Therefore, during the 5,000-year history of China, many excellent manners have been produced, which not only embodies the ancient tradition of China that "all virtues and filial piety come first" and "the kindness of dripping water should be rewarded with a spring", but also reflects the respect attitude of China people towards others and their families.
For example, we have many stories about funerals.
Funeral in our country is very strict, for example, when someone dies, neighbors need help, which has become an unwritten rule in rural areas, which also reflects a collective consciousness of our people.
Why is the funeral in our country more strict? For example, there are many rules when people die. In ancient times, different classes had different names for death: collapse, auspicious, neat, pawn, decline, death and ruin.
In ancient China, the social hierarchy was extremely strict, and people of different classes and strata used different names after death.
Due to people's aversion to death, some taboo pronouns are used to refer to death, such as materialization, material inheritance, death, donating a museum, speaking out, falling, returning to the mountain and so on.
There are so many stories about people's death, which shows the importance of funerals to people, especially in the rural areas of our country.
China rural areas are still very concerned about funeral, so they are very opposed to cremation, and because they have a very strong cultural background on funeral.
For example, funeral customs in rural areas, from choosing a cemetery, drilling wells to offering sacrifices after burial, all need our attention to these four things.
Pay attention to choosing a cemetery.
Our country has strict requirements for choosing graves, which is what we call feng shui.
You can't choose the place surrounded by big trees, just to prevent the roots from invading the grave and affecting the rest of the dead.
In addition, the choice of graves is better, which will make future generations produce nobles, so China has the saying of "Dragon Cave".
2. Pay attention to when drilling wells
Drilling a well is also called drilling a well. The well we are talking about is the place where the dead are buried later.
You can't make a snake's nest by drilling a well, or it's unlucky to make a snake's nest by drilling a well.
Moreover, when digging a well, you can't touch the remains of your predecessors, that is, you can't dig a well with someone else's cemetery. Farmers believe that this will lead their offspring to be restless and prone to illness.
When digging a well, you should also be careful not to reach the water source. If there is too much water, the remains of the deceased may be very perishable, and because soaking in the water for a long time will make the deceased uncomfortable, future generations will feel more uneasy about their ancestors being buried in the water, and will also pollute the nearby water sources.
3. Need a warm well
Warm well means that when the golden well is dug, the family will sleep for their ancestors.
This is to make our ancestors sleep here warmer, because our people think that people have feelings after death, that is, they just live in a different place after death.
Therefore, this well-warming behavior is to better let ancestors sleep here without feeling cold, and it is also a kind of care for ancestors by future generations. At the same time, this well-warming method is also the last time to help ancestors.
Our people have been paying attention to filial piety since ancient times, so this way of warming wells reflects our people's filial piety.
Although this practice may be a bit feudal superstition, it is also a way for future generations to repay the kindness of their ancestors.
4. Top seven
Because farmers in rural China are convinced that there is a soul after death, it is precisely because of this that people will burn paper money for their ancestors in festivals.
On the seventh day, that is, the seventh day after the death of the deceased, China folklore said that the deceased would return to the earth to see future generations. At this time, future generations will prepare a lot of paper money for him, and they will also prepare roast chicken and roast duck to reward the ghosts and gods who sent the dead up.
It is precisely to prevent the dead from being abused by ghosts and gods, and it is also a way to buy ghosts and gods.
In addition to the above things, of course, there is also a need for filial piety afterwards, that is, after the death of a loved one, he must resign and go home to be filial.
Of course, this is what the ancients used to do. Due to the development of the times, this practice is rare in rural areas of China.
It is precisely because of the need to support the family that this statement of how many years of mourning has slowly changed.
Funeral is also slowly changing with the times. I believe that funeral will gradually eliminate those bad ones and become more and more humanized.