Pay attention to the way of being a husband. When we decide to be a husband and a father, there will inevitably be more responsibilities and responsibilities on our shoulders, and we should try our best to carry them up. I have collected and sorted out the relevant information about how to be a husband. Let's have a look.
Pay attention to the way of being a husband. 1 Pay attention to being a husband.
1, you should keep your word, one is one, the other is two, and you keep your word.
2. Don't talk if you can't do it. If you don't keep your word, you will have no dignity.
3. Men belong to Yang, and Yang is selfless. Selflessness is expressing love for a family.
4. If you are selfish, you will secretly do something against your conscience and worry the whole family. This is not a good man.
5, men should be "just", just don't beat people and swear, and men who beat people and swear are incompetent men. Not only don't beat people and swear, but also don't answer, refute or worry when they are scolded. Don't move, don't move, don't be scolded (don't lose your temper). Be obedient, be at ease, and be a gentleman.
6. Men are the pillar of a family. They should be sensible, ambitious and take good care of their wives.
7. Men are divided into three types of husbands: weak husbands, violent husbands and husbands. A weak husband is also called a coward and cannot support a family. Only Nuo Nuo, who just talks and doesn't do it, dares not take responsibility, pushes the woman to the front and follows her instructions. Violent husbands either beat or scold, which is unreasonable. I don't understand my responsibilities, so I dare to run amok. The husband has the courage to assume the responsibility of a family to convince others that the family is wrong, which in turn makes him feel ashamed.
The relationship between husband and wife is emotion and feng shui.
First, treat each other with courtesy
Men and women are equal, and husband and wife should respect each other. Regardless of income level, family background disparity or even intelligence difference, they are all equal in personality, and husbands should not discriminate against or despise their wives.
A couple, because they love to get married, often think that their birthright has been determined and the relationship after marriage has been guaranteed; So in the past, the concept of restraining oneself and winning the favor of the other party changed. Everything you say and do is arbitrary, thinking that there is no need for courtesy between husband and wife. You are not correcting your own shortcomings, but setting a big example and showing it at any time. You also think that there is no need for husband and wife to hide their weaknesses, but you don't know that what husband and wife need most is courtesy and respect. Other couples always want to control each other to accommodate themselves. Gradually exposed all the shortcomings without scruple, and as a result, I was bored for a long time and only felt the abomination of the other party. Just like the Buddha said "I hate my wife" in the Infinite Life Sutra and "I don't like to meet my husband" in the Jade Girl Sutra. They hated each other, so their relationship broke up. In order to prevent the boredom between husband and wife, the husband should do the following:
1, the husband should learn to always care about his wife and be gentle and considerate to her. For example, when she is at rest or sick, you should take care of her carefully;
2. Husbands should learn to thank their wives often. When she does small things for you, such as mending clothes and socks, you should say "thank you" instead of taking it as her duty. On the surface, although she thinks your words are unnecessary, she is very happy inside.
The wife likes her husband to praise her in front of others. This kind of praise made her not only happy, but also grateful. A wife hates criticizing her shortcomings in front of others and humiliating herself. When a husband needs to correct her, he should avoid being heard by parents, children or others.
4. If your wife has any opinions, listen to them with an open mind, then discuss them with her in detail and respect each other's opinions; If the other party makes a mistake, don't be rude when you want to correct it. Hua Yan Jing says, "Always make moist words, soft words, pleasant words, kind-hearted words, elegant words and Athenian words", instead of "poisonous words, harsh words and bitter words that make them hate words, such as burning their hearts".
Second, majesty is not mundane, nor is it sensual.
Have you done the five ways to treat your wife?
Power is solemn but not impetuous, strict is dignified and self-loving, and it cannot be taken lightly without blasphemy. Treat your wife's behavior with dignity and courtesy, and your speech behavior should not be frivolous and indulgent. In addition, sexual life should also be controlled, otherwise it will hurt both sides' health and even lead to lifelong illness. Because of excessive sexual desire, it will lead to listlessness and neurasthenia. It will have a bad influence on body and mind, and it will also lead to anger, irritability and depression, and the relationship between husband and wife will go downhill. In order to keep healthy, we should live moderately according to everyone's age and physical strength. This can avoid the harm of deliberate indulgence and improve the happiness of families. Indulgence is the most terrible, so we should be "strict". Buddha said, "Don't be jealous of yourself, be content with happiness, so a wife loves herself and doesn't invade others."
Third, always have food and clothing.
A woman is usually very happy when her husband gives her something she loves. The so-called beloved thing doesn't have to be expensive. As long as you buy it for her, she will feel infinite happiness in her heart. For example, if you buy clothes and food for her when she wants it in her heart but hasn't said it yet, she will naturally be overjoyed and think that you are a caring person.
Fourth, solemn and timely.
This "solemnity in time" is to buy clothes for his wife to decorate, so that she can dress neatly and suit the times. Because the love of beauty is what any wife has. However, a husband should not let her dress up too luxuriously and become a luxury. Blindly pursuing the "new trend" will lose the true meaning of solemnity. Clothing is not only the appearance of the body, but also the taste of cultivation. When choosing clothing decoration, we should take these two points into account.
V. Entrust to the door
The husband only needs to be responsible for the general affairs of the family, rather than personally supervising and managing trivial matters. It is often unpleasant and boring for a husband to interfere in housework and criticize his perfection. Therefore, even if the wife handles things improperly, she should "make peace", understand tolerance and let her be the master. You know, if there is no wife to do housework, then the husband will have worries.
Pay attention to the way of being a husband. As a husband, what responsibilities should a man perform in marriage?
First, the responsibility of supporting parents.
Supporting parents is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and it is also the obligation and responsibility as a child. The Marriage Law stipulates that children have the obligation to support their parents. Supporting the elderly is to ensure the basic needs of the elderly, and the life of the elderly should reach the living standard of their children. As the saying goes, "Zhu Dexiao comes first". Only by being filial to the elderly can a man be qualified to be a good person. If he is not filial, this is undoubtedly the biggest stain in his life.
Second, the responsibility of taking care of his wife.
A husband should love, protect and care for his wife, and become the object that his wife can rely on. No matter how strong a woman is, her heart is fragile and she needs the comprehensive care of a man. What women need most is security. Men's responsibility and responsibility are the most solid backing and guarantee for women. Women are made of water, born with maternal tenderness and affectionate lacrimal glands. Therefore, a man needs to give her a sense of security and protection like a mountain.
Third, the responsibility of educating children.
The San Zi Jing said: "If the son doesn't teach, the father is guilty; The discipline is lax and the father is lazy. "In the children's inner world, the father's image, manners and manners are examples that they should follow. Therefore, as a father, we should shoulder the responsibility of educating our children, restrain ourselves, set an example by example, and set a good example for our children anytime and anywhere. Since ancient times: fish heads have begun to stink. Everything a father says and does may have a very far-reaching impact on his children.
Fourth, the responsibility of supporting the family.
Men are the pillars of the family, and they are also the economic and spiritual pillars of the family. It takes a lot of time and energy for a woman to give birth, nurse, nurse, do housework and tidy up the family. If a man can't take the initiative to support his family and earn money to build a family, it will be difficult to improve the quality of life of this family. As the saying goes, it is not as those who have been poor together know. The husband is lazy and the family is surrounded by walls, which will lead to constant quarrels between husband and wife, difficult marriage and unstable family.
Five, the responsibility of defending the country.
Family is the cell of society. Home is the smallest country, and country is the largest country. Defending the country is a man's bounden duty and the greatest responsibility. As the saying goes, "Every man is responsible for the rise and fall of the world", and one should die for the country. It is the common responsibility of men in any country and nation in the world to grieve for Zhong Jing. We can't escape this responsibility for any reason or excuse.
Responsibility is the most important quality of an adult man. Do what you should do, undertake your obligations, fulfill your mission, support your parents, take care of your wife, educate your children, support your family, defend your country, do what you can, do what you can, and find ways to do what you can. Such a man is a qualified man and a man who makes a woman worthy of love!