Just read a few paragraphs, and your heart will be solid.
A person's inner wealth and love can give others strength and wisdom, whether before or after death, regardless of time and space.
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Yan Youyun's life is a good story.
She was born in a rich family and became the first batch of girls admitted to Fudan University 1920s, with outstanding talents and great fame in Shanghai.
Father Yan Xinhou upholds the theory that the most enjoyable time in a girl's life is nothing more than the unmarried years, so she has always been extremely fond of her married daughter.
In her girlhood, Yan Youyun never wore a dress twice.
1929, Yan Youyun was 24 years old and married a diplomat, Yang Guanghao.
Compared with her, Yang Guangling's objective conditions are not so superior.
In the old photos of the wedding, the two looked solemn, but the happiness revealed in the gestures could not be completely concealed.
If you really like someone, you will tell every detail before and after the wedding in your memoirs many years later.
It is said that girls who grow up in love are usually arrogant and willful, and are not good at caring about others.
But Yan Youyun's story line is completely different.
Shortly after they got married, Yang Guangling went to work in Europe, and was later stationed in Manila, accompanied by Yan Youyun.
As a woman, she not only plays the role of a diplomat's wife, but also takes care of complicated affairs at home and raises children. She didn't panic at all, but arranged everything in order.
In the old society, a good family was always in a proper position and modest.
The most fascinating chapter in Yan Youyun's story is after the outbreak of the Pacific War.
1942, the Japanese occupied Manila, and seven diplomats, including Yang Guanghao, were killed.
Yan Youyun didn't know the exact news at that time.
When her husband lost contact, she took the wives of other diplomats and relatives and friends who came to see her one after another, and spent three years of hard life together until Japan was defeated and surrendered.
In those three years, the husband's life and death were unknown, the source of income was cut off, and there was no news of his family at home. She has three daughters to take care of and more than 40 people to take care of.
Life is too bitter, and those who are helped by her will also calculate her in turn and seek personal gain.
Such pressure is enough to make any normal person collapse.
However, this lovely girl took everyone to cultivate vegetable fields, feed poultry, make their own necessities such as soy sauce and soap, and support their lives a little. He is never humble or embarrassed.
In her spare time, she will sit at the piano and play a song.
100 years old, she mentioned the past:
"Looking back now, we were really brave. We were younger than most of my grandchildren now-Mrs. Mo and I were both in our thirties, while others were younger. Although we don't know the life and death of our husband, we are also worried about our children, and our fate is completely uncertain, but we face life and go forward bravely. "
This passage in the memoir is thrilling, but it is understated.
It was not until after the war that she learned of Yang Guanghao's death that she first mentioned "crying".
She had a hunch, but she still held out a glimmer of hope. When the dust settled, things changed. The pain of the cone heart has finally spread, and there is no need to maintain a strong posture.
It's only ten years from marrying love to where you will go. Her life has gone through nirvana.
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From 65438 to 0945, Yan Youyun came to new york with three daughters and became a "professional woman" for the first time.
This is not an easy job, it involves all the official etiquette matters of the United Nations, and it must be done well, cumbersome and high-handed.
However, everyone's cultivation is competent. She performed well and was very popular. She worked in the United Nations for 15 years until she retired in 1959.
During this period, she had a new social circle, lived a rich and happy life, and her three daughters grew up and established their own lives.
Another important event of 1959 is the marriage with the legendary diplomat Gu Weijun.
That year, she was fifty-five years old and he was in his seventies.
This marriage lasted for more than 20 years.
Many years later, Gu Weijun summed up his four marriages in his 5 million-word memoir:
Master's order: I was ordered by my parents to marry Zhang Runruo, the original match, and later divorced in the United States because of emotional discord.
Master Gui: Marrying Tang's daughter paved the way for her career. A few years later, Tang died of illness.
Main wealth: Married to Huang Huilan, from a wealthy overseas Chinese family, she obtained great economic security. Both sides have their own needs, but their personalities are incompatible and they have been separated for a long time.
Lord's love: I married Yan Youyun and finally found the love of my life and lived the rest of my life.
The relationship between Yan Youyun and Gu Weijun actually began with his third marriage.
From a secular point of view, this is a somewhat embarrassing state.
Huang Huilan once complained that Gu Weijun would go on a date with a "confidante of the United Nations" every Friday and would not come back until next Tuesday.
To this end, Huang Huilan, who is grumpy, went to Yan Youyun's house to smash and rob, and poured tea for Gu Weijun in front of friends.
However, even children in Huang Huilan prefer to get along with Yan Youyun. Frankly speaking, without Yan Youyun, their father could not be so healthy and happy.
Yan Youyun publicly stated in her memoirs that she and Gu Weijun agreed that once he divorced, she would go through the marriage formalities.
Huang Huilan has been reluctant to give up the title of diplomat's wife. It was not until Gu Weijun retired that she was willing to sign a divorce agreement, ending the marriage that had been separated for many years and existed in name only.
Gu Weijun is a rational and pragmatic person. The first three marriages had a clear purpose, but he had deep feelings for Yan Youyun and had no utility.
Whether a person is good or not can be seen from his face.
Before marrying Yan Youyun, most of Gu Weijun's photos were serious and tense, including a photo with Huang Huilan, which also revealed a rigid feeling. At first glance, they are unsmiling people.
In the photo with Yan Youyun, the facial contour is obviously softer and the eyes are full of smiles.
No matter how rational and calm a person is, he will remember love vividly.
Ordinary men and women only know how to ask for and calculate from each other, but they use love and trust to overcome external obstacles.
Nothing is inherently cold and difficult to express, except that you haven't met the right person.
When her second daughter has appendicitis surgery, he will immediately interrupt the meeting and go to accompany her.
He will give her a straight crystal bear as a birthday present, and when he works abroad, he will write some poor love poems and send them to her all the way.
Their relationship is constantly developing because of love.
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Yan Youyun bluntly said in his memoirs:
"I really like to take pictures of Gu Weijun wholeheartedly, making him healthier, more comfortable and happier. I believe that Wei Jun will live well under my care."
This kind of situation, modern "independent" women probably can't tell.
Take care of your partner unconditionally? It sounds like you are belittling yourself. If the effort is not proportional to the return, wouldn't it be a big loss?
However, no one can really establish a deep connection with his partner while maintaining a certain self-esteem posture.
Maintaining a cold attitude is more due to inner weakness, and it is impossible to truly love, identify with and support yourself, so it is necessary to "get the upper hand" in form. You are always afraid that if you express too much, you will fall into the dust and be despised by the other party.
Love a person, it is natural to pay.
People who can give love also have the ability to receive love.
Only with enough self-confidence and enough energy of love can you give and be willing to give.
And truly quality love will make both sides open their hearts and energy flow freely.
Without love in my heart, I care so much about right and wrong.
Yan Youyun said that every night before going to bed, she would put some drinks and snacks in his room and then turn on the lights in the corridor to remind her. After getting up at three or four o'clock in the evening, Gu Weijun will read a book and eat snacks, and turn off the lights after about an hour. When she wakes up in the middle of the night, she will know that he has used snacks.
When you wake up in the middle of the night, there is always a lamp waiting for you. So much for peace of mind.
Even without direct verbal communication, lovers can create a "password" that only two people can understand.
Where can anyone resist such love?
Therefore, when Gu Weijun summed up the secret of longevity in his later years, he firmly sprinkled a handful of dog food: "Take more walks, eat less snacks and take care of his wife."
They became each other's dependence, confidant, friend, lover and lifelong companion.
Because of her, his life finally has a warm smell of fireworks.
The piano and harp are in harmony.
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Yan Youyun has a famous saying: "Every day is a good day."
Every major event is subtle, and you can also actively create and enjoy it in your daily life.
Yan Youyun's greatest advantage is that he always makes decisions with love as the reference point.
When I go through hardships, I can be lenient with others, even though I know that someone is secretly seeking benefits and money from her.
Both marriages are entered because of love, and both are willing to give their all, so there will be no regrets.
She has a rich heart and knows how everything works in the world and how to simplify things.
The sun and the moon are on the levy, so the old friend is dying, and her life is still full and beautiful.
On September 25th, 2005, Yan Youyun, who had just undergone cancer surgery, danced with her surgeon in high heels at her100th birthday party.
She said to everyone present:
"Don't dwell on the past, spend more time thinking about how to create a better future. In my life, no matter what difficulties I encounter, I always think that someone will lend a helping hand, and it is indeed the case. "
20 17 On May 24th, Yan Youyun died in new york at the age of 1 12.
Love can overcome all obstacles and is the most powerful creativity in the world.
Only by loving and daring to love can we live a full life.
By who? Miss Liu.
Master of Xiamen University.
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