Why do you say that your temper is your feng shui?

There is a good saying:

"If you want to lose your temper, that's instinct. If you suppress your temper, it is called skill. " Mr. Jin Yong once said: "If you don't get angry, you will be threatened." There are many factors for a person's success, but your temper can be the feng shui of your life.

There is a question on Zhihu, "Why can Andy Lau be popular all his life?" To sum up, the answer is due to Andy Lau's good temper. Be humble and willing to give. He is a superstar, but he has no airs in front of fans, so he is very approachable.

Andy Lau's reporters interviewed by Southeast Satellite TV all said that he was a star who was very friendly to reporters. During the interview, the dialogue can go straight to the point, with little nonsense, and it is also very cooperative with reporters' questions. If he encounters a sensitive question, Andy Lau will politely refuse, not only leaving a feeling for reporters and friends, but also behaving appropriately.

Many years ago, he was exposed for his hidden marriage and was pushed to the forefront for a time. Fans were strongly dissatisfied, his personal image was also affected, and his popularity index plummeted. At an event, a media deliberately made things difficult for Andy Lau and asked him directly about his wife and daughter.

Andy Lau didn't swear at reporters or express dissatisfaction, but said kindly, "I know these questions are not what you want to ask, but what your boss wants to ask. You are just working." Temper can be equated with a person's skills and abilities.

Andy Lau has been popular for so long, not only because of his efforts, but also because of his control of his temper. "Gentleman: great ability, small temper. Middle class: great ability and temper. Inferior people: small skills and big temper. " Although everyone is equal, there is no distinction between 369 and 369, it is indeed a person's ability to consistently maintain a good temper.

In other words, what kind of temper you have, what kind of future you have. In the latest variety show "Life I yearn for", guest Zifeng Zhang's performance was widely praised. The youngest but very sensible, will take the initiative to help and do a lot of work quietly.

She didn't complain, and she didn't have the so-called miss temper. She never grabs words when everyone fights and chats, and often listens quietly. Once, she chatted with another guest, Helandou, about the kissing scene in the movie. Helandou suggested that she and Peng Yuchang play it, bluntly saying that "actors can't play anything". In the face of excessive demands from others, she didn't show any angry mood, just smiled gently and passed by.

Sinny said:

"Good temper is like a sunny day, and there is light everywhere." That light illuminates others and yourself. On the contrary, a bad temper is like a light, which burns others as well as yourself. Some time ago, two interns came to our company. Xiao Zhang graduated from two universities, with Sun Xiao as the key undergraduate, and also won a scholarship from the university. The department head was very optimistic about Sun Xiao and assigned Sun Xiao to a key project team of the company.

Sun Xiao's work ability is outstanding, but his temper is a bit smelly.

He doesn't complain that the tasks assigned to him by the supervisor at will are heavier and more arduous than others. I just complain that the task is too simple and feel that I am overqualified. I always lose face and lose my temper during my internship. Intern Xiao Zhang was assigned to a hard and tired project team. Fill in various forms and record all kinds of data every day. But he is always smiling, modest and polite. Once, because of a numerical error, a project in charge of their working group delayed the construction period.

Although he was not the main person in charge, he was severely criticized by his superiors at the meeting. Even so, Xiao Zhang held back his anger, kept silent and made no excuses, and carefully recorded every detail that the leader said.

When the working group met, it gave detailed feedback to the staff of the same group to help them correct their mistakes in time, which left a very deep impression. Soon, the three-month internship ended, and Xiao Zhang successfully became a formal employee of the company and was assigned to the company's key project team. On the other hand, Sun Xiao has just got an internship certificate, with average results.

WeiHertz Ritter once said:

"Good temper is a fortune in life."

People who often smile and are good at controlling emotions not only have a good reputation, but also have a smooth career development. And those who are often angry often lose more than they gain. That's why some people can succeed after four or two efforts, and some people still have nothing to do after a lifetime of struggle.

The gap between people is not only IQ, but also the ability to control temper. It is no exaggeration to say that a person's fate is closely related to his ability to control his temper. Good or bad temper often determines a person's success or failure.

In life, it is not difficult to find that those who are always furious and swearing are actually not doing well; And the really powerful people always have a good temper and smile at people. Temper is the embodiment of a person's character. What kind of temper you show is what kind of person you are in the eyes of others.

Hu Shi once said a word:

"The most hateful thing in the world is an angry face; The most embarrassing thing in the world is to show your angry face to others, which is worse than snoring. " Good temper is a means of dealing with the world, and it is also the cultivation of being a man. If you don't be a slave to temper, you can be the master of your own life. Your temper is the feng shui of your life. He who knows how to control his temper is the cleverest person, and he is encouraged by you.