In high school, I had a good friend, Miss C. Miss C was born in a doctor's family, her parents were doctors, and even her grandfather was a Chinese medicine practitioner.
Miss c is not very outstanding in appearance, but she has a unique gentle temperament, as if she had been contaminated with medicinal incense for a long time, and she also has a special charm.
Miss C is the most beautiful person I have ever seen in white, not only because of her white skin, but also because of her unique softness. People say there are beautiful women in Jiangnan. In fact, the beauty in Jiangnan is not only beautiful in figure, but also beautiful in bones. Under the infiltration of soft geomantic omen, the girls in Jiangnan are all girls made of water, elegant and gentle.
Miss c is a typical gentle girl. I have been in the same class with her for three years. When talking to her, she is always soft and gentle, and her tone is just right, neither high nor low, with a special melodiousness. I have never seen Miss C lose her temper. Even if she is upset, she just takes it lightly. Getting along with her is like a spring breeze, which makes people feel that the whole person's heart has calmed down instantly.
Such a girl of scholarly family has a soft temper, that is, a girl raised by water, and getting along with her will make people feel particularly comfortable.
Miss c doesn't know if it's because she comes from a doctor's family, and she has a very kind heart.
She is the kind of person who can't bear to see cats and dogs on the road. She will feed them at night. Later, she entered the university and went directly to the medical school, not to inherit her father's career, but to really cure the patient.
Over the years, the relationship between doctors and patients has become more and more tense, and more than once I heard the news that patients stabbed doctors to death.
Sometimes I ask her, "What do you think?"
She replied to me: "As a doctor, you can never have negative emotions of patients, and doctors also have negative emotions. What we save is human life. " When she said this, her tone was dull and weak, but occasionally she turned over her Weibo in the middle of the night and found that she was still watching it at one or two in the middle of the night, but the dynamic was: "I am worried that I have not mastered it well and will harm the patient in the future."
She is not even a doctor, but she has the sympathy of a doctor. Her gentleness is manifested in daily life, but she is tough in her bones.
The so-called tenderness is not blindly soft, but more, it is an education, a kind of tenacity in the bones, just like the gentle water, which seems calm and waveless, but in fact there is a kind of hardness under calm.
I have my own goals and know the way I want to go, but I accomplish my ideal in a softer way.
I once asked Miss C, "Why did you take this road to study medicine? You studied for five years as an undergraduate and three years as a graduate. If you are a doctor, it will be really many years, and even you have not earned much money? "
"When I was young, I went to the hospital where my parents worked. When I saw that patients always looked at my parents with hopeful eyes, I felt that being a doctor might really save lives. You may think this is ridiculous, but I really hope that with my hands, I can cure the patient's illness. "
When she said this, Miss C's tone was still soft, but her eyes were shining and she had a different kind of determination.
I just found out that a girl with a gentle temper, her so-called tenderness, soft face and hard bones, chose to crawl forward for what she thought.
I have a strong heart, so I choose to use gentleness to resist all the hardness in this world.
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There was a roommate in college, Miss Y, who had a soft temper and laughed at everyone. She is one of those people. As soon as you see her, you feel that the troubles in the world are no longer troubles, because her smile is too infectious.
Miss y has two dimples when she smiles, which is very cute. She is always the first to get up in the dormitory. At that time, she would buy us breakfast and wake us up one by one.
I feel a little queasy, and I am always unhappy when I am suddenly pulled up.
But every time I sit up from the bed, I turn around and see Miss Y's smile, only to feel that all my anguish is gone.
Her smile is to soak into people's bones, as if she were illuminated by the sun for an instant and felt warm in her heart.
Miss y is very helpful. She is always willing to do anything that is troublesome to everyone in the class.
"When no one is in trouble, I can help, ok?"
But to tell the truth, Miss Y's life is not satisfactory and her family is not good, so she usually has to do two part-time jobs, a tutor for primary school students and a daily cram school to earn living expenses and tuition fees.
During her four years in college, she was so busy that she earned four years of tuition and living expenses.
Sometimes, she is so tired that she even has time to climb back into bed. She fell asleep as soon as she closed her eyes.
But even so, junior students come to ask her about part-time jobs, and she always gives everything.
"You are so good to people, but not everyone is good to you." Sometimes I am dissatisfied with Miss Y, and some people even ask without saying thank you.
At that time, Miss Y said to me, "I have experienced it before, so it is not easy. People must be flustered to ask in such a hurry. Naturally, I know how much to say. "
When miss y said this, she still smiled, her voice was light and shallow, and there was a gentleness revealed in her bones.
At that time, I felt that the so-called gentleness was more of an tolerance. I don't want others to take the same detour because I have experienced it. More gentleness is an understanding.
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I met a Japanese female leader during my previous internship.
The leader studied in Japanese universities, studied as a graduate student in the United States, and later came to work in China. She is proficient in Japanese, Chinese and English. She once worked for Alibaba and Wanda, and later left her job to join the trend of Internet companies.
This leader has the unique characteristics of Japanese women and has a gentle personality.
Really gentle, without any leadership. When I talk to you, I always whisper, without any sharpness, but what I say is well-founded, which makes you feel your mistake and want to change it unconsciously.
This leader has twin daughters, and I can still see them coming to the company from time to time. At that time, when the leader looked down at his daughter, his eyes were always full of maternal brilliance.
Sometimes I see the circle of friends sent by the leaders, go out to play with my family on weekends, and occasionally love my husband Xiu Xiu. Obviously, I am so busy at work, but I just turned my life into such a beautiful appearance.
Leaders, wives and mothers can switch so well and are full of enthusiasm and enthusiasm for life.
Later, the two of us got to know each other. In addition to my awe of the leader, I was full of curiosity and asked her, "How did you become so good?"
At that time, the leader, with a smile on his face, gently said to me: "You are still young and always think I am very powerful. When you reach my age, you may be able to live better than me. Life is always peaceful. No matter how stressful and tiring life is, you still have to treat every day with care and gentleness, and you can naturally live well. "
The leader's face has a sense of calmness to see through the world, with a gentle smile on his face and a gentle tone, which makes people's hearts calm down later.
It turns out that gentleness is not only a calm and obedient character, but also an ability to face all kinds of pressures brought by life and laugh it off.
Gentleness is an optimism.
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Gentleness is not vague softness in words, nor is it a small voice. Elegant manners are called gentleness.
Tender is a kind of tolerance. It is not simply called tenderness by whispering, nor is it called tenderness by weakness.
Gentle, soft outside and rigid inside.
Gentleness is an attitude, an understanding and a clarity.
It is a person's kindness to this beautiful world, accepting everything that happens in life with unique understanding and tolerance, and then transforming it into warm power to take you forward.
Gentleness is a sharp weapon, which can resist all hard things in the world. It gives you a new life and makes you different with a gentle gesture.
May you become a really gentle girl.
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