This is the character. ?
I feel like another you. ?
What do you mean? ?
Just like you're at your husband's house. ?
Hearing this answer, Wen Wen realized the seriousness of the problem. She confided to me that her personality is not silent and introverted, and her external social activities are mainly lively and cheerful. Only at home, I am a little quiet and introverted, which stems from having a strong husband at home.
Say? Men are in charge and women are in charge? Wenwen's family is not like this. Her husband has taken care of everything, and all things in the family are in the hands of men. Wenwen's family status can be imagined.
I thought that this would affect myself at most, and I endured some grievances. Now, after being reminded by others, Wen Wen realizes that his family status directly affects his daughter's character. Seeing that the child was as silent as himself, Wen Wen regretted that he should not lose the right to speak to his family.
After listening to Wen Wen's story, I sighed and thought that this would affect the child's personality. If it is not corrected, it will also affect the child's future marriage choice, even if it is difficult to be happy all his life. There is a simple reason. Let's have a look.
The influence of women's low family status
I said a long time ago that the burden on women's shoulders is much heavier than that on men's shoulders in China's family's parenting task, which means that all the ideas accepted by children come from Ma Bao.
Once the main caregiver is in a low position in the family, it may bring negative information to the child. Among them, adopting children is slightly different, and the problems are very serious.
There is a son at home.
Lack of respect for women
I have seen a Japanese drama earlier, which tells the story of a mother who left home after being treated coldly by her son. The most unforgettable scene is that my son didn't know how to respect the opposite sex since he was a child, bossed around his female classmates, was very unpopular, and was finally bullied by the class collectively.
On the surface, all this is the son's retribution, but the root cause is the mother's low status in the family, and neither husband nor son has the slightest respect for her. This leads to the impression that women can point at their sons at will, so that they lack respect for the opposite sex when they go to school. This led to a collective tragedy.
Therefore, if children want to grow up healthily, women should pay attention to self-esteem and self-love when getting along with their husbands, and don't be looked down upon by children.
Insecure.
This is easy to understand. In a family, the mother is a safe haven for children. If a woman's family status is low, the children will be in the anxiety that the safe haven may collapse at any time. In the end, he will either become an indifferent person or be as silent and introverted as Wen Wen and full of anxiety about the outside world.
There is a daughter at home.
Habitually please others.
From the perspective of child psychology, the mother is the object that the daughter yearns for since childhood. As a woman who first appeared in children's life, Ma Bao's words and deeds will become the object of children's imitation.
Bao Ma with low family status is always trying to please her husband and mother-in-law. In the eyes of her daughter, this is a basic means of survival reserved for survival. Therefore, influenced by Ma Bao, her daughter will imitate Ma Bao's behavior and begin to please others.
Unfortunately, what my daughter doesn't know is that flattery hurts people in society and affects their happiness all their lives.
Refuse to get married.
This is easier to understand. When the daughter sees more of Ma Bao's contribution to the family, she will not only be silent in character, but also secretly care about it in her heart, thinking that marriage is not good for women, thus becoming exclusive to marriage and even lonely for life.
Therefore, Ma Bao's family status is very important, which means that she can establish a positive marriage image for her daughter. If Ma Bao has no place in the family, the daughter will think that her future marriage will be the same.
How should women improve their family status?
(1) Grasp the financial power at home.
Many women give up their family's economic power out of a carefree mind. It's okay to meet a reliable man, but if not, they will lack confidence in the future.
It is suggested that from the moment of marriage, the family's economic power will be in the bag. Even if you don't like financial management, you should get a large deposit. In this way, Ma Bao's voice at home will rise.
2 improve self-worth.
After getting married and having children, many treasure mothers mistakenly think that everything is fine, and even stay at home as full-time mothers with satisfaction. As we all know, China's current laws do not allow women to become full-time mothers. If they stay in a safe area, they will lose the initiative.
If you want to improve your family status, you must first improve your personal value, and it is best to return to the workplace. With more people in contact with Ma Bao, her vision and pattern will naturally come up, and her right to speak at home will become higher and higher.