In one's own time, one must have beliefs and goals. The ancients regarded this maxim as a requirement of self-cultivation and a lifelong pursuit and dream, where the heart goes and where the body goes.
Men have men's responsibilities and obligations, and women have their own different missions and responsibilities.
Ancient women were more inclined to? Couple? Times are different now, and women are no longer? Don't go out at the gate, don't go out at the second door? She has a new look, but she is a new age woman with her own pursuit, career and family.
There is a saying: life is like plowing a field, planting a chestnut in spring and harvesting 10,000 seeds in autumn.
Women also need to work hard in their own fields to have a harvest season.
A woman needs to cultivate three fields in her life: family is her responsibility, she is her pursuit, and lover is her partner, both of which are indispensable.
1 Women's first area of responsibility: family
For a woman, the happiest thing is to have a happy family. Not only husbands, but also children and parents.
Family is the source of inner joy and happiness for women.
No matter how glamorous a woman is when she is young, no matter whether she has accumulated wealth through hard work, if she doesn't have children with her in her later years, or even her relationship with her parents is deadlocked all her life, she will feel dull or bored every time she thinks about it.
After watching a TV series, the heroine has been pursuing her favorite lifestyle. In her bones, she thinks that the marriage and childbearing mode of women around her is not suitable for her.
After that, she met the handsome hero by chance. The two hit it off and immediately regarded it as an indispensable partner in life.
They agreed not to have children in this life, as long as they are the happiest two people.
The heroine's parents don't approve of their relationship, and her father's suggestion is simple: this man has no sense of responsibility for his family and will not be happy alone with her.
The more the family objected, the more the heroine decided not to marry, even if she made a clean break with her parents.
At first, there was no family burden, only the two of them were very loving, but as time went on, when she saw all the female friends with children and wanted to have a baby, they failed to get pregnant again and again because of their age?
When she wants to see her parents again, her father has passed away. Do you remember her when she left?
She sobbed and remembered her father's love for her since childhood, but it was too late now.
Worst of all, the man divorced her halfway, saying that their life had no passion and there was no need to continue.
In fact, family is very important to a woman. She not only has the care of her relatives, but also has her own responsibilities. Escape will only lead her to a wooden bridge, and the sooner the road of life is narrower.
As the saying goes, women are the feng shui of a family.
If a woman can fulfill her responsibilities, the family will live in harmony, and a woman's performance will also affect the growth of the next generation.
A good woman will clean up the house and bring the happiness she feels to everyone in the family.
A good woman is the axis of the elderly, husband and children, the spiritual leader of a family and the regulator of the family atmosphere. She determines the tone of a family and influences the family atmosphere in the long river of time.
A woman's second area of responsibility: herself.
No matter what age, women should live for themselves, not lose themselves for others.
A woman should have her own pursuit, hobby or career all her life, and can't just rely on her husband or family, because you will look like live high in the process of rising.
In marriage, women are willing to be housewives, turn a deaf ear to things outside the window, concentrate on the stove and turn around their children and husbands, but their eyes are confused.
The more so, the greater the psychological distance between myself and my husband. From the beginning, the communication between them became less and less, and gradually there was nothing to say. Two people's feelings lit up a red light.
However, you feel wronged. You feel that you have paid so much. Why is it so unfair?
It is because you have lost yourself that two people have no equal value and gradually lose their balance. You don't live for them, but what live high wants. He can't live without you.
3 Women's third area of responsibility: love.
There is a saying: when you are old, only your lover will accompany you.
Yes, when you are old, your parents are gone, your children have grown up and have your own family. It is impossible to accompany you for a lifetime as usual, and only a lover who never gives up will always accompany you.
Two old people, holding each other's hands, really realized that sentence? The most romantic thing is to grow old with you. ?
Therefore, love is an indispensable companion in our life journey. Along the way, some people passed you by, and some people disappeared without saying goodbye. Only the lover can accompany us to the end.
There is a documentary "Fruits of Life" in Japan, which tells about an old couple who lived in the mountains and lived the simplest and happiest life when they were old.
Grandma's eyes are not good, and grandpa has a bigger wooden sign in the garden to remind her to see things; Grandpa likes to grow all kinds of flowers and plants, but grandma goes to the trouble to buy seeds and fertilizers?
The happiest thing in this world is to have someone to grow old with you, do the simplest things together and feel the beauty of this world together.
I wish you a natural and unrestrained life and live up to the beauty of life in the journey of time. When you look back on the past, you will be grateful instead of always regretting. This is the best way to treat yourself, and it is also the meaning of being glad that you have come.