First, don't judge others' right and wrong.
A person's first task is to manage himself. In this world, if you can manage your words and deeds, you will be a man of perfect practice.
Unfortunately, in real life, many people can't manage themselves well, but just like to take care of others. Especially talking about other people's right and wrong, this is actually a taboo in interpersonal communication.
First of all, the right or wrong of others is your own business, not yours. It is unwise for you to comment at will and add comments at random, which not only shows that you are reckless and have no self-restraint, but also shows that you are rude and disrespectful, which is not good for yourself and harmful to others.
Secondly, "those who are right and wrong must be right and wrong." You judge the right and wrong of others, and in the eyes of other onlookers, you are also a "right and wrong person". Why do you want to spoil your self-destructive behavior like this?
To be a man, be a kind person. Don't judge others' right and wrong, accumulate good words for yourself and get married for yourself.
Second, don't defend yourself.
If others are biased against you, it's no use defending yourself. Don't try to change others, learn to change yourself.
Summer insects can't speak ice. In the face of summer insects, can you convince them that winter is snowy and how cold it is? It thinks the weather is always hot. You are talking nonsense!
There are many people in three seasons in the world. They are short-sighted and narrow-minded. No matter what they believe, you can't change it, even if you try your best. Why ask for trouble?
A clear man knows himself, and there is no need to prove himself.
A truly insightful person never defends himself with others, but reflects on himself from other people's different opinions. He corrects everything and encourages nothing.
Third, publicize the good deeds of others.
The greatest evil of human nature is to hide the goodness of others. Therefore, a person who practices in the world of mortals should consciously do the opposite, appreciate the good of others, praise the good of others, and especially publicize his own good.
When others do good things to you, you never forget them and preach them everywhere, which shows that you are a grateful person.
When others do good things to others, you tell them widely and praise them. This is not only spreading positive energy, but also forming a good relationship for yourself, and it also reflects your generosity and openness.
A person who preaches the good deeds of others everywhere, like a successful preacher, is very popular everywhere.
Fourth, cover up other people's faults.
"People are not sages, to err is human?" Everyone makes mistakes. Therefore, we should tolerate other people's faults and don't blame them indiscriminately.
If you always stare at other people's faults and always say other people's faults, it can only show that you are mean and wicked.
Others are also disgusted with this. If you do this, you will not only offend people, but also cause trouble and suffer retaliation from others.
A person who pays attention to moral cultivation can consciously cover up the mistakes of others. In this way, you can not only show your tolerance, but also respect and protect others. Others will appreciate you and may "repay" you at the right time in life.
Summary: communicating with people is nothing more than talking and doing things. Moreover, speaking comes first. People who can talk have good interpersonal relationships and good luck in life. If a person, in the process of interacting with others, can consistently not judge others' right and wrong, not defend himself, and can always publicize others' good deeds and cover up others' mistakes, then he can accumulate and create first-class Feng Shui for his life.