Why does the person have pain?
Because people are always embarrassed and resentful, they are full of hostility when they open their mouths.
The most comfortable state to get along with others is to make them comfortable.
As the saying goes, the stars in the sky are the most beautiful, and the warmth on earth is the most beautiful.
It is kindness and wisdom not to embarrass others.
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Put yourself in others' shoes.
"Mencius? On ugly sun said:? Kindness is like others, self-sacrifice is like others, and it is good to take pleasure in others. ? In this world, each has its own difficulties. Only by putting yourself in others' shoes and taking care of others can we get along for a long time. Before, there were two pieces of news. An old man riding a tricycle to collect waste accidentally ran into a luxury car parked on the side of the road and broke a taillight.
The old man was at a loss and didn't know what to do. He knows it's his own fault, but he can't afford it.
At this moment, a well-dressed man came over and saw that his car was damaged, so he asked, Did you hit it? ?
The old man rubbed his hands and nodded. Yes, I'm sorry?
The man asked again:? Can you afford it? ?
The old man said with a sad face. Can't afford it. ?
The man said:? Can't afford it, don't go? ?
Seeing the old man walk away in a panic, the man took out his car keys and drove the car with broken taillights to the repair shop.
Another one. When a container truck driver drove to a village in Guangzhou, he scraped off a branch of a banyan tree with a diameter of 20 cm at the entrance of the village, and was surrounded by villagers before and after, demanding compensation of 1.88 million yuan.
The reason is that the banyan tree is a geomantic tree in the village, which destroyed the geomantic omen in the village.
Although the driver has apologized and prayed for blessings according to the villagers' requirements, he still can't get away with it.
In life, similar things are not uncommon.
There is always such a person who especially likes to embarrass others and seize a little mistake to exaggerate infinitely to prove his superiority.
Order a takeaway, and occasionally the meal is not delivered in time. It's just a slap in the face and a bad review. The hard work of the delivery brother was in vain;
Go to a restaurant and criticize this dish for being unclean, that dish is wrong and the tableware is unsanitary. The waiter was flushed and in a hurry;
Even if you go shopping in the supermarket, you should embarrass the cashier at the right time and show off your dignity. .....
These behaviors seem like you are bossing around, but you don't know that only cowards enjoy bullying the weak.
As Lu Xun said:? The brave are angry and draw their swords at the strong; Timid people are angry, but they draw their swords at the weak people. ?
People who always embarrass others everywhere will not show your strength.
On the contrary, it will only show its incompetence to the fullest.
A truly cultured person knows how to put himself in the other's shoes and compare his own heart.
Buddhists often say that to be convenient to others is to be convenient to oneself.
There is a story in Romance of the Three Kingdoms, in which Zhuge Liang captured Meng Huo seven times.
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Convenient for others is convenient for yourself.
People always fulfill each other. If you don't embarrass others, you don't embarrass yourself.
Meeting is because of fate; Knowing each other is because of emotion.
But we can walk together because of tolerance.
As Shakespeare said:
Tolerance moistens the earth like a drizzle in the sky. It blesses the tolerant and the tolerated.
At that time, Meng Huo, the leader of ethnic minorities in southern Sichuan, launched a rebellion, and Zhuge Liang decided to personally lead the troops to quell the rebellion.
Zhuge Liang ordered his men to take Meng Huo alive instead of hurting him.
In the first battle, the Shu army captured Meng Huo under the command of Zhuge Liang.
The soldiers put Meng Huo into the camp, Zhuge Liang untied him himself and asked people to give him a banquet.
The next day, after Zhuge Liang accompanied him to visit the Shu military camp, Meng Huo did not praise it, but said, that's it. If you let me go back, I will beat you again.
Zhuge Liang smiled and let Meng Huo go.
A few days later, Meng Huo led the troops to challenge and was defeated and captured. Meng Huo still refused to admit defeat, and Zhuge Liang let him go again.
Meng Huo hit seven times in a row and was captured seven times. Escort Meng Huo to the camp of the Shu army for the last time.
Meng Huo thought for a long time and said that seven escapes and seven verticals have never happened since ancient times. The Prime Minister gave me great face. How can I lose face to the Prime Minister like this? ?
Then kneel on the ground and surrender in tears.
From then on, Meng Huo made up his mind to submit to Shu Han, and he never rebelled all his life.
Tolerance is not only a virtue, but also a realm.
To forgive others is to forgive yourself and broaden your life path.
People who can achieve great things in ancient and modern times understand this truth.
Zeng Guofan has always been sincere in cultivating successors.
He has a full-fledged student, and under his training, this student has gradually developed into a full-fledged student.
Zeng Guofan not only didn't worry that he would climb on his head, but also transferred his own elite of Xiang, as? A wedding present? .
This student is called? The first person in the late Qing Dynasty? Li hongzhang
In the end, the two men fulfilled each other and became a much-told story.
This is the human feeling. Be kind to others, and the world will be broad.
The greatest kindness in human nature is to be kind to others and not to embarrass them.
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Comfort determines your height.
A person's best accomplishment is not talent, but a warm and kind personality that makes people feel like spring breeze.
As we all know, the host He Jiong has always been a representative of good character and good temper.
In a program, Tang Guoqiang made a slip of the tongue? He Jiong? Call cheng? He ling? , caused a burst of laughter.
He Jiong immediately ran out and said:
Tang Guoqiang and I have known each other for ten years. He used to call me He Ling. This is our nickname. Don't get me wrong! ?
In a simple sentence, the embarrassment will be dissolved in an instant.
Someone once asked an actor if he wanted to do a show with He Laoshi.
She replied:? Never have to worry about doing a show with He Laoshi. No matter what you say wrong, he will catch you. ?
An educated person will never be embarrassed by his words and deeds, and will never forget to safeguard each other's dignity and face in details.
Doing things and talking always makes people feel very comfortable, taking care of others' feelings and not letting others' faces be damaged.
Ma Yifu wrote two poems:
I have learned that Gan Kun is great, but I still pity every grass and tree. ?
The more people who have seen the world, the more compassionate they are. Treating all the people and things around you gently makes people feel comfortable everywhere, like a spring breeze.
It is this kindness and tolerance rooted in the bones that can make the road under people's feet wider and wider.
You know, if you give people ice, others will repay you for the thorns along the way;
You give people sunshine, and others will repay you for your starlight all the way.
As the saying goes:
Blessed people will be blessed, and those who love to return will love to go.
"Caigen Tan" said: It is a blessing to be able to live in by going up one flight of stairs and be tolerant of others. ?
Excuse me. 、? A little wider? In fact, it is not to embarrass them and make others comfortable.
Walking in the world is not easy for everyone, and everyone may make mistakes.
Do things for others and give others less trouble, and you will meet people all over the world;
Let the road under your feet go smoother and smoother, and the blessings in the dark will accumulate deeper and deeper.
I hope that after years of baptism, even if you and I look vicissitudes, our hearts will still be kind and warm as jade, and we will treat everyone we meet gently.