Ancient people's views and understanding of marriage are different from ours. The marriage of ancient people is generally the marriage of two families or tribes, paying more attention to the stability of the family and the family, and putting the love between men and women in the second place. Marriage takes a lifetime (which can also be understood as cohabitation), so it is generally the orders of parents, and the words of the matchmaker, people should be invited to get married, especially large families. And some people may not find a matching personality for a while, but they will get married. If there are any bumps and bumps in married life, you will generally endure them (I think there will be problems here, and I will talk about them later). And divorce must have reasonable reasons, such as the woman's seven deadly sins.
Modern people are free to fall in love, with a wide range of social circles and social media, and even some people treat love casually. They want to marry love, think they can find the right person and idealize their marriage. And with the improvement of women's status and relative economic independence, they will pay more attention to themselves. Including some emotional teachers in Weibo who advocate people's views on marriage and love in the new era (even some extreme remarks ... "Female basin friends represent love and care about you." "It's a holiday, why don't men keep it without giving gifts?" . If there are problems in their marriage, some people are thinking about mending it, while others are thinking about divorce, and they have the financial ability. Why should they suffer indignities in their marriage and think they can find something better? These are the products of the new era.
Back in ancient times, despite this view of marriage, divorce was not easy, but one of the reasons for modern people's divorce was an affair. Modern people are monogamous and want their other half to be loyal, so they can't accept extramarital affairs. In ancient times, large families and powerful families could (or had the capital) take concubines. Royal men, in particular, can have concubines first and then marry real princesses (such as Di Fujin). Folk concubines have low status and can even buy and sell gifts. And there are maids in big houses (which will also be reflected in film and television dramas, such as the full moon play in Sun Li that month). So it can be translated into modern people's understanding of premarital love, peach blossom, sexual behavior (generally referring to men), second marriage and third marriage, extramarital affairs, lovers, mistresses, mistresses and so on. For example, a famous heroine of a certain dynasty also experienced many opposite sexes. Only her emotional experience was not called "divorce" in the society at that time.
Earlier, I mentioned an extended problem, that is, some men and women get married in eight characters, which is not ideal, but they can make do. Or even ordinary people may not find a marriage partner, so they will not divorce? My understanding of this problem is that there is a pattern of fate at work. It is impossible for people with high fate patterns to stay with bad people (for a long time). (For example, the combination of Liu and ZhangZetian, those numerologists say that ZhangZetian has a high figure of eight. So two people can be combined after so many years. Their karma and blessings are equal. Just like I can't marry Wang Leehom. )。 Even together, it is also the role of the five elements of magnetic field in the fleeting time. When the time has passed, it will be scattered. For example, the phrase "blessed land lives in blessed land, blessed land lives in blessed land" means that people with great blessings will definitely live in places with good geomantic omen, and there can be no bad geomantic omen, and there will be five elements of magnetic field traction invisibly. Similarly, if the pattern in numerology itself is a bad marriage, then the wife he marries or the man he marries will quarrel, or for some reason, they will separate halfway. If converted into modern marriage and love, it may be reflected in three marriages and four marriages. No matter who he/she marries, it's the same, but the ancient and modern expressions are different. Modern people are unbearable, the pace of life is fast and the society is developed, which is manifested in the form of separation, separation and separation ...
What I said above is my feeling, and I hope I can give you some reference and help.