I remember someone once said a vivid metaphor: men are the pillars of the family, and women are the feng shui of the family. This sentence clearly illustrates the responsibilities and obligations of men and women in the family. The man is responsible for making money to support his family and is the head of the family. It is a family tradition for women to educate their husbands and children.
Why do men and women get married? Some people say it's to carry on the family line, others say it's fear of loneliness, but these are not true. The purpose of marriage should not be so superficial. I think the purpose of marriage should be for a better life.
If marriage is not for a better life and a happier life, then marriage will become meaningless.
But there are such people in this world who regard marriage as a tool to realize their selfish desires. In their minds, feelings are just unimportant things, and only themselves are the most important.
In order to achieve their goals, they can get married, and for practical purposes, they can also get divorced.
We have all heard of this kind of person more or less. In my heart, the first person who comes to mind is Phoenix Man.
A group of people with ambitions and desires can do whatever it takes to achieve their goals. Of course, not all Phoenix men are like this. After all, there are very few such people.
-02-
What's it like to marry Phoenix Man? There are many people on the Internet who can answer this question.
Some people say that after marrying Phoenix Man, you should put up with his selfishness and vanity, and endure his endless subsidies to family, relatives and friends.
In fact, this is only one aspect. In fact, the most unbearable thing is his neglect and indifference to his wife. Moral kidnapping is their most commonly used "weapon", and the object of moral kidnapping is only his wife and her family.
Reader Xiao Rui once married Phoenix Man blindly, but the love she thought was gradually exposed in her marriage life. Only then did she understand that her marriage was full of self-love from beginning to end, and once she encountered a little change, it would make her marriage fall apart.
Xiao Rui once said to me: I have been married for three years, and I have endured it alone for three years. In these three years, I thought he would change for me, but I was wrong. My tolerance only indulged him. If it doesn't happen, I will still be stubborn. Marriage is never a one-man show, but two people working together for a goal.
It's not too late for Xiao Rui to wake up. Before falling into the mire, she chose to stop loss in time and divorce her husband.
-03-
Xiao Rui and her husband Yu Bin met at a company dinner. It was just in time for the end of the year. The company held a large-scale celebration party, and all departments should participate. Yu Bin was the host of the party.
Yu Bin is tall and handsome, and Xiao Rui also heard that he is very capable and highly valued by leaders. It was also at that time that Xiao Rui began to notice Yu Bin.
Xiao Rui's family environment is good, and both parents are department heads of the company. The whole company knows that her background is hard, so Xiao Rui is very popular in the company.
After that meeting with Paul Yu Pin, Paul Yu Pin seemed to like Xiao Rui, and often found an excuse to chat with her department. I will also ask her out during recess. In the long run, Xiao Rui's impression of Yu Bin is getting better and better.
Young talents like Yu Bin are very popular with women. XiaoRui likes Paul Yu Pin more and more. Yu Bin has a glib tongue and is good at making girls happy, making Xiao Rui run around.
In this way, it didn't take long for two people to determine the relationship. It was still circulating in the company at that time, but Xiao Rui didn't care what others said about her.
-04-
Through a period of understanding, Xiao Rui got to know Yu Bin. His family is poor and his parents are farmers. When the whole family joined forces to send him to college, he was more eager for success than anyone else. Because only success can change the fate of yourself and your family. So he has been working hard since he joined the work.
Xiao Rui didn't dislike him, but appreciated his enterprising spirit. So Xiao Rui spared no effort to help him, and Yu Bin's career gradually improved.
After that, their marriage seemed to come naturally. Xiao Rui's parents asked questions, but they were ignored by Xiao Rui. So they got married.
After marriage, the couple lived in the big house that Xiao Rui bought before marriage, and Xiao Rui bought a car for Yu Bin. Life just goes by day.
One year after marriage, Yu Bin took over the rural parents and said that he wanted them to come and play. Xiao Rui has no problem with this, but only suggested that she should not live with them and help to rent a room. Yu Bin agreed.
After marriage, Yu Bin was not bad for Xiao Rui. Xiao Rui is kind and enthusiastic, informal, and often forgets everything when he is happy. Even Yu Bin's salary, Xiao Rui never thought about it. Let him dominate.
Most of the money was given by Yu Bin to his parents or lent to some relatives and friends in the countryside.
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As time went on, Yu Bin told Xiao Rui after her marriage that she wanted a son to carry on the family line. Xiao Rui thought he liked boys better than girls, but he agreed. Two people have been working hard for this. But after two years of marriage, Xiao Rui's stomach still didn't move.
In-laws have been talking about it, and Yu Bin is also very worried, which has virtually put a lot of pressure on Xiao Rui. So she and Yu Bin went to the hospital for examination.
This exam is irrelevant. Xiao Rui's fallopian tube is narrow, so she may not be pregnant in this life. This incident is undoubtedly a shocking news for the couple.
After coming back from the hospital, Yu Bin always looks pale and doesn't comfort Xiao Rui. Xiao Rui tried to talk to him, but he interrupted him impatiently.
Later, when my in-laws learned about it, they cried and grabbed the territory, saying that Xiao Rui seduced her son to get married because she could not have children. Xiao Rui was furious and scolded her in-laws.
In this way, half a year has passed. Over the past six months, Yu Bin's attitude towards Xiao Rui has become worse and worse. She always says that she is not good, and when she is drunk, she will call her a "hen who doesn't lay eggs". I broke Xiao Rui's heart.
Until that day, Yu Bin told XiaoRui one thing, which made Xiao Rui give up marriage completely.
-06-
That day, Yu Bin and his parents found Xiao Rui and said they wanted to discuss one thing. Xiao Rui was confused, but she sat down and listened to them.
Yu Bin actually said, "Daughter-in-law, you give me 200,000 yuan and I will borrow it."
Xiao Rui didn't understand at the moment, so she asked what a loan was. Yu Bin calmly replied: "It is surrogacy."
Xiao Rui suddenly understood that Yu Bin came up with the idea for his son. She was very reluctant. After all, how can such things be "borrowed"? So I didn't agree.
Unexpectedly, Yu Bin said, "I want to carry on the family line for my family. Your family has just enough money to take out the money for surrogacy. Your money is being used for my family. "
Seeing this man around him has no regard for his feelings and regards himself as a fertility tool. Xiao Rui's heart suddenly became cold. Looking back on her three-year marriage, she found that it was just her wishful thinking. Yu Bin is just a selfish person who has been married for many years and doesn't care about himself. So Xiao Rui thought twice and decided to divorce.
If in marriage, husband and wife do not have the same goal, it is because of some differences and contradictions. Then we can only say that the "foundation" of this marriage is unstable.
If a woman wants to get a happy marriage, she must find a man with the same three views. This is the shortcut to a happy marriage.