It is my grandfather who has the greatest influence on my moral behavior. My parents went out to work when I was four years old. Leave me at my grandparents' house, I should be regarded as the earliest wave of left-behind children in our place!
In my hometown, there are mountains everywhere, so the altitude is different. People divide the local terrain into three steps. One is near Jinsha River, called Heba.
Go up in turn, and the place around the altitude of 1000 is called Erban Mountain. The altitude above 1500 meters is called Laoshan.
My grandfather's home is near the Jinsha River, and my home is in Erban Mountain. So I grew up in Heba. Our address to elders here is also different from other places. We are called Grandpa Jia Gong, Grandma Jia Po or every household.
I don't know if it's because of the hot climate or something. Heba people have a characteristic, that is, they have a good temper (they get angry easily when they are bad) and speak loudly.
My grandfather's family is typical, so are my grandfather and my mother, their brothers and sisters.
I don't even know grandpa's real name and number now. I only know his name is "zai". From an early age, I only knew that people called him Yang Zaigong.
He was born in a scholar's family. His father, that is, my great grandfather, is a school teacher, and his grandfather says he is a teacher.
He said that the teachers at that time were very strict. When he was young, his great-grandfather asked him to endorse in a private school. Great-grandfather didn't have an attack because he was unfamiliar with his back.
Right at the school gate after school. My great-grandfather said: I am a teacher, teaching other people's children not to study hard all day. How dare you humiliate my skin here?
After beating grandpa up, according to grandpa, he was beaten by more than a dozen sweet potato ditches (we grow dried sweet potatoes there and tamp the soil to dig ditches when it is hot in summer). From then on, grandpa never dared not study hard.
After liberation, my grandfather made a document for a local town for decades. Later, I didn't know whether it was because of the old intellectuals or how to go back to my hometown to farm.
My grandfather has been married twice, and my grandmother is inherited from my grandfather. Grandpa's first grandmother gave birth to four daughters. It is said that one day grandpa went out to fetch water.
Just as he returned to the door, menstruation said, Dad! The queen (mother) fell asleep behind the stove.
As soon as grandpa heard that he threw the bucket, he saw that it was crooked and fell off. Grandpa rushed into the kitchen and found that his former grandmother had passed away.
Two years later, grandpa was introduced to take grandma away. Grandma came with her daughter, my fourth aunt. Then I gave birth to three brothers and sisters, my mother and my little brother.
Grandpa's family education is very strict. The most classic thing is that there are always three golden bamboo strips behind the door of the main room. According to my mother, playing three tones is a rule they have had since childhood.
Grandpa takes everything very seriously. Those three bamboo slips are very particular. The thickest is an old bamboo that has been growing for many years, and it is as thick as the little finger.
Because for a long time, it has basically turned yellow. Is the strongest.
The second one was cut with a big bamboo stick, which is as thick as chopsticks. The third root is a little thicker than wicker.
The thickest one grandpa cut down fresh bamboo and roasted it on a slow fire. Bake until tough, and then press it straight with heavy objects. This is easy to use and strong.
Two skinny grandfathers made them slippery.
He nailed three pairs of wooden clips on the back of the door, and then three bamboos were arranged neatly from big to small.
Grandpa's motto is "A golden hoop makes a good man". Those three notes are for us. When we commit a crime, grandpa will write down a note to punish us according to the seriousness of the matter.
Grandpa is also very particular about hitting people, only spanking, not touching the calf at all.
Generally, the smallest mistake is used. That thing works fastest when it hits the body, and it has red and swollen edges in minutes. There is a saying in our country called "Fried hamstrings with golden bamboo chips."
Every time we enjoy ourselves, we always try not to commit crimes for a few days. Cousin, I am the least beaten among us. Because I am obedient and love learning, Grandpa likes me better. I'm usually an accessory to being beaten and implicated.
My mother said, what are you going to do? Worst of all, the second-class police have not been used. Maybe times have changed, after all, there is still a generation. Grandpa will love us more or less.
Therefore, when Grandpa uses French, he seldom uses a stick thicker than chopsticks. My mother said it when she was young. Because grandpa told me that the eggs in the henhouse were not picked up in time.
Grandpa, they thought it was stolen by a dog. This was very serious in that era when materials were extremely scarce. So my grandfather tortured my mother with a bamboo stick with a thick thumb. There was blood on the calf, and it took more than a month to heal.
Later, I learned the truth. My uncle picked it up early and put it at home. Grandpa also regretted it and never hit my mother again.
Not very strict with others. But grandpa's family style is also famous in our place. The impact is also quite far-reaching.
The year my cousin got married. It is said that my cousin is crazy at my uncle's house because of drinking too much. My mother advised him to go to grandpa's house to rest.
He jumped up and shouted at the roadside, saying, I'm not going!
Ask him why?
He repeated, I'm afraid grandpa will hit me. Everyone couldn't help laughing. An old man next to him said that people in their thirties are afraid that your grandfather will hit you.
Another time, my uncle offended my grandfather, and he picked up the bench to fight. Big JIU had to run away.
When we were young, we had dinner with grandpa, and we also had very strict requirements.
First: Don't make any noise. Two: Don't put chopsticks in the dish bowl and rummage around. Three: Visitors at home should step aside quickly and are not allowed to sit down in front of the guests. Four: Never waste.
A few years ago, I went to my grandfather's house and met my cousin. No matter how naughty they are, they will pick up the rice that fell on the table and eat it.
In life, grandpa is also very strict. Everything should be put where it belongs. Never put it anywhere.
When we were young, our favorite place was shoes. Grandpa cleans the house every morning. When he sees our shoes lying around, he will ask us to collect them and put them away. And warned us that if it is not corrected after three reminders, it will not happen again. Then we will go out and look for our shoes slowly.
Once my cousin's sandals were confiscated in the middle of the room, and my grandfather threw them out of the yard.
When we went looking for it, we found one in the grass. I can't find another one. Later, a head found it hanging on a tree. Before we took it down, we found a bamboo pole.
You won't see anything in the hall in the future. Grandpa is very concerned about our study. But what we learned was completely different from what they learned at that time.
So grandpa always watches us do more homework and talk less. Learn some new words from us occasionally.
Cousin, when we show off our achievements to each other, grandpa will say, "Don't fly on the scale-be conceited".
Sometimes we play and laugh at home, if there are too many. Grandpa said: Look at you; The fox came to earth. We immediately quieted down and ran away.
If we scold others in front of him. He immediately said, "A man doesn't know his ugliness, and a horse doesn't know his face." .
In a word, we always have to behave in front of grandpa.
Grandpa always teaches us not to make trouble outside. If others bully you, sometimes you have to be tolerant and let go. Someone spits on your face and wipes it with their hands. Don't just think about winning or losing for a while.
But don't be afraid when real trouble comes. The more you are afraid of things, the more things will happen.
Now that I think about it, isn't this what the ancients said, "A man is a gentleman and can bend and stretch!"
Grandpa is also a very upright person, and my uncle especially likes to make all kinds of friends. I also know a lot about man-made accidents. Last time I went back, grandpa told me. What he dislikes most about his uncle is that he likes painting water (bribing powerful people).
He also said: Your old man (referring to my father) is not like him. Like me, I have been honest all my life.
Once my aunt's father was hit by a tricycle in the county. Aunt's aunt, they will ask the owner for compensation. Because people are not wrong.
So my aunt and they told us again and again. Never tell grandpa about it. Because grandpa always said: I hate it most in my life; People who eat people and cheat (people who cheat, cheat, turn around and cheat).
Grandpa's family had a hard time before. My little brother will go to the battlefield to load sand for others, earn money to make a living, and come back to farm at night.
Grandpa is over seventy and can't do heavy work. At that time, peanuts were the most planted in the dam, and my grandfather also planted a lot.
I still remember a saying in my hometown, "Mountain people go down the river dam; Turn the peanut shell over. " In other words, peanuts can only be found in dams.
I remember growing two kinds of peanuts at home. One is hand-pulled, which ripens earlier, but the yield is not high. One has a high yield, but it can only be dug with a hoe.
At that time, peanuts were mainly planted with high yield. My uncle has no time to dig, and my aunt can't do anything about the children. Grandma is ill in bed again.
Grandpa dug most of the peanuts by himself. Grandpa gets up early every day to work in the fields. The biggest feature is that liquor will accompany you for at least 300 days, 365 days a year.
He goes to the fields with his special wine bottle every day. He said: If you are tired, sit down and have a rest, and then take a sip of wine, so you won't be so tired.
Although he drinks every day, he seldom gets drunk. The wine is also very good. I only remember that once he went to someone's house as a guest. When he got home, he said that he had drunk two more cups today, and then his grandmother waited on him to sleep.
Every day he goes to dig peanuts in the field, and I will pick him up at dinner time. I made him a cup of tea and brought it over. When I got to the field, I gave my grandpa the tea first. We started packing.
Grandpa dug peanuts very cleanly and carefully. He put the dug peanuts away first and then picked them when he sat down to rest. So all you have to do is take peanuts home.
He also sorted out the cooked ones, and every time I picked him up, he gave me that. When I go home, I always help my grandfather with his glass and hoe. Grandpa walked behind with peanuts on his back. We seldom talk, just walk quietly.
There are many peach trees and apricot trees in my grandfather's house. When the fruit is ripe. If he has nothing to do, he will collect all those stones. Wash it and dry it.
Break them and take out the nuts inside. Those nuts were bought in the street. Grandpa collects nuts every year and my cousin and I help him sell them.
Every time I sell the money, I will help grandpa make a pot of wine. We can also get some benefits from it. At that time, I never saw him reach out and ask his uncle for a little money. The wine he eats every day is accumulated a little by himself.
One summer, my grandmother didn't get sick. One night, my grandfather got up to go to the toilet, and we didn't sleep well. I heard grandpa shouting outside. Let's see the jack-o'-lantern.
We all got up quickly and ran out of the yard. Grandma came later. Grandpa pointed to the opposite mountain and told us to have a look. When we look closely, we will find it really amazing. That kind of fire is blue (we call it Qingbangxia locally). They dispersed for a while and then got together again. We run very fast. At that time, none of us knew chemistry. So they call it a pumpkin lantern.
That night, grandparents took our children to watch quietly, and then grandpa told us something about the jack-o'-lantern in detail.
That night was very beautiful in my childhood, and I haven't forgotten it at all.
My grandfather's image in everyone's mind has always been mostly ancient and fierce.
Everyone is a little afraid of him. Over the past few years, I have thought about grandpa's behaviors and ideas. We think that we are the younger generation to keep up with the trend of the new era. In fact, there are still many places not as good as him.
The first time I consciously paid attention to grandpa's character was when I was seventeen. I am a sophomore in technical secondary school. Everyone knows that middle schools are all eliminated "school scum". No one will study hard. In order to make up for the mistakes in junior high school, I have made unprecedented efforts.
Although I like painting since I was a child, my hometown is really backward. My painting foundation is copied from various books by myself. In order to learn the basics of painting well, I always work hard silently.
After a year, it's worth the money, and my painting foundation and comprehensive strength have been greatly improved. From a mountain child who stood up and talked in class, he was laughed at, and finally became a schoolmaster in the eyes of others.
Teachers like me, too. At that time, I usually went to the studio to paint on my day off, and the teacher was often there. She asked me: Is there anyone with good character in your family? I am puzzled to answer: no!
I talked to my teacher about my childhood. Then the teacher said, that's it. You grew up under the influence of your grandfather. That's when I began to pay attention to my grandfather.
Once I went to see him and chatted with them in the yard. A neighbor talked about a female worker employed by his family.
Because twins are girls. I was rejected by my in-laws when I was still in confinement. One day she went to the kitchen to fry an egg and just put the oil in the pot. Her mother-in-law ran to shovel the oil into the rotten bucket and gave her two spoonfuls of water from the pot. She couldn't do it anymore, so she ran out as a waiter on a full moon.
Grandpa was shocked! There are still such people. He said: At that time, the person in front of my house (ex-wife) also gave birth to four daughters. When the youngest one is born, others will know (others will know). Call my name directly behind my house; Call my family. My parents are angry, too. But I have never seen anyone in my house.
We were told to adopt a boy. I didn't even agree. It's different to have boys and girls!
I was shocked to hear that. Don't say he is an old man, even all my cousins still have the concept of son preference. I wonder if they will blush after listening to grandpa's words?
Sometimes young people talk about Feng Shui or something in front of him. He said I don't believe in these things the most. Look, so many people died in War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression. Which one is dragged well and buried well. Not even a coffin plate. I am afraid of their offspring; How much worse than you.
Grandpa took an eyeball the year before last. I thought it would have a great influence on my health. I didn't expect him to read without glasses even now.
He was seriously ill again last year, and we all thought that he might not live. In this way, it will be better to stay in the hospital for a while.
When I went back to see him during the Spring Festival, he told me: I get up every morning and put my hands on the windowsill to exercise my feet. 200 on the left, on the right ... then I went out for a walk and ate a soybean milk fritter. Come back and read it again.
One morning, I deliberately got up early to serve him. As a result, he was still before me. He was washing his face with cold water when I went.
I was busy trying to stop him. I said: Grandpa; How to wash your face with cold water in winter?
He: Not afraid.
Me: Aren't you cold?
He: Cold and cold. Just rub your hand on your face twice.
My heart aches. It is not good to cry in front of him. I went on to say: how can this be obtained!
He raised his hand and shook it, signaling me to keep quiet.
I brought him a towel and dried his face. I went back to his room to chat.
He said: Your uncle has nothing to say, but your aunt is different. I nodded in response.
He: What should I do now? Eat through your uncle and bring it to the front. The policy has improved in recent years, and I have a retirement salary of several thousand yuan every month. There is nothing to be wronged. Just to give them less trouble.
It suddenly occurred to me that grandpa would be very angry if the food didn't agree with his taste. I didn't expect him to be so patient now.
He also said: You don't know, we also practice cremation here this year (cremation is only popular now because my hometown is really remote). Two old people nearby hanged themselves as soon as they heard it.
Me: Yo! I am so afraid of fire! He smiled and said that this kind of thing scared them to death. Say it! He joked with me that I would try to live him for decades and live to 125 years old.
Me: Nasser; Good (expressing excitement)!
Later, when I thought of grandpa's disappointment, I felt a little helpless. But what can I do? I am just a vulgar person. In order to work and study, I can't stay with my grandfather every day. I can't be a dutiful son and grandson.
But it seems that I am the only one who can take the initiative to accompany him for the New Year. I am ashamed, but I can only do so.
Last time, a friend came to see us and said, why are your boys' rooms tidier than ours? I looked at my room and remembered an incident a few years ago.
At that time, because my uncle's family wanted to decorate the house, I rented it at a relative's house. I went to see my grandfather that day, and the landlord just invited me to dinner.
I helped grandpa from the room to sit outside the hospital. When I came back to get something, I heard an old man asking the landlord's little daughter.
Old man: Who lives in this room?
Landlord's daughter: The old man just now. It is his grandson who helps him.
Old man: Which room has been cleaned for him?
Landlord's daughter: I didn't get any. He cleaned it himself.
Old man: Too old!
I looked at my grandfather's house in my room. The room is small and simple to decorate. But all his things are neat. The books on the cupboard are spotless. Clothes are also sorted and folded, and socks are folded and put in shoe boxes. At that time, my grandmother had been dead for almost ten years.
I think among our younger generation, I am the only one who is most influenced by my grandfather. It is for this reason that I didn't go with the flow because I went to technical secondary school, lamenting that it was not easy for me.
My cousin who grew up with me. Dressed neatly, but the room is still messy. Grandpa said it was horse manure, and the surface was smooth.
I hope that in the future, I can keep my room clean after I am 80 years old. Be more tolerant of people, things and things around you.