In April of 20 15, it was the tea-picking season, and my father-in-law was diagnosed with intestinal cancer. Before this half year,
In April of 20 15, it was the tea-picking season, and my father-in-law was diagnosed with intestinal cancer. Before this half year, my father-in-law often had loose bowels and bloody stool at night. He always thought it was just a cold or hemorrhoids at night and didn't care. At that time, he was alone at home, and no one reminded him to go to the hospital for examination. Until the following March, my mother-in-law came back from Shanghai and went up the mountain to pick tea with him. My father-in-law always picks tea slowly, rarely. At first, my mother-in-law could not help blaming him. Later, she learned that his stomach was uncomfortable, he always had to go to the toilet, and sometimes it hurt, so he had to squat down to pick tea. Mother-in-law immediately took him to the township clinic, and the doctor advised him to go to Qingyang or Chizhou Hospital for further examination. The CT results came out, clear sky thunderbolt, middle and late stage of intestinal cancer! My father-in-law was only sixty-eight years old at that time. When the mother-in-law heard the truth, she avoided her father-in-law, tears streaming down her face and her eyes were red and swollen. It is really hard for her to accept such a cruel fact.
God's will is never easy to ask! My father-in-law suffered all his life and worked hard all his life to be kind to others. Now, when he can enjoy a little leisure, he is terminally ill, which makes people feel helpless and helpless. How can he not feel sad? My father-in-law once said to Mei Fang sadly, "How can I give up such a good life?" ! "My father-in-law's health has been very good, he seldom gets sick, and occasionally has a cold, so he will be fine soon. From youth to middle age to old age, he relied on this good health to save money with his mother-in-law in the mountains to support his family and pay for the schooling of his three children. He has always been proud that he has such a good figure, and he has told everyone about it. Indeed, he is in good health, works regularly, does not smoke, drinks less and has no bad habits. At weddings and funerals, he can dangle around with chopsticks and eat seven or eight pieces of braised pork, but when he was young, he often only ate meat once a week. Because I have been engaged in heavy physical labor all the year round, my fat is consumed, but my body is thin and strong.
My father-in-law is illiterate, too. He doesn't know what's wrong with him and how serious it is. Everyone kept it from him, only telling him that it was intestinal obstruction, and it was nothing serious. It was just a hole in the waist and a minor operation. My father-in-law believed it. The operation went well, and the artificial anus was done. My father-in-law has been clean and refreshing all his life, and now there is an anal bag hanging around his waist, and there is a faint smell. At first, he was very uncomfortable. Don't eat too much, don't stay outside for too long, sometimes accidentally, the anal bag falls off and the underwear coat is dirty. Mother-in-law can't help but say a few words to him occasionally. My father-in-law is silent, and a person quietly shed tears while changing clothes in the bathroom.
Father-in-law sometimes sits on the sofa, as if talking to me, and as if talking to himself: "I used to be in good health, but now I have such a disease and such troubles!" " "After a while, he seems to be able to accept it again." Hang a bag, just hang a bag, that's it, if you can live for another ten years. ""My father-in-law died of illness at a young age, and my mother died at the age of eighty-three. So he has confidence in his longevity. He has a good background, always looks good, ruddy and energetic, unlike ordinary cancer patients who look haggard and weak. It's just chemotherapy once a month. It's too painful. After each chemotherapy, people are very uncomfortable, unable to eat, unable to sleep and weak. Later, all my hair fell out and people became haggard. My father-in-law later wore a hat because it was really necessary.
At first, my father-in-law was not only treated in the hospital, but my mother-in-law also sought medical advice everywhere to see if Chinese medicine had any curative effect. I have been to Shanghai and Zhejiang, and I have prescribed a lot of Chinese medicines, and there is no special improvement. After all, it is already in the middle and late stages, and everything is too late. But taking Chinese medicine is more comfortable than chemotherapy. Although it is painful to drink Chinese medicine all day long, there is no way. Under such circumstances, in the second half of 19 15, my parents-in-law also brought two treasures to my hometown for several months to lighten our burden, so that we could do business wholeheartedly. Everything seems to be fine. During the Spring Festival of 20 16, our family had a happy reunion. I stayed in my father-in-law's house for the first time for 12 days and had a wonderful time with his old man.
The days passed day by day, and hospitalization was repeated intermittently. My father-in-law has been in the dark, thinking that he has intestinal obstruction. As long as he cooperates with the treatment, it can be cured in the end. In the first half of 20 16, he went to the hospital for chemotherapy for one week every month. At that time, the situation was relatively stable and seemed to have improved. After Tomb-Sweeping Day, they took Bauer back, took him with them and shared it with us until the end of June, when my eldest son had a summer vacation. The male owner of his next-door neighbor said that before Daguangqian, he was also in the middle and late stage of intestinal cancer, and his symptoms were exactly the same as his father-in-law. It's been two or three years. At first, all kinds of chemotherapy changed, and finally he died in August of 19 16 at the age of 5 1 year. After the funeral, my father-in-law seemed to wake up and said to people, "This is not a good disease!" " "
At the end of August, 20 16, my parents-in-law came to Shanghai. On the one hand, they brought us two treasures, on the other hand, they sought medical advice. An old Chinese doctor in Lishui, Zhejiang Province prescribed many Chinese herbal medicines, which are said to inhibit cancer cells. However, at this time, my father-in-law began to find a small lump in his abdomen, which was only the size of soybeans at first. After that, the tumor grew up gradually, and CT confirmed that the cancer recurred and metastasized in many places. Mother-in-law and we are still hiding it from him, saying that it doesn't matter is also benign. 1In mid-October, parents took Bauer back to his hometown. Aunt is at home at this time. She takes care of them. Everyone has Bauer with them. In this way, until the Spring Festival of 19 17, my father-in-law was in good spirits, moving freely, speaking forcefully, and being able to take care of himself. Around the Spring Festival, people kept coming to visit him at home. He looks in good spirits, happy and talkative. He told the whole village that his little son-in-law would build a house in his house this year and come back to live later. He didn't discuss the specific matters of building a house with us from time to time, and his words were full of expectations for the new house.
Because of the kindness of my parents-in-law, a few years ago, I proposed to tear down the old house of my parents-in-law's family and rebuild it at the expense of my parents, so that my parents could have a place to live in their later years. After all, the living quality of the old brick-wood house for more than 30 years is too poor. But my mother-in-law has always disapproved. She said that my two children have a heavy burden and there are many places to spend money, so this matter has been dragged on. Since my father-in-law fell ill, my sister, that is, my mother-in-law, is 80 years old, and several children have paid for the demolition of the old house and the building of a new one. After living in a new house, my elderly and frail aunt is much more energetic than before. As a result, parents are tempted to build a house. My father-in-law thinks that building a new house can make him better and healthier. My mother-in-law is considering building a new house, and my father-in-law can live in the new house and let him leave without regret. The preparatory work has been carried out and the start-up funds have been prepared. It is agreed to start construction after the fifteenth day of the first month. However, after the first month, the matter ran aground again. Because my father-in-law was in poor health, he went to the hospital again. The longer the tumor grows, the more serious it is, and it is impossible to leave the hospital. According to the doctor's judgment, my father-in-law doesn't have much time, just two or three months.
Before and after the Spring Festival, I only stayed at my father-in-law's house for three days, and then I hurried to my hometown in Wuwei. On the second night of the second day, I learned that I was about to leave, and my father-in-law's expression suddenly dimmed, making it difficult to hide my sadness and feel sad. I told Mei Fang to stay at home and not to go back to Shanghai. I'll take care of it myself. At the end of the first month, Mei Fang returned to Shanghai briefly. A few days later, he went back to his hometown before Qingming, accompanied his father, took two treasures and picked new tea. He was exhausted. At this time, the old father-in-law still doesn't know the truth, and he still holds the hope of recovery. He asked the doctor again and again, "Why is my illness always bad?" When can I leave the hospital? "He even complained that the doctor's medical skill was not good enough to cure his illness. He even asked his mother-in-law to change doctors. In the end, the doctor can't help it, and it's not a problem to hide it all the time. One day, my father-in-law asked again, and the doctor said, "It's not easy to talk at home. Let me talk about it! Your illness is incurable! " When' tis once spoken, my mother-in-law and father-in-law burst into tears and couldn't stop for a long time.
Time flies, and it is the end of April in the solar calendar. My father-in-law has been lying on his sickbed for a long time, and it is very difficult to eat. He hangs five bottles of medicine every day to maintain his nutritional needs. Suddenly one day, he said to his mother-in-law and Mei Fang, "I miss Cheng Hua and have something to say to Cheng Hua." After receiving the news, I arranged my business and took the high-speed train to Chizhou on the evening of April 24, just after the heavy rain on the high-speed train. At 9: 30 in Chizhou Central Hospital, I saw my father-in-law in his hospital bed. Compared with the Spring Festival, it has completely changed. People are skinny and terminally ill. As for my mother-in-law, I was so sad that I didn't have a good rest because I waited on my father-in-law. She is dark and haggard, too. In the past two years, my mother-in-law has tried her best to serve her father-in-law, decocting medicine to feed her and taking care of her housework, and she has also seriously overdrawn her body. What's more, she has high blood pressure, lumbar disc herniation and poor health. Fortunately, there are still three children who take turns to accompany her in service, which reduces a lot of burden. After a short meeting, my parents-in-law asked me and Mei Fang Bauer to go back to the guest house to rest first.
At dawn the next day, we came to the hospital early to accompany our parents-in-law. My father-in-law explained to me: first, we should take good care of Erbao; Second, we should build houses. "If dad can recover from this illness, we should build the house; Even if dad can't get well, he will build the house. " Speaking of the latter sentence, my father-in-law choked and wept. I solemnly promised him that we would build the house, please rest assured. My father-in-law was lying in the hospital bed, and I was lying on the couch next to him, so face to face, talking about family life, talking about the past, talking about longing. Time seems to have stopped, and the old father-in-law seems to be not sick, very healthy and everything is as usual. We had a heart-to-heart talk as usual. My father-in-law is in good spirits at this time, but his voice is hoarse and weak. He told me that his back was uncomfortable and asked me to wipe it for him. I sat next to him and rubbed my hand gently over and over again. My hand touched the bone and my back was as thin as paper! A grim and terrible death with blue face and sharp teeth came to this poor, kind, innocent and unprepared old man! Mei Fang asked me privately, "Uncle, when they saw Dad like this, they all cried with him. Why don't you have a tear? " I said, "When I was a child, I experienced where you were going, and my heart had already changed. I can't cry. " In fact, she didn't know that my heart was full of compassion and infinite emotion, but she just couldn't say it.
On the evening of April 25th, I hurried back to Shanghai by high-speed train. In the busy time, suddenly for nearly a month, news kept coming from my hometown: my father-in-law was seriously ill, and the pain was unbearable from time to time, and he had begun to play Demerol. One morning, I suddenly saw my father-in-law come to my bed and told my aunt and brother-in-law that he would leave in three or four days, and this time he came to say goodbye to us. In a trance, I opened my eyes. Where is my father-in-law's shadow? It was a dream. It was May 19. After careful consideration, I told Mei Fang to go home at once. At this time, she had just returned to Shanghai for two days, and was originally dealing with an urgent matter. In the afternoon, she went back, and at the same time, her father-in-law had gone through the discharge formalities and was about to go home. I told Mei Fang that if my father was in poor health, let me know immediately, and I would go to see him for the last time immediately.
A few days after returning home, my father-in-law's illness became more and more serious, and I was dying. One day, my father-in-law suddenly asked, "Where did Cheng Hua go these two days?" Mei Fang replied: "Still in Shanghai." Father-in-law "alas", no longer words. Knowing this, I left my business at eight o'clock in the morning on May 2 1 and immediately left for home. Although I took the high-speed train, I wandered all the way to my father-in-law's house at 5: 30 in the afternoon. I saw my father-in-law lying in a small bed, his limbs straight, his eyes confused, and then he was given oxygen, leaving only one breath. I stepped forward, grabbed the old man's hand and called my mother-in-law's family. Mei Fang and I shouted, "Dad! Dad! " The old father-in-law didn't respond, only a tear flowed out of his eyes. I just stood there, stuck in my heart, staring at my father-in-law. After a while, I suddenly saw my father-in-law take a few breaths in a hurry and then come to an abrupt end. Everyone panicked and called repeatedly. Mei Fang quickly measured his blood pressure, only to see it drop to zero. When my mother-in-law saw this, she gasped hard and knew that he had left. She pulled out the oxygen and couldn't help crying. We have knelt down and cried loudly, but we have been separated from heaven forever. It's 5: 50, and it's only 20 minutes before I get home.
My father-in-law's grief and honor are extremely long. The whole village has come, and relatives and friends from all walks of life have gradually come. We haven't slept for three days in a row, and we don't rest for more than three or four hours every day. The coffin was prepared for my father-in-law's sixtieth birthday, and the wood was cut by him on the mountain. In front of the coffin is a three-story luxury villa with all the facilities. My father-in-law's last wish came true after his death. The pillars on the first floor of the villa read:
The spring scenery in front of the steps is so strong,
The scenery outside is green.
This is completely realistic, the reality is exactly the same, no exaggeration. On both sides of the door on the second floor read:
Sunset, the common face of Xishan,
The water in the East China Sea will never look back.
This is actually a hint. On both sides of the door on the third floor, it says:
Living in Penglai fairy mansion,
Living in the Jasper Palace on the island.
It's already romantic here. In the portrait in front of the villa, my father-in-law looked soft and smiled slightly, as if he had been freed.
My father-in-law lives in the mountains and is still buried here. The morning after my father-in-law died, my brother-in-law and I followed Mr. Feng Shui up the mountain and chose a beautiful city for him. The Feng Shui master went to several places, and finally chose a place with excellent orientation, just beside his mother's grave, only two meters away, slightly lower. It's a hill, with its back to the mountain, and a wide view ahead, facing a ravine in the distance. The villagers then cut down bamboo and wood to clean up weeds, and unexpectedly found three bluegrass plants here. I solemnly took them back and told Mei Fang to plant them in three flowerpots. At noon, bricks, cement and lime all arrived. I carried it up the mountain with the villagers and worked hard all afternoon. On the third day, my father-in-law will go up the mountain. In the early morning, it rained heavily, and it suddenly cleared up after about an hour. It was a beautiful day. After lunch, firecrackers exploded and drums blared. Eight strong men carried their father-in-law's coffin up the hill. We dressed up Dai Xiao and the rest followed. Walking all the way, bowing all the way, firecrackers and smoke all the way. In front of the newly built grave, we prayed for the father-in-law, lit the villa, mingbi and yellow paper, and let his father-in-law rest in peace under the grave.
My father-in-law was a mountain man, born and raised in Sri Lanka, and finally died in Sri Lanka. He hasn't seen much of the world in his life, and he doesn't have any great ambitions. His life is ordinary, just like the soil under his feet and the weeds on the mountain. He is just an honest, diligent and conscientious farmer, doing his duty, but he is the best among farmers, with filial piety and heirloom, and he has made achievements in his life and has not wasted his life. He is the person I will always respect in my heart.
Only this sentence can express my feelings for my father-in-law
? I would like to remember my father-in-law with this article and wish him rest in peace!