The biggest mistake we make every day is to be too polite to strangers and too hard on people close to us. What a person says and does at home determines the atmosphere of this family. You treat your home as a dump to vent your emotions, and you are very unfriendly to your family. Your family is like an ice house, which makes people feel cold. You regard home as the destination of love, speak kindly to your family, have natural affection and beauty, and live in harmony. Maintaining a stable mood is the best feng shui for a family.
1. Don't let bad emotions hurt the most important people in your life. "As a partner, emotional stability is one of the important qualities, but it is underestimated." Living with people who are emotionally unstable is simply a disaster in life. Having a stable partner is the greatest happiness in marriage. The communication between many couples is 70% emotional and 30% content. If the communication mood is wrong, the content will be distorted, some words will hurt each other, and even physical conflicts will occur.
In this world, the people around you represent the happiness of the family to a great extent. Only when the relationship between husband and wife is harmonious can a family flourish and live a rich life. Your partner is also the most important person to accompany you for the longest time in your life. Be an emotionally stable adult. Don't let your bad mood hurt the most important person in your life.
2. Destroy a child and be furious with him.
An angry man rode a crazy horse. When parents are emotionally unstable and ride this crazy horse, the children are the first to get hurt. "Parents' bad mood is paid by children, which is the biggest tragedy of a family. Your three-point temper with children will cause seven-point harm to children. "The emotional peace of parents is the greatest education for children. Because a happy childhood will cure a lifetime, but an unfortunate childhood needs a lifetime to cure. Parents are emotionally stable, families will be warmer and happier, and children will be better.
Not losing your temper with your parents is the greatest filial piety.
It is instinct to find fault with those close to you, but it is an education to overcome instinct and not find fault with those close to you. Whether a person is educated or not depends on his attitude towards his parents. Some people, as adults, blame their parents for their unhappiness in life and work. I feel that my parents have not created good conditions for themselves and opened the gap with the people around me. A fragment in the TV series "Happy Family" is still heartbreaking to watch. My son Fang Tianyi growled and decided to break up with his father who runs the noodle shop. Just because the father who opened the noodle restaurant failed to help him in his career, he couldn't hold his head in front of his colleagues. "Do you know how many people in the hospital are worse than me? They rely on their parents, and they don't have to be afraid of anything after going out. I also work harder than them. Just because they have a background, I will always be the son of selling noodles in their eyes, so I can only bear it. " Hearing his son's words, the father seemed to be thrown a pot of cold water on his head, and he was instantly speechless and ashamed. Perhaps because of guilt, after hearing his son's complaint, his father squatted on the railing and couldn't help crying. Finally, the father bowed deeply to his son with tears in his eyes: "It's my father's incompetence. I'm sorry." Over half a year old, his temples are gray, and he is wronged like a child at this time. As parents, who doesn't want to provide the best life for their children. Many times, parents have given everything they can, and children still feel that they have got too little. Don't criticize your parents for not paying enough, it's all they have. In life, there are still some people who are very kind to outsiders and go home with their parents' bottomless tolerance. The grievances suffered outside are all on parents, but they are moody and bossy to their parents. Luo Jing, the host, had a conflict with her mother because she was in a bad mood. I didn't expect her mother to leave tears. He was so remorseful that he pressed a note under the table. It says, "Don't be impatient with your parents, but talk well. If you can be patient with strangers and strangers, why can't you be patient with your parents who love you and value your life happiness more than your own? " Your parents owe you nothing, but you owe your parents a lot. Maintaining emotional stability in front of parents and not losing your temper with them is the greatest filial piety for children. Home is the only place in the world where human shortcomings and failures are hidden, and it also contains sweet love. Don't vent your junk feelings and hurt your family mercilessly just because they love us. If families are divided and individuals are successful, what happiness can there be? Only when the family is harmonious can the family prosper.
So leave the best emotions and patience to the people closest to you.