1. You can try to be aware of the source of your knowledge in this area. How did you acquire it?
I wonder what your living environment was like when you were a child? Was it influenced by your family of origin and the people who raised you when you were young? I was also born in a relatively backward and poor rural area in the 1970s. At that time, a group of old ladies would often predict things like this. As a result, little children often live in fear and uneasiness.
2. Our ancestors have summarized many prophecies: For example, if you wear a three-layer wheat quilt this year, you will sleep with a steamed bun next year; if you don’t go out at dawn, the sunset will travel thousands of miles; even if you look older at the age of three, you will be older at the age of seven. Watch Lao Wait
In the relatively backward past, when some prophetic scenes appeared, people's psychology would produce different hints of expectations and preparations. For the same phenomenon, different regions or people would produce different hints. Some people, even if there are some negative predictions, will make some positive preparations and adjustments. For example, if it might rain, you will prepare an umbrella when you go out, or you will not water your crops, or you will not go out again. Instead of living in fear and sadness.
Influenced by our original family, we all have a fragile and injured child in our hearts. Once I encounter certain scenes that evoke memories, I seem to become that fragile, helpless child with no energy. Just like when you broke a bowl at a festival, the memory of being threatened for a long time was awakened, so you unconsciously felt that some uncontrollable situations would happen~
Perhaps, what worries you is just I remember the scared and sad child who was severely scolded and punished. At this moment, I can tell the fragile child in my heart gently and firmly: Thank you for following me and protecting me for so long. Those prophecies are uncertain. Now that I have grown up, I have the strength to protect myself. I'm here to protect you. We can be our own "good mothers" to heal and nourish this injured child, helping it gain the strength to become wise and mature. Yes, be your own good mother.
Third, you can try to understand the problem from another angle and analyze the problem with a different kind of thinking, so as to obtain different results.
But you can adjust this "whatever happens" pattern to give yourself a hint of a positive outcome. For example, if you break a bowl, you can immediately think of these beautiful reminders of "safety every year" and "saying goodbye to the old and welcoming the new". Or press the pause button, do a few deep breathing and mindfulness meditation exercises, and then deal with the space to give yourself a neat and clean space environment.
Although in psychology, the idea of ??suggestion or projection does exist, in logic, this is not true, because the converse of a true proposition is not necessarily true, so in seeking truth from facts Under the circumstances, the prediction is indeed unconvincing. When people reach middle age, they will also face the problem of menopause. Research shows that some people's symptoms of menopause are far less severe than their inner fears about menopause. Seeing the problem is the key step to solving it; changing the mentality of looking at the problem is more important than the problem itself.