the initiative to give way and fight for each other, it doesn't matter. Your generosity will make him feel ashamed and make his life wider and wider. 04
You never help you when you are in trouble, and you even throw a person when he is down.
People are poor, and relatives and friends look down on you. However, you have to understand that relatives and friends look down on you, but don't help, don't do immoral things in front of you, don't hit you, and suppress you.
People who look down on you will suppress you. If you are down and out, he hopes you will never turn over. He believes that when you are down and out, it is the most vulnerable time. As long as he hits you a little, you will never have a bright future.
As the saying goes, "people are not poor." The more you are down and out, the more you should summon up courage and start from scratch, so that those who look down on you will look at you with new eyes. When he suppresses you, you can't resist him, but "bear the burden of humiliation." Just like Sun Bin in ancient times, when he was imprisoned by Pang Juan, he pretended to be crazy and looked for opportunities to rise. Never do anything like "throw eggs at stones", but try your best to preserve your strength.
"Feng Shui turns", be a man, when others look down on you, you should look up to yourself and not be pessimistic. When you are a little better than others, others will envy you and look down on you; When you are much better than others, others can only look up to you.
In short, you will live up to your expectations, and you will be happy even if no one respects you. In life, there is no need to live in the eyes of others, and live in high spirits.