What are the specialties and taboos in erecting a monument to your deceased father?
It is advisable to erect a monument within the 20 days from the ten days before the Qingming Festival to the ten days after the Qingming Festival, because According to customs, no earth-moving can be done on the ancestral graves casually, and only during these twenty days can the earth-moving be done.
It is better not to call him loving father, because when he was alive, he was called loving father, but when he was dead, there should be a difference, so he called him: Xian Kao. In addition, the name should be painted in golden yellow, but the surname should be in red to show the difference. This is a custom that "the dead do not die." The person who erected the monument can omit the surname and directly engrave the first name, and use red.
Or:
A son erects a monument for his father -
Showing his father's tomb of a certain (surname) Gong (name), inscription: male On a certain day of a certain month of a certain year A.D.
A son erected a monument for his mother——
The concubine was named a certain (husband’s surname) family (her own surname) so-and-so The inscription of the tomb of (name): The man stood in such and such a respect
Year, month and day
The common ones nowadays are: The tomb of the late father so-and-so has the inscription: The son of such-and-such year On a certain day of a certain month, the inscription on the tomb of the late mother so-and-so is as follows: On a certain day of a certain month of such-and-such year, the tomb of the late mother XX will be erected on a certain day.
If there are grandchildren and great-grandchildren, they will be arranged in order of priority. Generally speaking, women such as daughters and granddaughters are not allowed to be on the monument. Note: The person who built the monument cannot put the surname in front of the name.
Then there are the very casual ones, who don't care about anything and write the inscription in their own way, such as Engraving his (her) life, dates of birth and death, etc. on the inscription
Finally, if there are no other conflicts, it is best to follow the local customs and rules. The procedures are the same as asking a Feng Shui master to do calculations. No less.
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The tombstone is equivalent to the door of the ghost house, which is the throat that absorbs the atmosphere from the outside world. It also has Feng Shui requirements:
1. Choose an auspicious time according to the horoscope of the head of your family. Good luck.
2. Choose an auspicious day according to the specific conditions of the ghost house.
3. The direction of the monument should be consistent with the direction of the altar.
4. The height of the monument and the specific circumstances of erecting the monument must be inspected on the spot.
5. The upper part of the stele should be engraved with a pattern, and the pattern should be directed by the local master. For example, Tiger Mountain is not sentimental, but the pattern is of a rhinoceros looking back at the moon. For another example, the water mouth is not closed, and the pattern is a lotus pond. In short, what is not good can be fixed.
Sixth: The local master will carve the posthumous name on the back of the stele according to the specific situation of the man in the family. Must be like: eldest son; Li Qifu - second son Li Qiyuan, eldest grandson, great-grandson, etc. Other things should be done according to local customs.
Direction of erecting a monument:
The direction of erecting a monument is very important. There are 24 mountain directions, and 360 divided into 24 parts is 15 degrees. In other words, 15 degrees is a mountain direction. If If the mountain direction of the monument does not match the mountain direction of the acupuncture points in the cemetery, it will be detrimental to future generations in Feng Shui terms. Erecting a monument is related to the popularity, health, career, etc. of future generations. Generally, it is not possible to erect a monument in the Gen direction of the northeast because it is said that that direction is the gate of ghosts. Erecting monuments in this direction is likely to cause weird things at home, and the health of your family members will also be affected.
The time of erecting the monument and the distance between the tombstone and the tomb:
The time of erecting the monument is also particular. If you are erecting a monument for a deceased relative, you should choose the 1st or 3rd anniversary. , the 5th anniversary time period, the year is around the Qingming Festival, the 1st day of the 10th day of the lunar calendar, and the end of the year around the twelfth lunar month. The specific time should be chosen on an auspicious day. Do not conflict with the deceased person who erected the monument, so as not to cause harm to the deceased. Relatives bring disadvantages and lay the foundation for future troubles. As for the distance, the appropriate distance between the tombstone and the acupuncture point is generally between 9 inches and 6 feet.
Meme The inscription on the tombstone:
The inscription on the tombstone is also very important, and the inscription consists of three parts: the header, the main text, and the signature.
Heading up: Write down the position and occupation of the deceased, but do not omit any places.
Text: The text usually contains the title and name of the deceased.
Signing: Write the province, name, and time of erection of the monument. If it is a person with political achievements, you can also write it.
(The above three parts of erecting monuments are very important)
What matters should be paid attention to when erecting monuments to ancestral graves?
Regarding the issue of erecting monuments, I personally think: some graves cannot have monuments, and some graves must erect monuments.
If it is a tomb that cannot be erected with a monument, erecting a monument is superfluous and incorrect. It will destroy the vitality of this place and have serious consequences!
What are the rules for erecting monuments for parents?
Tombstones and graves are the residences of the dead. Just like the mansion, if it is damaged, flooded, damp, dented or invaded by foreign objects, the souls of the dead will be destroyed. It will be uneasy to live in, and it will have a negative impact on the descendants of the Yang Dynasty. Therefore, it is very important to keep tombstones and tombs intact and quiet. This is why Chinese people go to the tombs of their ancestors every Qingming Festival to worship and sweep their tombs. The tradition of sweeping tombs during the Tomb Sweeping Day not only shows that the Chinese people are cautious about pursuing the past and remembering the virtues of their ancestors, but also plays a role in protecting the tombs of their ancestors from being destroyed, trampled on or damaged by nature.
1. If the tombstone is damaged or cracked, damage to the upper part is mainly responsible for head injuries in the first, fourth, and seventh rooms; if the middle part is damaged, it is mainly responsible for diseases of the internal organs or surgery in the second, fifth, and eighth rooms; damage to the lower part The main countermeasures are foot injuries in rooms three, six and nine.
2. Do not use natural stones (uncut stones) as tombstones, otherwise the descendants may be cut off from the incense, disabled, seriously ill, or have adopted children, so this will be unlucky.
3. On the tombstones, moss or weeds cover the tombstones, and kudzu and vines grow over them, indicating that the descendants of the tombstones have been suffering from long-term illnesses.
4. If the color of the tombstone is dim, the descendants of the owner will have bad luck, and the coffin will be filled with water.
5. If the tombstone is overturned and buried in the soil, the descendants of the family will be discordant and chaotic, and may be prone to madness (schizophrenia).
6. If there are birds or feces or other excrement on the tombstone, it should be cleaned up immediately, otherwise the descendants will have headaches.
If all 7 tombstones turn dark black, the fortune of the master’s descendants will not be smooth, and the career will encounter obstacles, which will make them work hard.
8 If the tombstone is broken into two or three pieces, the descendants of the owner are likely to be restrained by a large amount of blood (the upper section of the tombstone is the head, the middle section is the chest and abdomen, the lower section is the feet, and the back is the back), then If the part is broken, the descendants of the descendants will be prone to disasters in that part.
9. If there are dents and scars inside the tombstone, the descendants of the owner are prone to back disease or disability.
10. When there are large spots or flaws on the tombstone, the descendants of the owner are likely to suffer from long-term illness or internal injuries.
11. If the top of the tombstone is dented or damaged, the descendant of the tombstone has a head injury or mental disorder.
12. If the tombstone is tall, short and horizontal, the descendants of the owner will have to work harder and have less leisure time.
13. If the tombstone is too slender (too long in height and too thin in width), it will be unlucky for the owner’s descendants to have a shorter life span.
14. If the lower half of the tombstone is dark, the descendants of the tombstone will be prone to kidney disease. If the upper half is bright and the lower half is dim, the descendants of the owner will not develop well in the ancestral home. You have to go out to have development opportunities.
15. If the grave is sunken, it is easy to hurt your family. A cracked tombstone indicates a car accident, bloodshed, and loss of property.
16. Those who are often trampled on the tomb and become a corridor, the descendants of the master are often bullied and looked down upon in society, and their achievements are not high.
17. If the tomb is kept in a dark place without being exposed to sunlight all year round, and if the tomb is too dark, the descendants of the owner will be constantly sick or suffer from long-term illness.
18. If the tomb has been flooded for many years, the descendants of the owner are likely to suffer from colds, rheumatism, soreness, drowning, and alcoholism.
19 If the trees outside the tomb are tall and cover the entire cemetery, it means that the descendants of the tomb are chronically ill.
20. If the tombs of ancestors are stolen and the bones are exposed and eaten and displaced by wild dogs, the descendants of the owner are likely to suffer bloody disasters.
21. If XXX is inserted into the tomb (like an arrow piercing the tomb), the descendants of the owner will be prone to bloodshed and disaster (those who insert it will also have bad retribution).
22. If the tomb is pressed down by masonry, old coffin boards or other waste, the descendants of the owner are likely to have a stroke or misfortune. Cement, masonry, stone, coffin slabs, and waste should not be piled in front, behind, or next to the tomb (but the disaster is less severe).
23. If there is a tall cemetery or building in front of the tomb, the owner's descendants will have bad luck or have lawsuits.
24 Some people, because of war or poverty, bury their ancestors hastily without monuments or graves. Their descendants are wandering, toiling and poor, having bad luck and failing in their careers
25 If the front of the tomb is dented and collapsed, or the feet are cut off, and the tomb is in danger of being tortured or crumbling, the owner's descendants may suffer from bleeding, surgery, car accidents, slipping, or falling from a building.
26. When cutting off trees in a cemetery, if a tree older than the bereaved family is cut off from the root or main part, the family will suffer from acute illness and bad luck (trees over thirty years old are the most dangerous). It's okay to cut off the branches and chop them into small pieces (it's best to cut off the whole tree slowly and in a dozen times or leave the tree alone).
27. If the entire tomb is sealed with cement (impermeable to the earth), it means that the father and son of the owner are separated (the son is separated or dead).
28 If the tomb has been damaged by wind and earth, is damaged, has been penetrated by snakes and rats, and eaten by termites, the descendants of the owner will be unworthy, aggressive, and prone to vendetta and imprisonment. .
29. If the drainage outlet in the tomb is too large, it will lead to poor wealth and bladder problems. If the drainage hole is blocked, it indicates ear diseases, eye diseases, and gynecological diseases.
30 If there is a big tree next to the tomb, it is easy for the roots of the tree to penetrate the coffin and wrap around the corpse. The descendants of the owner are prone to illness, official misconduct, and disobedience. Of course, it depends on the type of tree. There is good and bad.
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The importance of erecting monuments, please ask the seniors who know this field to explain when is the best time to erect monuments
General Monuments can be erected in the twelfth lunar month, and monuments can also be erected during the Qingming Festival. The monument can be erected within one, three or five years.
The auspicious days to erect monuments from now to the end of April:
1. March 29, 2011, Tuesday, February 25 (small) of the lunar calendar, Aries
Chong Niu (Ding Chou) Sha Xi
Suitable for: sacrificial meeting, making alliances with relatives and friends, cutting clothes, closing tents, installing machinery, disassembling beams, installing gates, entombing, removing clothes, moving coffins, unpacking, burial, erecting monuments and consecrating Plastic painting, starting from the school trip, releasing water, moving into the house, erecting pillars and meridian lines
Taboo: cutting down wood to make beams
2. AD 2011-4-6, March of the lunar calendar ( (Da) Wednesday, 04th, Aries
Rooster (Yiyou) is evil to the West
It is appropriate to offer sacrifices, pray for blessings, make clothes, close tents, lay beds, put in coffins, remove clothes, make clothes, move coffins, break the soil, drill and bury, give thanks and stand The monument is made of animal thick
Taboo: Digging a well and installing a gate to marry Nacai
When my hometown erected a monument for my husband’s grandparents during the Qingming Festival, they also used stones to surround the bottom of the grave. Circle, I feel awkward, I don’t know if this is okay?
Every place has its own customs, and each family has its own ideas. If their elders think this is a good arrangement, you, as a junior, should not participate. Just listen to the arrangements of your elders and do your part.
When is the appropriate time to erect a monument?
Your question should be asked like this, "When should you erect a monument for the deceased elderly person?"
Here The answer is as follows:
Please erect the monument on the third anniversary of the death of this old man, or on the Qingming Festival of a certain year that you find convenient. However, you need to be reminded that: 1. Make various preparations in advance and notify relatives and friends to participate; 2. Transport relevant items to the tomb in advance; 3. Hold a certain memorial ceremony; 4. Complete the erection of the monument before 12 noon ; 5. If possible, you should ask someone to check the traditional almanac to see the date. It would be better to ask someone who understands traditional ceremonies and specific details to guide you.
I wish you success in fulfilling your wish to erect a monument in memory of this old man!
How to erect a Houtu monument
Houtu is the main god of the land of the General Secretary. It is in opposition to the sky. It is called "Emperor of Heaven and Queen of Earth" among the people. Houtu Temple, where emperors of all dynasties worshiped Houtu, was the beginning of national worship to the God of the Earth. In the ancient custom of worshiping Houtu, Houtu gradually derived titles such as the God of the Earth and the Emperor of the Houtu. During the Han Dynasty, people called the earth god "Earth Mother" or "Earth Lady". After the Tang Dynasty, according to the traditional concept of heaven and earth and yang, the folk created a female land goddess, called the "land empress". Today the earth gods have different genders according to their vocation. For example, the land gods at the gate of Guan Yangzhai Ping'an are mostly male, while the land gods at the entrance of the village who are in charge of people are shaped as husband and wife, that is, the land god and the land woman.
Therefore, the Houtu God is the God of the Earth, and the Houtu Stele is also the stone tablet of the Earth God. In ancient times, when people buried the dead and built tombs, they would place "God of the Earth" on the left side of each tomb. ” or “God of Fortune”, the stone is erected like a small tomb. This kind of stone standing tablet is called "Houtu". This kind of stone tablet erected in the yin house to worship the earth god has the word "houtu" written on it, and some also have inscriptions engraved on it. In ancient feudal society, the names of the inscriptions of the earth gods often differed depending on the identity of the tomb owner. For example, common people called them "Houtu", while scholar-bureaucrats called them "Houtu God" or "The God of Houtu". For example, the yin house of a descendant of the Song Dynasty clan located in Pudou Mountain, Hui'an County has a monument with three characters: "The God of the Land".
Later, the tombstone was usually erected in the funeral home.
Is there any particularity about the time of burial?
I want to bury my late father on November 29, 2008 in the Gregorian calendar. I would like to ask if this time is suitable. Generally, burial When are they all, thank you
November 29, 2008 in the Gregorian calendar is the second day of the eleventh month (Guiyou) in the Wuzi year, which is the day of De Yue, Sui Zhi, and opposition rabbit. This is the day to bury my late father, and those born under the zodiac sign of the rabbit should stay away. Do not take, avoid, or avoid using it at Mao, Ji, Wu, or when it is not inauspicious. The auspicious times are Yin, Chen, and Wei, which can be used. Construction starts at Yin, and burial occurs at Chen or Wei.
I wish you peace and success!