First of all, heart to heart
Vernacular interpretation: introduce your heart and put it in someone else's stomach. Tell each other what you think without reservation. Metaphor is sincere to people.
Source: Biography of Emperor Guangwu of the Later Han Dynasty: "Xiao Wang pushed his heart and put it in his stomach, so he didn't die! "
Dynasty: Southern Song Dynasty
Author: Ye Fan
Xiao Wang tells you what he thinks without reservation, even at any cost.
Second, wait for an empty seat.
Interpretation in vernacular Chinese: It is a metaphor to treat guests with empty seats or to recruit talents with generous treatment, which is famous for its etiquette.
Source: A Brief History of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty: "It is better to treat people with vacancies than to abuse others."
Dynasty: Ming dynasty
Author: Feng Menglong
I would rather wait for others with empty seats than keep many people waiting for insufficient seats.
Third, be polite.
Vernacular interpretation: Binbin: The original meaning is the appearance of both literature and quality, and the later description is elegant. Describe the appearance of being personable and polite.
Source: The eighty-third time in the Mirror Flower Garden: "Call out his two sons and call them brothers first, then brothers. Be polite."
Dynasty: Qing dynasty
Author: Li Ruzhen
Fourth, take the customer as the respect.
Interpretation in vernacular Chinese: Describe that husband and wife respect each other as if they were guests.
Source: Biography of Pang Gong in the Later Han Dynasty: "Never entered the city, the husband and wife respected each other as guests."
Dynasty: Southern Song Dynasty
Author: Ye Fan
Never been to a city, husband and wife respect each other as if they were guests.
Five, reciprocity
Interpretation of vernacular: ceremony is more important than ceremony. Now it means how you treat me, and I will repay you.
Source: "Fei Ji Ran": "Courtesy in return, love to recruit bricks."
Dynasty: Song Dynasty
Author: Hu Yin
Etiquette emphasizes reciprocity, which will make gratitude last, while deep attraction will achieve mutual success.