What will happen if a woman is too strong?
What will happen if a woman is too strong? From ancient times to the present, families have been dominated by strong men and weak women. However, with the changes of the times, women If you are stronger than a man, what will such a married life be like? Let me take a look at the relevant information about what happens if a woman is too strong. What will happen if a woman is too strong? 1
01. I wonder if you have ever thought about what a person who is too strong at home relies on?
I think it was just relying on her family's love and tolerance for her that was the main reason why she pressed on and pushed further. Although one's own personality is one aspect, it is often based on others.
Or, because she is young and financially independent, she feels that she does not need to rely on anyone.
So he becomes unscrupulous and does whatever he wants without any scruples. To put it bluntly, he is too conceited and takes himself too seriously, which results in him always appearing to be condescending.
Yes, you are young, financially independent, and live an independent life. You have your own friends and colleagues, so you don’t worry about upsetting your family.
But you have to know that when you reach a certain age, you will slowly withdraw from the big stage in front of you. At that time, the only person who can accompany you is your lover.
When you are young, once you have chilled your lover's heart, when you are old, you can only endure your lover's cold attitude.
Later, it was truly a small world between two people. When your lover is not even close to you, the loneliness you feel will slowly engulf you.
Youth is used to accumulate feelings, learn to leave yourself a way out, and you will have warm days when you are old.
My neighbor, Mrs. Liu, heard from her family that she and her husband have been in a cold war for at least ten years. Yes, the Cold War has lasted ten years. I couldn’t believe it at first. How much hatred a husband and wife must have to live apart and ignore each other for ten years!
In the past ten years, although the couple has lived under the same roof, they have lived their own lives.
No one eats the food cooked by the other, no one wears the clothes washed by the other, and each cleans his own room. Even if the other party is sick and hospitalized, in very serious cases, the other party will not go to the hospital to visit and take care of you.
The one who is sick would rather die than let the other person take care of him. The relationship is so tense that there is no room for relaxation.
02. Mrs. Liu’s husband has a good reputation among the neighbors. He is honest, honest, loyal and trustworthy. If anyone has something to do, he will enthusiastically come forward to help.
However, he lived under the control of Mrs. Liu all his life. Not only was Mrs. Liu very strong when she was young, but she is still very strong now. She does not allow anyone to disobey her own will. She thinks that she is the Supreme Emperor and that all decisions she makes are right and others are wrong.
Kazuto makes no sense at all. He is self-centered, and sometimes his aggressive attitude is very scary.
He is even more unreasonable and unforgiving when he throws a tantrum, wishing for others to kneel down and admit his mistakes, and promise to always obey his orders.
My husband has lived a submissive life like this. When he was young, he lived on thin ice without any dignity or self. The purpose of swallowing one's anger is to maintain that family.
When he was nearly 50 years old, he may have given up completely. Her husband was no longer willing to submit to Mrs. Liu, and Mrs. Liu certainly would not bow her head.
With a mother like this, it is not difficult to guess what kind of character a child will have. Mrs. Liu's son has a very weak and introverted personality, and has no independent opinion. The marriage that year was arranged by Mrs. Liu.
I have to say that Mrs. Liu has a good taste and chose a virtuous, quiet and quiet wife for her son. It's just that Mrs. Liu's desire to control was too strong, and she was not satisfied with her daughter-in-law being so sensible. She was eager to establish her authority, so she was picky and deliberately made things difficult for her daughter-in-law.
Even though the daughter-in-law was forced to that extent, she never contradicted Mrs. Liu once. After seeing the situation clearly, she left.
The main thing I want to say later is that after her son remarried, Mrs. Liu thought that the new daughter-in-law was a soft persimmon. As a result, in those years, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were at odds with each other, and the new daughter-in-law insisted on He won the fight against Mrs. Liu.
Even now, although Mrs. Liu is strong, she won’t say much in front of her new daughter-in-law, because she knows very well that her daughter-in-law is more powerful than herself.
In the early years, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was so tense that now there is no contact at all. Even during the holidays, the son cannot be the daughter-in-law's home. The daughter-in-law is unwilling to come and no one dares to speak.
03. Now, Granny Liu is really living alone, and her life in her later years is extremely miserable. She not only ruined her own life, her husband's life, but also her son's life.
It feels like it is destined that the son "inherited" his father's marriage model, continued to endure his wife's dominance, and lived a dark life. The son's weakness is much more serious than that of his father.
Psychologist and author Susan Forward said:
“A toxic family system is like a car accident on the highway, its harmful effects are passed down from generation to generation. This system was not invented by your parents, but a set of gradually accumulated feelings, rules, communication, and concepts inherited from your ancestors. ”
Remind women not to be too strong when they are young. Otherwise, your old age will be miserable!
Once you are too strong, it will destroy the balance of the family. In this world, everything operates according to specific laws, which cannot be broken, otherwise it will destroy the feng shui of the family.
A strong woman will often destroy the happiness and blessings of three generations above and below.
Human emotions and thoughts are uncontrollable and cannot be controlled. Otherwise, it would be equivalent to depriving a person of his right to be a human being. Such behavior is quite cruel and ruthless.
As the hostess of a family, your character directly affects the temperature of the family and determines the future of your child. The subtle influence is the development of your child's character.
Don’t think that you are very powerful. A truly powerful and powerful person is tough, kind, calm and calm, and is never aggressive.
Beethoven also said: "Besides kindness, I do not admit that there are other signs of superiority in the world."
The last thing I want to say is that strength will only make people swallow it, and it will never win. Without the true recognition of others, the respect others have for you will only come from your inner qualities, kindness and tolerance, and persuading others with virtue! What will happen if a woman is too strong? 2
The first point: There is no warmth at home. Some men have no status at home at all, and even work hard and are beaten and scolded. As soon as their wives raise their hands, they are so frightened that they think they are going to hit them. Everything depends on their wives' faces, even in front of outsiders. She doesn't give her husband face at all, and treats everything he says as nothing. This kind of woman is more domineering and powerful. If anyone stands up and says something bad about her, she will immediately get angry and refute you several times. If her husband does something wrong, That's even more extraordinary. It has to be mentioned for several days, so can such a family be warm? Can the relationship between husband and wife be good? The husband endures it all alone.
The second point: interfering with the son’s marriage. It’s okay for her husband to endure this kind of woman for the rest of his life. After his son gets married, he still wants to disturb other people’s families. He has to intervene in everything by himself. Even if his son wants to buy something at home, he has to ask about it. If she doesn’t agree, she will buy it. , then you have to get angry and even scold your daughter-in-law for spending money indiscriminately. Life is for young couples. A woman in this situation is not only strong, but also a bit arrogant. If this goes on for a long time, it will also affect her son's character. Gradually, her son will become weak and afraid to speak. He has to ask his mother's opinion on everything and loses his own opinion.
The third point: You cannot enjoy your old age in peace. No one wants to stay with such a woman when she gets old. Everyone wants to stay away. Who likes such a strong person? So as a woman, it’s better not to be too strong. You should be independent and assertive, but you should also be gentle, considerate as a wife, and tolerant and understanding as a mother. What do you think?