Writer Yi Shu has a saying that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people:
"At the age of forty, I was healthy, had a little savings, my husband was considerate, my children were obedient, and I had a job I liked very much. This is success. I don't have to be famous or rich. "
It's true. Halfway through life, I gradually understood:
No amount of wealth can buy a healthy body, and no matter how big a house is, it is better to have a complete family.
At a certain age, losing the heart of fame and wealth, putting aside glitz and having a happy family is the greatest success.
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With a good family style, no matter how poor you are, you can get rich.
As the old saying goes, you can know a thing or two about a person's personality by looking at his family style.
Family style seems invisible, but it affects every child all the time. After polishing from generation to generation, it has become the most stable cornerstone of a family.
Mr. Cai Yuanpei mentioned in "The Cultivation of China People":
"Family, the first school in life. The character of a lifetime, the so-called ever-changing people who are inseparable from their ancestors, probably sprouted in the family. "
Family style is positive, parents will set an example to teach the next generation, and this benign result will be passed on continuously, even if you are poor, you can make a fortune.
There was an event on the internet the other day that was very popular.
In Yixing, Jiangsu, a 2-year-old child broke a glass bottle while playing by the pond in the community, and the glass fragments fell into the pool.
After the child's father learned, he immediately went barefoot into the pool to pick up glass fragments. Although the pool is cleaned regularly, he is still worried that he will cut others.
The most important thing is that he wants to let his son understand through this small detail: he should learn to take responsibility when he meets something, and he can't let it go.
The so-called good family style is probably the power of such an example.
Parents' words and deeds, in fact, are imperceptibly affecting children's three views, personality, self-cultivation, just like a mirror, showing their truest appearance.
Degang Guo once talked about his educational philosophy in a program.
Now, at the age of 47, every time he sees his father, he is still clever and respectful, and there will be no frivolous actions. Even when sitting, he will always remind himself not to cross his legs.
It is because of his teaching and demonstration that his son Guo Qilin is also like this when facing his elders. This is the family atmosphere.
I remember at the end of the program, Degang Guo said, "There are parents in the world who don't love their children, but if you spoil them, outsiders will not get used to it. If you take care of the child, people outside will not talk about him. "
Family style is the foundation of family happiness.
Good family style is not as good as wealth. When the family style is correct, happiness will come. From generation to generation, it lasts forever.
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Family harmony, no matter how difficult it is, will prosper.
What is the temperature at home measured by?
See a short and powerful answer: the relationship between husband and wife.
Cai Kangyong once mentioned a point in the book:
"There is an emotional account between people. Every time you make the other person happy, your deposit will be one more point; Every time you make the other person sad, the deposit will be less. "
If the atmosphere in a family is extremely cold, the "deposit" in this emotional account between husband and wife must have been zero.
Family discord is often more blaming than comforting, quarreling than hugging.
In the variety show "I am an orator", the speaker Kou Naixin told a personal experience.
Once she quarreled with her husband because of some trivial things, and she was about to be defeated. She immediately grabbed her husband's sore spot and replied, "Huang Guolun, what makes you worthy of me? Do you know if you are divorced or second-hand? You don't deserve me at all! "
After she finished this sentence, her husband was silent. After a while, he went to pack and prepare to leave.
Before going out, the husband said, "Naixin, you know, there are some things you can't say."
After that day, Kou Naixin deeply reflected on himself. She suddenly found that language is a sharp weapon to hurt people, even a kind of violence. She may be a domestic abuser.
As the saying goes, home is a place to love, not a place to reason.
Sometimes, when you quarrel with your family, you think you have won, but in fact you have lost everything.
On the contrary, people who are accompanied by their families often have infinite strength to resist difficulties and obstacles.
I can't help thinking of the man who was drunk and crying in the subway station. In order to sign the bill, he stayed with the customer until late at night, and for the sake of life, he collapsed in an instant.
But fortunately, his wife came in a hurry when she heard the news. Even if her husband was in a mess at the moment, she didn't blame him, but hugged him lovingly and said, "It's okay."
In the world of middle-aged people, there are many grievances and patience, and there are also many unavoidable difficulties. Only by going home can they be cured.
Husband and wife understand each other, help each other, have a harmonious family, and there is always sweetness in bitter days.
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The family is safe, and no matter how hard it is, it can be happy.
Writer Zhou once said a very heartfelt sentence: "No matter how old a person is, he will become an orphan if he loses his parents."
After 40 years old, the saddest thing is not that you don't have good living conditions, but that you have everything, but your parents are sick or dead, and you can't enjoy a good life anymore.
"Children want to raise and don't wait for their relatives" has never been an empty talk. Once you lose it, you can understand.
Seen a talk show, which talked about the most unforgettable memories, actor Zhang Qiuge said frankly:
When we were young, we thought that we could get everything by getting wealth;
When you are old, you finally know that family security is a complete happiness.
Good health of parents is a child's greatest wealth. Parents are in good health and children have no worries.
A person's greatest self-confidence is that no matter how hard and tired he is outside, there is always a way out, and this road is the direction of home.
The most profound experience of middle age, perhaps as the author said in the wind:
"When you wake up, you find that after a round of machine gun sweeping on the battlefield of life, the elders of the building that once stood in front of you fell down one by one. You have no choice but to bite the bullet because you are already in the first row of the queue. "
I often go home to take my parents for a walk and talk about the recent situation. As long as they are safe, there is no end to happiness.
Moore has a philosophical saying:
A man travels around the world looking for what he needs. When he comes home, he finds it.
A place with a house is not necessarily a home, but a family together is a complete home.
The partner who will accompany you all your life will still accompany you through daily necessities, from hair to white hair.
The most concerned child in my life, watching him stumble countless times, from juvenile frivolous to mature and steady, is still concerned in my heart.
Give your parents a stable life, so that you will always have the confidence to move forward, from careful parenting to silent waiting, still waiting for you to go home.
In the second half of life, the happiest time is:
The family is sitting together, the lights are amiable, the life is slow and the years are deep.
Click "like", no matter how hard it is, I hope you have a home to go back to and a lover to hug you.
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