When you see a title like: "It will be too late if you don't..." on your mobile phone, and compare it with your own situation, do you feel a lot of helplessness and anxiety?
With the media craze about "young geniuses", various chicken soups and success lectures are becoming popular, do you also want to mature yourself early? But I have little foundation and little effort, and I am miles away from success.
Didn't you expect that this successful person who selects "30 under 30" every year would actually go in the opposite direction and talk about "late bloomers", which is a breath of fresh air in the utilitarian world.
Someone became a CEO at the age of 25, but died at the age of 50. There are also people who don’t become CEO until they are 50 years old and then live to be 90 years old.
Everyone has his own development time zone, and everyone has his own pace in his own time zone. Don't be anxious, don't panic, the world is still uncertain, and you and I are both dark horses.
Jiang Ziya debuted at the age of 80 and assisted King Wen of Zhou to achieve great success. The old man told us: The best may be in the second half of life.
Chu Shijian was released from prison at an early age, started his own business for the second time, and became a billionaire again at the age of 84, creating a business myth. It fully illustrates: Everything that is too late is just the right time.
85 years old, failed 190 times, failed to be elected as an academician, and did not study abroad unless he had a doctorate. Tu Youyou, who won the Nobel Prize for Science for the first time, once again proved: as long as you work hard enough, the worst outcome in life is just a late bloomer. .
Back then, Zhang Ailing shouted that she should become famous as early as possible. How many boys and girls believe it to be the truth. But as they walked, they discovered that their perseverance and determination reserves were insufficient, and they overstretched themselves prematurely, making the rest of their lives bleak.
Shang Zhongyong is a typical example. When parents are eager for success, their children suffer both harm and misfortune: they suffer unspeakably from being pushed out of their talents, and they easily lose themselves in the halo effect given by the media. They think that being a genius means relying on talent to make a living, without having to work hard the day after tomorrow.
It is good to be successful as a teenager, but the human brain only really matures around the age of 25, and there will be some weak parts in the middle. The growth advantages of middle-aged and old people are more, more stable and accumulated.
We must not be "stuck" in terms of age: change the sealed fixed mindset into an open growth mindset, constantly explore your ultimate strengths, and continue to work hard for them, and eventually One day will be a late bloomer.
As I say, "A generous person is a late bloomer." What are you afraid of?
Mo Yan regards late bloomers as late bloomers. He said: "A late bloomer will shine when the time is right and a stage appears for him to show his talents."
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Having said that, those who are extremely eager to succeed but have not yet succeeded can give themselves a comfort: I am a late bloomer.
So, what are the advantages of late bloomers? Can we borrow them and use them?
"Curiosity" is the number one advantage of late bloomers. The stronger a person's curiosity about things, the stronger his enthusiasm, the more motivated he will be to learn, and thus become more curious. It is a normal growth cycle system.
Compassion is the second greatest advantage of late bloomers. This is the ability to put yourself in the shoes of others. People with this advantage can understand the difficulties of others and do their best to help others. In the process of helping others grow, they also grow themselves.
Resilience is the third major advantage of late bloomers. It allows people to better deal with adversity and develop their own adversity quotient. It is quite flexible and allows people to come back stronger after encountering setbacks in life.
Calmness is the fourth advantage of late bloomers. It allows people to be calm when facing big events, motivate themselves through fact analysis, and never give up on themselves. People who can control their emotions are more than half successful, and late bloomers all have this aura.
Insight is the fifth advantage of late bloomers. A person with insight can not only see the essence through the appearance, but also generate novel ideas and sudden genius ideas, innovative The practice follows the creativity in your mind and will become reality step by step.
Wisdom is the sixth greatest advantage of late bloomers. When people reach middle age, it is easier to see the overall situation of things clearly and not to act as hands and feet in local areas.
Failure is the mother of success. This wisdom comes from the ups and downs of their lives over the years and will be gradually accumulated as they encounter new challenges throughout their lives. It is the sum total of our knowledge, experience and intuition.
The above six major advantages are difficult for young people to achieve. As they grow older, they will continue to save and take advantage of their advantages. It’s really important to respect everyone’s pace of growth. These advantages cannot be bought with money, but can only be obtained through the accumulation of sun and moon.
A truly wise person will never show off his talents everywhere. Instead, he will keep a low profile and wait for the opportunity. And people who are too ostentatious and sharp-edged often find it difficult to get a good death.
The author shared an example in the book: Geraldine Weiss, a 92-year-old retiree, knows very well the meaning of perseverance. When she was in her 30s, she was responsible for taking care of the children at home. The husband is a naval officer with limited income. Later, she used a late-blooming counterattack to become the most successful female stock investor in history.
In the eyes of many people, the 92-year-old man is already dying, but Geraldine has created a great miracle.
Life is a marathon. Only by establishing a positive self-awareness, overcoming the magic wand of self-doubt, giving full play to your self-efficacy, and finding the soil that suits you for "deep cultivation" can you bid farewell to your past self and rebuild your life. .
As the author said: Most of my achievements did not happen when I set out to prove something, but happened when I was exploring.
Every age has its talent, don’t waste it. When it comes to action, the author gives two suggestions: One is to learn to retreat strategically, that is, to try more, and then know as early as possible what things cannot be done, know the limitations of capabilities, and then decisively withdraw from these things.
Another suggestion is to create a gap period. Set aside some time to try things here and there without any purpose. Try something you’ve wanted to do before but haven’t done before. Whether something is an advantage or a disadvantage actually does not lie in the thing itself, but in whether it can be controlled appropriately. These suggestions may do more harm than good when applied to young people. For older people, it will be easier to control.
I am born with talents that will be useful. What kind of "tool" you are, you should use what kind of faith and perseverance to constantly "cast" it. Even if it is difficult and slow, as long as you are unswervingly working towards it. If you work hard towards your own goals, one day you will be a late bloomer.
Wisdom and perseverance are scarce resources. Even if you are a genius, you should use them with caution. I hope that the "young achievers" will continue to explore their potential, and the "late bloomers" will also be able to unswervingly fulfill their ultimate dreams and missions.