Liu Bowen, an important official of the Ming Dynasty, is no stranger to the world. Once, on his way to Beijing for an exam, he asked a woman for water to drink. At that time, he was also biased against her because she deliberately sprinkled chaff into the water. But many years later, when Liu Bowen knew the truth, he lamented that he had great wisdom. Why do women throw chaff into the water? Why does Liu Bowen say that about women?
Through the understanding of Liu Bowen's growing experience, we can know that he was born in poverty and had a hard life since childhood. Although the family conditions are not very good, Liu Bowen hopes to be the top scholar one day and enter the official career, so as to display his ideals and ambitions.
After years of hard work, Liu Bowen decided to take the exam in Beijing. On the way to the exam, Liu Bowen was thirsty because of the hot weather, so he had to knock on a farmer's door, hoping to get water to drink.
When Liu Bowen knocked on a lady's door to show her purpose, the lady welcomed her into the room and brought him a bowl of water. To Liu Bowen's surprise, after the woman soaked the water, she didn't bring it to him directly, but sprinkled a handful of chaff in the water before handing the bowl to Liu Bowen.
Liu Bowen felt a little dissatisfied when she saw this woman's behavior. In his view, this woman's behavior is contempt for herself. Nevertheless, Liu Bowen didn't show any dissatisfaction, just blew off the chaff and drank water slowly. During this time, Liu Bowen was chatting with a woman. The woman learned that Liu Bowen knew geomantic metaphysics, hoping to ask Liu Bowen to help her choose a geomantic treasure.
At this time, Liu Bowen was somewhat reluctant, but he thought that the woman had given him water to drink, and it was not good to refuse directly, so he randomly pointed out a better position for the woman. Although Liu Bowen's attitude was perfunctory, the woman didn't care, but thanked Liu Bowen repeatedly.
After bidding farewell to women, Liu Bowen once again embarked on the road to Beijing to catch the exam. Under the background of that era, anyone with real talent and learning can stand out in the imperial examination by virtue of his own talent, and Liu Bowen is no exception. After the imperial examination, Liu Bowen successfully entered the official career, and at that time he also hoped to make great achievements.
By understanding the officialdom of the Yuan Dynasty at that time, we can find that most of the officials were corrupt, which also made Liu Bowen, an honest official, the object of rejection by other officials. In the end, Liu Bowen resigned angrily and returned to his hometown because he couldn't stand the humiliation from other officials.
In the process of Zhu Yuanzhang's uprising, I happened to hear that Liu Bowen had real talent and learning, so I decided to invite him to my side. After learning about Zhu Yuanzhang's political ideas, Liu Bowen decided that Zhu Yuanzhang was a man worth following. After that, Liu Bowen came to Zhu Yuanzhang's side to help him complete the uprising.
After Liu Bowen came to Zhu Yuanzhang's side, he helped him to solve the dangerous situation many times, which also made Zhu Yuanzhang have great respect for Liu Bowen. After the establishment of the Ming Dynasty, Liu Bowen was named the most sincere man, and continued to assist Zhu Yuanzhang to create a prosperous era, bringing a brighter future to the country's development and people's lives.
But in the following days, due to Zhu Yuanzhang's paranoia, many founding heroes were killed. In order to save his own life, Liu Bowen resigned and asked Zhu Yuanzhang to approve his retirement. In the end, Zhu Yuanzhang agreed to Liu Bowen's decision, which also saved Liu Bowen from being killed.
In the process of returning home, Liu Bowen met a woman who scattered chaff into the water in her early years. Unlike the shabby cottage where the woman lived, she now lives in a luxurious manor. Seeing this, Liu Bowen decided to come to the manor to find out.
When I met a woman in Liu Bowen, I recognized her at a glance. When the woman saw Liu Bowen's arrival, she thanked him and told Liu Bowen that it was because of Liu Bowen's "land of geomantic omen" that the whole family could live such a happy life.
Later, in the process of communication, Liu Bowen asked the woman why she threw chaff into the water. The woman said that the reason why she threw chaff into the water was not that she looked down on Liu Bowen, but that it was too hot and Liu Bowen's body was soaked with sweat. If she drinks the cold water in the bowl directly, it will probably do harm to her health. But if chaff is sprinkled on the bowl, Liu Bowen can slowly drink up the water in the bowl.
Liu Bowen felt guilty after learning the truth. After all, he has misunderstood this woman's real intention for years. At this time, Liu Bowen secretly sighed with emotion: What a wise woman! From the rich life of the female family today, it can be seen that the whole family can live such a happy life because of the great wisdom of women.
It can be seen that there is a reason why people can't judge a book by its cover. In the process of our contact with others, we must not judge what we have done on the surface, otherwise we will have a wrong cognition and miss many precious opportunities.
In modern society, with the influence of such historical lessons, people can treat interpersonal relationships more cautiously and rationally.
I believe that in the future society, people will also treat interpersonal communication with a rational attitude and feel the true connotation of each other with their own rigorous attitude.
References:
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