Everyone living in the countryside knows that every surname in the village has a fixed cemetery belonging to its own family. These cemeteries vary in size, and in them are sleeping our deceased ancestors. Such cemeteries are generally referred to as ancestral graves.
It is the due treatment given by the family that the deceased is buried in the ancestral grave. When a new daughter-in-law is married in the family, the mother-in-law should take the daughter-in-law to visit the ancestral grave. She should point out the grave to the daughter-in-law and introduce who the deceased is and what generation she is. share. If the new daughter-in-law does not worship her ancestors, she is afraid that her ancestors will not accept her after her death and she will be beaten back.
There are many rules for entering ancestral graves. The custom that singles are not allowed to enter ancestral graves also exists in my hometown of Langfang, but my father left there when he was very young. I heard these customs when I returned to my hometown to visit relatives.
Due to the profound concept of the immortal soul of the ancients, they believed that the soul of ancestors could bring blessings to future generations and also bring disaster.
It is recorded in the "Burial Sutra": The accumulated Qi in life is condensed into bones, and left alone after death. Therefore, the Qi is turned back into the bones to be regenerated by the shadow, which means that the deceased radiates the bones to protect him. their offspring.
So in order to maintain the feng shui of ancestral tombs and avoid bringing disaster to future generations, the ancients decided that there were four types of people who were not allowed to enter ancestral tombs after death. Who are they? Let’s talk about them today.
1. Unmarried women cannot be buried in ancestral graves
The ancients said, "Buckwheat is not suitable for food, and a girl cannot raise a mother." This means that a woman will eventually get married and will be a member of her future husband's family. , so they cannot be buried in ancestral graves.
In feudal society, women must abide by the principle of "obeying their father before marriage, obeying their husband after marriage, and obeying their children after their husband's death". It is understandable to obey their parents before marriage, but if you die before getting married, you cannot enter the ancestral grave. It sounds like A bit unsatisfactory.
Affected by feudal ideas, people in society generally believe that a woman’s life-long task is to take care of her husband and raise her children. If she fails to complete such a task, she will inevitably be despised by others, which in turn will be a problem for the family. This kind of reputation damage, many people of the older generation will think that these unmarried women have bad luck. If they are buried in the ancestral graves, it will affect everyone.
2. Single men who have never been married are not allowed to enter the ancestral graves
The ancients emphasized filial piety as the first priority. However, unfilial piety can also be divided into three categories, the most important of which is that there are three types of unfilial piety, and having no offspring is the greatest. Being childless means having no descendants, and these men who died unmarried naturally have no descendants, so they are classified as unfilial people. Unfilial people are not qualified to enter the ancestral graves.
Some places are so strict that even if you are married but have no children, you are not allowed to enter the ancestral graves! In addition to being extremely unfilial in the eyes of their ancestors, such people will also damage the feng shui and arrangement of ancestral graves, because the tomb tablets of a family are regular, and usually people are buried below their parents after death.
3. People who die unexpectedly cannot be buried in ancestral graves
"Death unexpectedly" means death due to an accident, not the end of life. It is generally described as sudden, fast, and unwilling. wait. For example, hanging, hacking, and shooting, no matter how old you are, any "unexpected death" in the eyes of the ancients is a misfortune for the family, and you are not allowed to enter the ancestral graves.
Because people think that people who die in this way will be full of hostility, destroying the peace of their ancestors' graves, causing the same people to appear in future generations with the same fate, which is unlucky.
4. People who died young cannot be buried in ancestral graves
Due to the lack of medical treatment in ancient times, children have low resistance and are easily infected with diseases. Without timely treatment, they often do not live to grow up. , say goodbye to this world. This situation is called premature death. Such children cannot enter the ancestral graves.
In the eyes of the ancients, a child with a short life means unknown. He is a debt owed in the previous life and sent to punish you in this life, so children who died young are not allowed to enter the ancestral graves.
Some families will just wrap it up in a torn mat, without even having a coffin, and just bury it somewhere not far from the ancestral grave, without building a grave or erecting a monument.
Because I have never lived in my hometown, these are just things I heard from others, and some of them were information I looked up online.
I have also seen the news about one-day brides. To be honest, I really can’t understand it. Maybe they also know that it is a bad habit, but deep-rooted thoughts cannot be changed by one person. Everyone can only be the front When someone does this, others follow.