Poor people don't ask their parents for help. Although the daughter was splashed with water after marriage, the married people, parents and brothers are the closest relatives after all. Why can't a person turn to her family for help when she encounters difficulties and poverty? There are two main reasons:
First, my sister-in-law is dissatisfied. Earlier, the average family would not have only one child, so the daughter got married, but there would still be brothers in the family. After marriage, the fraternity would live with their parents. So when a woman gets married, because her family is poor, she goes to her mother's house for help. Her parents are certainly willing to help her daughter, and her brothers will be willing to help her once for the sake of brotherhood, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is different. Originally, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was a difficult problem for every household. If parents help their daughters again and again, it will inevitably arouse the dissatisfaction of their sons and daughters-in-law, thus deepening family conflicts. Therefore, it is said that when they are poor, they should not ask their mother's house for help unless.
Second, being laughed at by family members. The poor couple are still sad. In the face of reality, sometimes even blood relatives may gradually alienate. Su Qin failed in his early years. When he got home, his sister-in-law didn't even talk to him even though his parents were kind to him. Later, after Su Qin took charge of the six countries, this imagination disappeared. Even so, it is better to treat your son than your daughter. As the saying goes, "the water spilled by the married daughter", many people think that the married daughter is not a family, so how can they help each other? Moreover, a woman's husband has nothing to do and needs the help of his family. Will it not be laughed at by the family, and many parents will take it out on their son-in-law because their daughter's family is poor. Take Fan as an example. When he was poor, he asked his wife to ask his father-in-law for money. As a result, his father-in-law slapped him directly and told his daughter that such a person had said that he could not marry. Therefore, it is prudent to ask your parents for help once or twice, but too much will annoy anyone. Not only will you not get help, but you will also be humiliated.
There are two reasons why the rich can't live in the southeast room. First of all, in ancient times, people thought that "sitting north facing south" was the best location for geomantic omen, so the architectural mode of "sitting north facing south" was adopted from the palace building to the residential building of ordinary people, which led to the difference between the main room and the wing room. The main room is the biggest and brightest house in the north. A wing is a room with three directions, southeast and west. Generally speaking, it is the place where guests or servants live at home. It can be seen that the southeast room is lower than the first room, so the owner of a rich family will not live in the southeast room.
In addition, the pattern of ancient buildings we mentioned above is to sit facing south, because geographically speaking, China is in the northern hemisphere, and the sun rises and sets in the west, so sitting in a house facing south can get more light in winter, and the house will be warmer. In summer, there will be less light entering the house, and it will be cool inside. Then, the northwest wind will blow in most parts of our country in winter, and the house faces south, which can block the wind from the north to the maximum extent. So living in the main room is the best choice, but the southeast room is different. The East Room has poor lighting in winter, and it is cool in Leng Xia in winter, but it will also have the problem of humidity. Such a living environment is very unfavorable to human health, so rich people will not live in the East Room, and the same is true for the South Room.
Bian Xiao has something to say: As the saying goes, "Nobody asks you if you are poor in downtown, but you have money and distant relatives in the mountains." When you are down and out, not only your friends around you don't want to associate with you, but even your closest relatives will have some bad feelings, such as your mother's family and your husband's family. Everyone has his own life to live, and every family has its own difficulties, so there is no need to care about this situation many times, and there is no need to be bitter. The important thing is to cheer yourself up and create happiness with your own hands. As the saying goes, relying on trees will fall, relying on everyone to walk, nothing is like relying on yourself! what do you think?