What should I do if I am hurt by others?

1. What should you do if you are hurt by others? What would you do if you stepped on a puddle of dog poop while walking down the street? You must have brushed your shoes quickly to wash away those unclean things, so why do you always keep thinking about them when you are slandered, slandered, or let down by others? These rotten people and rotten things are actually just like shit. If you keep entangled with them, your life will become a mess and make you confused. You will not think about food or drink every day. So if we are hurt, slandered, If they are attacked, what we have to do is not to think about how to defeat them. After all, if you stepped on dog poop, you wouldn't go to the dog to settle the score, right? You should speed up your pace, get out of the current circle, and advance to a more advanced circle full of positive energy. Life is short, stepping on shit is not scary, but getting entangled with shit is scary!

2. What should people do when they are confused? In fact, you only need to do these two things! Collect and release. To close means to stop all unnecessary things. We would rather let go than let ourselves be in a state of confusion. Many times we are confused, not because we have nothing to do, but because what we do is meaningless, and this confusion makes us want to keep doing things to fill every inch of our free time, so we not only Physically and mentally exhausted, and even more anxious. Therefore, the most important thing in this case is to spare time to recover. The simplest way is to go to bed early and get up early to exercise. Letting go means that we open up our horizons, let go of our baggage, try new things, and meet new people. Many times confusion comes from us being trapped in a certain possibility and unable to see other paths. Trying new things is a powerful tool to break confusion. This road is different, and it may be smoother to take another path. When you are confused, "collect" can return your time and energy, and "release" can give you direction and freedom.

3. The best feng shui for a man in the second half of his life will only start when he throws away these three things!

First, throw away your utilitarianism. Zeng Guofan said that wealth, fame and fame are all glories in this world, but only the great kindness and compassion can truly benefit. When we are young, we are always busy with our careers and accumulating connections, so we miss spending time with our families. But our parents will grow old, our children will grow up, and the most important thing when we reach middle age is to make up for the regrets of our youth and return to our families. .

Second, throw away the entanglement with the past. In life, you must have the wisdom not to compete. No matter what happened in the past, it is already in the past. Believe that the best is waiting for you in the future. Instead of dwelling on the past It's better to feel relieved. After all, the ups and downs of life are normal, and the ups and downs of life are also overwhelming.

Third, throw away the trivial matters of your children. After half a lifetime, your children have a certain ability to bear their own lives. Some of our ideas are outdated in their eyes. If we forcefully interfere in their lives, it will only increase troubles and even destroy the relationship between them.

4. What is happiness? People are used to understanding happiness as "having". For example, having a car, a house, money, and power is happiness! But in fact, happiness should be "nothing", no worries, no diseases, no disasters, no worries. Recently, I like a passage that says that there is no luck or happiness in life, only knowledge and dissatisfaction. Having enough food and clothing and no worries is happiness, and being free from illness and disaster is blessing.

5. Who in this world can really save you? Let me tell you a story. Once, Su Dongpo and Foyin were visiting Lingyin Temple in Hangzhou. Su Dongpo saw a string of rosary beads on the hand of Guanyin Bodhisattva in the main hall and thought it was strange. Su Dongpo asked Foyin if everyone in the world was reciting the name of Guanyin Bodhisattva. I hope to get his protection. Why is the Bodhisattva also hanging a string of rosary beads under his hand? Whose name is he chanting? Foyin said that he was also thinking of Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva. Su Dongpo was even more puzzled. Why did Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva think of himself? Foyin explained that it is because he knows better than the world that it is better to ask for help from others than to ask for oneself, and it is better to rely on oneself than to rely on others. If the gods are like this, let alone us ordinary people? Don't expect others to help you solve all your problems. Others also have other people's difficulties. Maybe they can help you for a while, but they can't help you forever! Mountains will fall if you rely on them, and you will run if you rely on people. Smart people do their best, learn skills well, and accumulate food widely. As for confused people, they expect others to consume them. When life is full of ups and downs, they are their own savior.

6. Today I want to talk about a point of view that may subvert many people’s perceptions, that is, money is really not earned. You may make a little money through some methods, but if you want to make a big fortune, just It is difficult to do it by making money. Money is not earned, but a gift given back to you after you help others solve their problems. You will get what you sow. Therefore, if you want to get benefits, you must first plant seeds that are beneficial to others. Your purpose in life should not be to make money, but to do good deeds and provide value to others. If you can do this, making money will come naturally. At that time, making money was the result of achieving the goal, a by-product of the goal. This is what Mr. Wang Yangming said, there is no external things in the heart, knowledge and action are unified, and if you sow seeds in your heart, you will surely bear fruit.

7. There are ten enlightenments in life. Once you understand them thoroughly, you can throw away all your worries.

The first realization in life is that gathering and dispersing are not up to one's will. Gains and losses are destined by God. There are times in life that must be there. There is no time in life. Don't force it. Let nature take its course, and everything you want will come.

The second realization in life is that if you don’t take care of troubles every day, they will disappear naturally. The more you care about them, the more painful they will be; the greater your tolerance, the happier you will be? If you relax your mind, big things will become smaller. If you take things lightly, your worries will disappear.

The third realization in life is that coming is not what we think, going is not what we want, we are born as human beings. Since you can't decide life or death, enjoy the process and live in the moment.

The fourth realization of life is that peace and health are wealth, and being free from disasters is happiness. Don’t take money too seriously. It’s all empty after people leave. Living in health is a blessing, and living in peace is a blessing. Just success.

The fifth lesson in life is that people who love to take advantage will eventually suffer big losses, and people who are willing to suffer losses will eventually benefit. People who can suffer losses are popular and have many opportunities. So suffering a loss is a blessing, don’t be greedy as a human being.

The sixth realization in life is that character is always greater than ability, conscience is always more valuable than gold, good character means everything is good, conscience will always accompany you with blessings.

The seventh realization in life is that not talking is a kind of wisdom, not fighting is a kind of practice, silence is a manifestation of maturity, and not fighting is a proof of generosity.

The eighth lesson in life is that everything you meet has a reason. No matter who you meet, you should be kind to them. If we don't owe each other the causes of the past life and the consequences of the future, how can we meet each other?

The ninth lesson in life is, don’t care too much about everything, don’t be too greedy in life. Only when you are content can you have no worries, only by being simple can you be happy, can you let go and be relaxed, and only by letting go can you be comfortable.

The tenth lesson in life is that you only have one life, and you have only one life. You are honored to be alive, and you are a winner if you are still alive. Don’t be more or less rich, just be free from illness and pain; don’t be poorer than rich, just be happy every day.

8. When I read Chapter 44 of Laozi’s Tao Te Ching, it was like an electric shock. During the epidemic, I have been reflecting on the question, what is the purpose of living in this life? It seems that the answer is available in an instant. I found that I have understood everything about human beings now and in the past. Please like and save it first. I will share with you the name and body, personal life and goods, gain and death, and disease. I We are asking, which one is lighter, our reputation or our health, which one is more important, life or property, which one is more harmful, gain or death?

At this time, a picture emerged in my mind. The 56-year-old Steve Jobs was lying on the hospital bed and said to me on his deathbed that I had successfully reached the top of the business world. In the eyes of others, I was incomparable. People can reach it, and I am their role model, but apart from work, I don’t think I am happy. Wealth is just a way of life that I am accustomed to. At this moment, I am lying on the hospital bed looking back on my life. The career and wealth that I was once proud of seem so pale and meaningless in the face of imminent death. You can hire someone to drive for you. People make money for you, but you can't hire people to get sick for you. You can get your lost material back, but you can never get it back if you lose your life. When I was pushed into the operating room, I discovered that there was a book on health and life. , I haven’t finished reading it yet. No matter how we are living now, we will all face the day when it comes to an end. Therefore, I say that if you love too much, you will spend a lot and hide a lot, and you will forget deeply. Excessive love for fame and wealth will definitely consume you even more. If you accumulate more money, you will definitely pay a greater price. In fact, no matter what you do in your life, it is the same. Whether you drive a car worth 100,000 yuan or a car worth 1 million yuan, the end point is the same.

No matter how much you drink, it will be the same when you are drunk. No matter you live in a house of tens of square meters or hundreds of square meters, it will be the same in the end. One day you will know, A person's true inner happiness never comes from external material things. No matter whether you are flying first class or economy class, if something happens to the plane, your wealth cannot stop you from falling. Therefore, being content with one's needs will last a long time. , so if you are content and happy, you will not be humiliated. Only by knowing how to stop in moderation can you maintain long-term health and happiness. On the contrary, excessive pursuit of fame and gain will inevitably lead to ruin. Therefore, I hope you will realize early that when you are still When you have parents, partners, friends, brothers and sisters, you can chat, laugh and sing happily with them, because that is the real happiness. Remember, don’t always teach your children to write homework and take exams.

9. Today I will teach you how to extract video copy in five seconds and say goodbye to hand-written copy. Do you often save the copy when you see some videos with exciting content so that we can learn to use it in the future? , then the traditional method is to copy word by word, but this is too inefficient. Today, Brother Fei will share with you a method that can be done in a few seconds. First, click the arrow at the bottom right of the video and click Copy Link , then open the Qingdao APP and click Copy Extraction, paste the link you just copied here, click one button to extract the copy, and then extract the copy. Is it very simple? The key is that it is free. Then, we can extract it. Copy the copy and paste it into the memo on our mobile phones so that we can modify and learn to use it later. Have you learned it?

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11. What can you gain from being competitive in front of your family?

You won your parents, you won, what did you win? The tears that parents shed when they turn around.

You win over your brothers and sisters. When you win, everyone stops talking. What you win is that your brothers and sisters are no longer close to you, and your close sisters are no longer close to you, isn’t it?

You win your child, and you show off your power in front of your child. You win. When you win, your children go home and close their own doors. From then on, there is a generation gap with you.

You can win your lover, your lover will stop talking, your lover will be silent, do you know what you have won? The pace of winning the lover's return home is getting heavier and heavier, and the winning lover is becoming less and less willing to return to this home because he has no sense of happiness in this home. Because he doesn't feel comfortable coming back to this home. Human life is always about pursuing happiness and avoiding pain.

Why would he come when this family cannot have happiness? Why would he come back when he could be happy outside?