Why can’t a married daughter go back to her parents’ home to celebrate the New Year? The old farmer told the truth.
1. The water thrown by the married daughter
After the daughter gets married, although she still has the family name, she is no longer a member of the family. People in rural areas say: The water thrown by the married daughter. That is to say, after a daughter gets married, she must follow her husband instead of her father. The idea of ??favoring boys over girls is still very serious among the older generation in rural areas. For the older generation, sons belong to their own family, and daughters belong to other people's families. This is also the reason why many girls feel angry at their husband's family after getting married and dare not go back to their parents' home to complain.
2. It will damage the feng shui of your home
The Chinese New Year is the biggest festival of the year for the Chinese. On the 30th and first day of the Lunar New Year, they will invite gods ( The deceased ancestors of one's own family), and when inviting gods, all members of the family must be present. If there are outsiders, the gods will not come back. And the girl who gets married is someone else’s family. Therefore, during the Chinese New Year, you cannot celebrate the New Year at your parents’ home on New Year’s Eve and the first day of the Lunar New Year. Otherwise, it will ruin the feng shui of the family and bring bad luck in the coming year.
3. Destruction of the relationship between the husband’s family
After the daughter gets married, she becomes a member of the husband’s family. During the Chinese New Year, it is important to reunite the whole family, so the daughter should celebrate the New Year at her husband’s house. If a daughter goes back to her parents' home to celebrate the New Year, on the one hand, it is disrespectful to her husband's family, which means that there is a conflict between the daughter and her husband's family. On the other hand, it will also bring bad luck to the husband's family, and the whole family will be unhappy in the coming year. Therefore, after becoming a wife, she has to celebrate the New Year at her husband's house and cannot go back to her parents' house to celebrate the New Year.
There are also these taboos for married daughters to return to their parents’ homes:
1. Avoid returning to their parents’ homes on the first day of the first lunar month
The first day of the first lunar month is the first day of the lunar new year, that is, The first day of the new year. The first day of the Lunar New Year is a happy day for family reunion. According to traditional customs, in many places married daughters are prohibited from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the Lunar New Year. Because in the minds of people in these areas, a married daughter is like thrown water and needs to be reunited with her husband’s family on New Year’s Day. If she returns to her parents’ home on New Year’s Day, it will cause a situation where her husband’s family cannot be reunited. , naturally it is inconvenient to go back to my parents’ home.
2. Avoid going back to your parents’ home on the fifteenth day of the first lunar month
The fifteenth day of the first lunar month is also the first full moon day of the year. There is a fear that the daughter-in-law will not be reunited with her family if she returns to her parents’ home.
So usually we go back to our parents’ home on the second day of the first lunar month and the sixteenth day of the first lunar month. In order to take care of the reunion and celebration of both parties to the marriage. There is a saying in Luyi County that "If you invite your daughter on the sixteenth day of the first lunar month and send her off on the second day of the second lunar month, you will never get sick in your life."