In China, there are many established requirements, some of which are for pregnant women in the second month. It is said that a person who has just given birth to a baby before the full moon will bring bad luck and disaster to others if he visits relatives in other people's homes. Therefore, many people are very resistant to pregnant women going home to visit relatives.
Everyone is very cautious about interpersonal relationships, and it is even harder to refuse if relatives are involved. But it's also a big deal for relatives to come to your house for confinement. When you come to your home, you should take care of them. If you don't take good care of them, you will be accused and thankless, and you must refuse.
It's not good to keep relatives in your house.
1, don't be a bad person. Blind kindness sometimes harms the interests of many people and eventually destroys relationships.
2, sensible relatives will not sit in other people's homes at all.
There are many taboos in confinement, especially in rural areas. For a simple example, pregnant women in Hubei are not allowed to go to other people's homes, saying that they are unlucky and so on. Although there are some feudal ideas, these taboos cannot protect your in-laws and other family members.
Relatives do have difficulties and can provide some financial help. Maybe more helpful to others than the bad guys.
Relatives are confined to my house.
Not suitable, there are folk customs, and children can only be kept in their own homes. If they are locked in other people's homes, it will bring bad luck to other people's homes, because women's confinement is bloody and filthy. This is a new society. Everyone lives in commercial housing, and some people go back to their parents' home for confinement, as long as their parents agree. If you live in the countryside, if a married woman goes back to her mother's house to have a confinement, the village head and villagers will come forward to drive people out, because this will bring bad luck to the whole village. Folk married women can't go back to their parents' homes for the New Year. They must stay outside the hotel on the evening of the 30th and return to their parents' home again and again at the beginning of the year. This is a folk custom.
Let's not talk about the outdated concept for the time being, and we can't just go out from the perspective of scientific research. Being a confinement is the time for pregnant mothers to raise their bodies, and they can't walk around casually. In the past, I couldn't get out of bed casually, let alone visit relatives! Now that the standard has been raised, some mothers will visit a building with hot pot when they are bored, but it is not necessarily safe. Therefore, pregnant mothers should honestly keep their bodies at home.
What if I don't want my relatives to come to my house for confinement?
1. If it is because there is no one at home to take care of her for a month, then suggest that she hire someone. Introduce experienced Yue Yue to take care of her.
2. If her home environment is not suitable for confinement, help her find a confinement center.
3. If you don't want to go to the Confucius Center because your family is temporarily short of money, so you don't want to invite Yueyue to the Confucius Center, then lend her money.