Be brave, resolute and loyal to the walker.
Only in this way can we have morality, make contributions and make a difference.
Yan jiaxun
Jeff visited the company yesterday and came home very late. He sent the original text in a hurry and got up early today to finish the work.
When I read the original last night, I thought many friends were unhappy, but Jeff was happy. A thousand words, even five or six friends asked Jeff to respond. They can't understand. This is a classic, and everyone basically gets it for free. In fact, Jeff knows that Yan's family instructions have begun to enter the second volume, and the content will be more and more, and the truth will be more and more used. Jeff's interpretation work is naturally getting more and more difficult.
Since Jeff has made an oath, he will stick to it. One at a time, one at a time. Only through hard work, can you master the meaning of Yan Old Master Q, even if leaks may occur. Interpretation only represents Jeff's personal level. Chew it yourself if you can.
Let's get down to business:
The wind drill mainly warned Ercao how to maintain the family integrity of the gentry doctors. There were many things to explain one by one, but 26 paragraphs were written and dozens of examples were used. There is only one fact:
Jie Cao is the foreign minister of all gentry family studies. If you study well at home, your homework is naturally good, and your homework is gone, what should you do with your homework? !
In today's China, there are few surviving families in family studies. In order to establish family integrity, Jeff's suggestion is, if you numb yourself, will the members of this family be "involuntarily"? If one or two trees become numb, family moral integrity will be improved, and the establishment of family moral integrity will lay the foundation for the gradual formation of family studies.
At present, even decades ago, when people in China talked about etiquette, they were bound to mention western etiquette. However, Jeff believes that China is a country of etiquette, and other western countries have surpassed China in science and technology at a certain period, but etiquette matters still have to be patriarchal.
At the beginning of Cao Feng's article, he talked about the Book of Rites, such as details of eating, washing hands, serving the elderly, cleaning up filth and so on. There are rules for everything. The reason why the Zhou Dynasty lasted for 800 years was that the Duke of Zhou saluted and ruled the country by courtesy.
In today's society, especially after the rise of the Internet, everyone receives a large area of bad content, only pursuing traffic and click-through rate, the content is what they want, the vulgar content is full of eyes and ears, and the value orientation is extremely chaotic. If you lose the natural etiquette, you may lose your morality.
Jeff agrees that young people have their own attitudes and personalities, but Jeff strongly opposes taking vulgarity as style, vulgarity as fun and rudeness as personality. If you don't cultivate your self-cultivation, how can you keep your family together, let alone manage things?
Jeff's suggestion is to start with small things, be polite first, respect the people around you from the heart, and gradually establish your own style.
In Yan's era, taboo is extremely important, and it is a big event, but words are also taboo.
Verbal taboos reflect a person's cultivation. Now the taboo things are not very particular, but we should keep them in mind.
Family and friends, in the workplace and in the officialdom, should pay more attention to this and not relax.
We still can't call our elders by their first names;
We should still avoid mentioning the names of friends and elders.
We should also pay attention to the names of our predecessors in the workplace. Unfamiliar nature is a title. Colleagues at the same level should also respect nicknames that cannot be called, and subordinates should not always call them "little * *".
For people in officialdom, we should pay more attention to it, and we must pay attention to taboos. Jeff has also dabbled in officialdom, and one of these things is free. Let Jeff start another story.
Here, Yan also reminds you that the name should not be sloppy, and the name may be followed for a lifetime!
Nowadays, many parents are not very responsible for naming things. There are also four words and five characters, and there are also uncommon words. Now it seems that cats and dogs are extinct, but too many of them are directly moved from TV dramas, and it is extremely inappropriate to apply personal cynicism to the next generation. Regarding naming, Jeff's view is that it is still a beautiful meaning and family inheritance, and catchy is enough. Skip the naming of Mr. Feng Shui first. Educated people should be elegant, ordinary people should be approachable, hehe.
Sincerity is the most important gift for hospitality, and hospitality should be consistent.
Honesty means sincerity and consistency. Jeff's understanding is that from beginning to end, from top to bottom, there must be consistent standards, not too casual.
Honesty means being polite, being polite, being polite, being sincere to others, and turning sincerity into sincerity.
The principle of consistency is: you should have the principle of being sincere to others, which is the same for everyone. Only sincerity can make friends with others.
Be consistent in hospitality and making friends, and don't change your attitude because of personal status and changes in friends and guests, so as to be "neither humble nor humble" from beginning to end.
Another meaning is that we should be strict with ourselves, so should our families and children, and the people around us should be restrained and honest. Only in this way can we be consistent!
Yan warned Ercao that when chatting, he must talk about his family background carefully, and even more, he should not abandon clan etiquette and talk about family affairs regardless of seniority.
Why can't you talk about your family background? Yan talked about this from the perspective of taboo. In fact, when talking face to face, it is difficult to keep your mouth shut and forget to avoid it if you are not careful. Both sides may have bubbles in their mouths, and they are embarrassed without paying attention. When the other party mentions the anonymity of another person's elder, this party will be moved or even cry immediately, and the mentioned party must apologize immediately, and so on! What an embarrassing chat scene!
In addition, don't talk about your family background when chatting together. I hope Ercao people really have a family background to talk about or write letters to. Jeff feels the same way. As long as you figure it out and write it on paper, you won't make mistakes and you can reduce the risk by more than 90%!
Moreover, the style of writing is outspoken, and it cannot be avoided in the text, which is acceptable to the society. The other party is no better than crying in taboo cases, and everyone is more relaxed.
Yan also made a detailed description of the appellation in the family, adding "respect" to the appellation of grandparents, and "xian" to the appellation of uncles and aunts, saying that a subordinate brother can only be called a subordinate brother, and a consanguineous brother can only be called a consanguineous brother, which is out of order. Clan etiquette can not be abolished, and national talents may have a core, which can unite strength and develop inheritance.
According to the present society, only children are all over the world, only cousins, but they are all called brothers. Because of reality, Jeff thinks it can only be accepted. Of course, here, Jeff is still repeating the same old tune, and the family that has been passed down to this day must be prosperous. Now that the two children are released, it is necessary to have two children if conditions permit, which is conducive to family inheritance.
In Yan era, he attached great importance to funeral. If there is a funeral, he must pay his respects within three days. If he doesn't go in three days, he will cut off contact after the funeral.
If the journey is far away and you can't arrive in three days, friends and relatives will write to greet you!
For the owner of the funeral, it also attaches great importance to the funeral, and everything has statutes!
In ancient times, things died like things happened!
Treat death as if it were still alive, what should be done before death and what should be done after death!
Don't waste it on tombs and etiquette!
Nowadays, society advocates frugality in mourning, but Jeff thinks that etiquette can't be simplified. He dare not!
Jeff remembers that on his son's first birthday, he played catch games for a week, such as pens, money and eggs. Let a one-year-old choose one. At that time, Jeff just thought it was interesting and didn't research where and when it came from. Today, I read Yan's family instructions and found that there were new customs and habits 1500 years ago.
Teacher Yan Zhitui also made it clear that he hopes to make the child's growth process interesting for several years, and the child will gradually grow up in this environment. It is commemorated every year. Up to now, I have only seen Yan mention her birthday. Children have birthdays and children are the future of the family. /kloc-started education at the age of 0, leaving a deep impression on my family!
Jeff thinks that children's birthdays are really lacking today, that is, to meet their needs, buy various electronic toys, go out to the hotel to order a table of rice, then learn from western imports, eat a cake and sing Happy Birthday to you. It's the same before and after
You can explore the classic traditions of birthdays and make the customs more interesting and meaningful.
Only when it is interesting, children will not reject the study of family style and family training, and it is possible to participate in the inheritance of family training!
Family destinies are connected, not which one can prosper and which one can be immune to it.
Take A Dream of Red Mansions as an example. Guo Rongfu and Ning Guofu seem to be two independent systems, but they are not. All glory, all loss!
When Ning Guofu was in trouble, Guo Rongfu still had a schadenfreude mentality. Jia Zheng still knows something, and he will stop here.
After Ning Guofu, Guo Rongfu followed closely. If the disaster comes again, no one will discuss it, and its demise is inevitable.
Jia Fu in the book and Cao Jia in reality are disillusioned!
The fate of the family lies in the maintenance of * * *, which cannot be enjoyed by one person or borne by one person. Must share, * * * to inherit and carry forward!
If he has time, Jeff will explain how to make arrangements to protect the family's future when the family's fate changes dramatically. This is an important article in family studies, and it is impossible for ordinary people to know it!
If a family wants to prosper and live forever, its brothers must be Qi Xin. However, this is not enough. If conditions permit, we should make friends all over the world and choose like-minded people. Only in this way can we have a just marriage with Jin Lan. This kind of half-brother can discuss major development issues at ordinary times and help each other when encountering difficulties!
Jin Lan brothers sometimes work wonders!
Now it is extremely rare to have brothers and sisters in the family, only a few cousins, and some brothers and sisters pay attention to family inheritance. Therefore, it is the mission of our generation to revitalize family style and family precepts!
Return to the classics with Jeff, explore the value from the classics and combine with reality. Jeff believes you can make a difference! If you numb yourself, you can "save yourself"!
Break through the class and solidify sincerity and calmness.
Read the family brochure with Jeff.
Learn classic family precepts and forge family studies.