If you can speak, you must first be honest, have love in your chest, and have a warm heart that is worried by others.
Sister Potato lives in a three-bedroom apartment in Dingxi. The environment in the community is very good. Looking down from the balcony, you can see the beautiful landscape carefully designed in the community-small bridges and flowing water, pavilions and fountains.
But since my brother-in-law was hospitalized for surgery, my sister has been complaining that the feng shui in the house may not be very good.
Sister Potato disagrees. Because this bad idea will give people negative psychological hints if it goes on for a long time. Sister Potato decided to change her mind and turn negative psychological suggestion into positive psychological suggestion.
Sister Potato analyzed it for her. My brother-in-law has a process from illness to seizure. The seizure is only a matter of time, and it has little to do with where you live.
If you don't move to your new house now, you will still live in your old house. There is no elevator in the old house. When my brother-in-law had a heart attack, the ambulance crew climbed to the sixth floor, carried a stretcher, and then crashed all the way from the sixth floor to the hospital. What were the chances of my brother-in-law being rescued at that time? Is that Feng Shui?
On the contrary, if you live in a new house with an elevator, the hospital is nearby, and you can get to the hospital as quickly as possible when you are sick. Sister potato thinks this house is not bad in feng shui, but it is very good. I saved my brother-in-law's life because of convenience.
Besides, the rich live in a happy place. No matter where the lucky people live, it is even a very ordinary place. Over time, this place will be nourished by blessings and become a place suitable for human habitation.
Then what kind of people are blessed? You are a kind-hearted person like your sister. My sister has been kind all her life. How could God be so mean to you?
After listening to my sister-in-law's sermon, my sister suddenly felt much more comfortable.
Sister potato is very pleased that she is no longer entangled in the geomantic omen of the house. She doesn't want her family to be sad and have a mental burden.
Being able to talk is not talking to people, nor is it nonsense, but speaking with a clear goal. What you said should be helpful to others.
Sister Potato has a little sister, Lian, who gave birth to a second baby. She is a daughter, as beautiful as a doll. Everyone likes her. The person who loves her most is Lian's mother-in-law To what extent do you love your baby granddaughter? I'm afraid it will melt in my mouth, but I'm afraid it will fall in my hand. Before the child's full moon, grandma taught herself and made several photo albums for her with her mobile phone.
It is such a grandmother who loves her granddaughter wholeheartedly, and one day she made a mistake that she can't forgive.
Being busy with other things, she neglected to take care of her granddaughter playing on the ground. Curious, the child saw a thermos bottle on the ground, so he climbed over and grabbed it with his hand to see what had happened. Who knows that this robbery actually knocked over the thermos bottle, and the boiling water splashed directly on the child's leg, causing serious burns to the child's leg.
Seeing that her beloved little granddaughter suffered such a great disaster, grandma hated herself and spent all her time in Lacrimosa. Self-blame, self-blame and love for children are intertwined, which makes grandma's spirit almost collapse.
Seeing her mother-in-law in such pain, she couldn't bear it, so she called Sister Potato to tell her. This aroused Sister Potato's competitive spirit. She decided to give it a try and persuaded Lian's mother-in-law to let her put down her ideological burden.
Older people are generally more idealistic, and Sister Potato thinks we can start with idealism.
Sister Potato told Lian's mother-in-law that the hardships and blessings that people have to eat in this life are basically fixed, that is, so much. Some people have suffered in the first half of their lives, and they will come to enjoy their old age in the second half; Some people live comfortably and carefree in the early days, but when they are old and weak, they have to struggle for a living.
The same is true of the suffering that a person has to go through. If you survive, you will have good luck. Since some hardships will come sooner or later, when she is young and ignorant, her inner trauma may be less than when she grows up and is sensible. Hard work ahead, safe and smooth in the future. Does this make you feel better?
Look at it from another angle. Imagine what would happen if this bottle of boiling water burned on your face instead of your leg? Do you feel lucky to think so? Although the child was unfortunately burned, the consequences were at least within the range that children and adults could bear. Shouldn't we be glad things haven't gotten worse?
Besides, things have already happened, and no matter how much you regret it, you can't undo it. If you can't figure it out, you can't extricate yourself from the pain and ruin your body. Will you take care of you or the children?
At this point, I think I can figure it out. Sister potato has said everything she needs to say. As for how much I played, Sister Potato doesn't know.
After Sister Potato left, Lian's mother-in-law said that your colleague is a cultured person after all, which is really comforting. After hearing what she said, the big stone that weighed on my heart seemed to have been removed, and it was easy at once.
Being able to speak means that when others are confused, your words should clear the fog in their hearts and give them confidence and strength; When he is lonely and sad, your words should give him warmth and dependence; When he is depressed, you should give him encouragement and hope; When he is arrogant, your words should remind and warn him.
Being able to speak is an art, which should be deeply rooted in people's hearts and have an altruistic heart. Be compassionate, so that you can be affectionate and empathetic. We should listen to others patiently and put ourselves in others' shoes. It is necessary to understand the ins and outs of things and to be able to foresee the consequences. In this way, what you say is more powerful and easier to be accepted by others.
On the evening of the first lunar month in 20 12, Sister Potato, her mother and daughter were walking with friends in Sanya Bay. As the sun sets, the sea is sparkling and golden.
On the beach, along the coast and under coconut trees, people leisurely walk, chat, dance and play instrumental music. What a peaceful and prosperous southern scenery.
Just as they were walking and enjoying the beautiful sunset, they saw a group of people gathered in front of them, and curiosity drove them to look together.
In the crowd, a pregnant woman with a big belly was sitting in the sea, crying at the top of her lungs and trying to jump into the sea. People around her are urging her to relax and stop doing stupid things.
Her friends are also trying to pull her, but she doesn't listen to anyone's advice and wants to commit suicide. Onlookers continued to persuade, with little effect. It seems that no one can come up with a good solution at the moment, and the atmosphere is somewhat deadlocked.
The sea is a little cold at night, and if it continues like this, I'm afraid it's not good for pregnant women and fetuses. Sister potato was a little worried, so she said to her friend, I want to try, and I'm sure I can convince her. Seeing Sister Potato's confident appearance, my friend shouted to the onlookers: Please forgive me, my friend knows psychology, let her persuade me!
Knowing psychology, this hat is a bit big. She is bluffing, thought Sister Potato. I have only a smattering of psychology, far from understanding it.
The crowd loosened and made a gap. Sister Potato went to find a pregnant woman, and asked her friends first.
It turns out that pregnant women have been hospitalized for labor, and they want to eat something delicious for dinner, so let their husbands buy it. Who knows that my husband is lazy and doesn't want to go, and he also scolded her. The pregnant woman ran out of the hospital and jumped into the sea.
"Her husband is really not a thing!" Sister Potato cursed in her heart.
At first, Sister Potato advised her like a crowd: It's no big deal. Relax, don't do anything stupid. You still have a child in your belly, so you have to think of him.
It turned out to be useless!
When Sister Potato remembered that she was having trouble with her husband, others advised her in similar words. As a result, the more she was persuaded, the angrier she became. What is more exasperating is that they put in a good word for him. In the end, it seems that she is the bad guy. This is a beautiful day, but it must be unreasonable. There are too many questions.
Although the peacemaker's original intention was good, it didn't actually work, and the result was counterproductive. Such persuasion can only make Sister Potato in a more isolated position, and make her feel that no one understands her, sympathizes with her, speaks for her and supports her.
In fact, most of the contradictions in life are caused by trivial matters, not a matter of principle at all. It takes two to tango. I really don't know how to adjust it. It's better to play 50 boards each and say one side of the story.
The pregnant woman who came back to me may not really want to die.
If a person really doesn't want to live, he will never make such a big noise. He can end himself casually when others are not paying attention.
She just wants to find an extreme way to vent her grievances, hoping that someone will sympathize with her, understand her and support her.
With this analysis, Sister Potato knows what to say.
At this time, her husband was still scolding her, and Sister Potato scolded him.
She put her arms around the pregnant woman's shoulder, hugged her, wanted to give her some comfort, and then whispered in her ear, "You are such an asshole. You are going to have a baby, and you still don't know how to let you go. I feel sorry for you. " Think about it, is it worth dying for such a man? You just don't want him. Why do you put yourself and your children's lives in danger? He is so heartless, but the child is your own flesh and blood, and the child will love you in the future. You should hurry back to the hospital now, or you will be in trouble if something happens. "
After listening to Sister Potato's words, the pregnant woman suddenly calmed down a lot, and her friends responded quickly and helped her up one after another. When they turned to leave, the man was still swearing.
Sister Potato grabbed him and told him, "It's not easy for a woman to conceive in October, and she will have great physical and psychological discomfort. You should be considerate and take care of it. " From now on, she will gradually forget today's sadness. "
Speaking is putting yourself in the other person's shoes. It can't be solved by a few kind words. Being able to speak requires certain wisdom, keen insight and accurate judgment, as well as a relatively solid knowledge reserve. With these, what you say can be to the point, to touch people's hearts and achieve the expected results.
Some men, especially competitive, sometimes fight for so-called face. The result is to win and lose, or lose both.
During a holiday in college, on the train home, Sister Potato was absorbed in reading. Suddenly, there was a commotion. For some unknown reason, two young men next to them grabbed each other and fought.
As we all know, it is not worth fighting for a trivial matter. But for the sake of face, no one will step down. Someone needs to give them a step at this time.
Watching them intertwined, Sister Potato stood up. , yelling in a low voice, "what's the big deal, you two fight in public, also not too shameful! Hurry up and stop when you are ready. " The two boys are obedient, let go of each other and sit down.
Now that I think about it, the potato sister at that time was fierce enough. If one of them is angered, she can't be beaten by fat herself.
In any case, it is very gratifying and satisfying to quell a conflict. The strategy at that time was also used properly. Aren't you proud? Sister potato specializes in saving face.
Another time, Sister Potato went to her mother-in-law's community and met a similar conflict on the street corner in front of the community.
At the corner, there is a car parked, and there is a tricycle in front of the car on the left. Two people are arguing and blaming each other. A few onlookers, some watching, some occasionally exhorting a few words.
When such a thing happens, timid people will hide far away. What if there is a fight and innocent people are injured?
Sister potato has a chivalrous heart since she was a child, and always wants to draw a sword to help her when she sees the uneven road. When you encounter a dispute, you always want to solve it.
Sister Potato didn't make a move. She stood on the sidewalk in the street and watched the development of the situation. If they can solve it themselves and reach a settlement, that is the best.
What happened was simple. At that time, the car turned right and the tricycle just turned left, almost getting on the bar. Fortunately, the speed is slow and there is no harm to people and cars.
According to the truth, if both sides are all right, they should go their separate ways. Unexpectedly, an eventful owner got down from the passenger cab of the car, grabbed the tricycle owner and insisted on discussing who was right and who was wrong.
That guy drinks too much, and a spark can blow him up. He swore and refused to forgive.
The tricycle owner is young and covered in blood. How can he stand such anger?
The two men didn't talk enough, and finally they collided. After being pulled away by the onlookers, the drunk took out his mobile phone and called his friend to ask for reinforcements. Not to be outdone, the tricycle owner also called. There are few friends and relatives.
Seeing that the war was about to escalate into a gang fight, Sister Potato decided to intervene after watching it for ten minutes.
She observed that the tricycle owner was weak and reasonable, so she pulled him aside and did his ideological work.
Sister Potato said to him, Brother, can you listen to her advice? That man is drunk, and it is impossible to be reasonable. It's a waste of effort to reason with him and never make it clear.
Besides, this was originally a small matter between you two, and now you are all looking for reinforcements. At that time, two groups of people beat each other, things got out of control, and both sides suffered casualties. Can you bear the result? Didn't you harm your relatives and friends? Why implicate innocent people? You don't want to see this result, do you?
The tricycle owner said wisely, well, elder sister, I will listen to you. Then she was pushed onto a tricycle by Sister Potato and left by bike.
Sister potato turned around and found that the drunk was still jumping, pointing to the direction of the tricycle and threatening to curse. She went directly to the driver who had been doing nothing and said to him, Look, I finally persuaded the tricycle owner to leave, so you should take your friend away quickly.
The driver was reasonable, immediately got off the bus and stuffed the drunk into the co-cab, then started the car and left slowly.
A conflict that lasted for nearly 20 minutes, just because of a few words from Sister Potato, subsided in less than one minute.
Talking can turn enemies into friends, make life more harmonious and society more stable. This is the power of language.
Potato sister also has helpless times, such as selfishness and unreasonable troubles; Stubborn enough to hit the south wall and never look back; Too much to drink, Lickitung is big, his brain is fragmented, and his spear is behind him; With a little authority, if you have money, you will be arrogant and feel arrogant; Ignorant but self-righteous In the face of this type of person, there is nothing she can do.
Sister Potato is a mortal with limited ability. People and things beyond her power are resigned to fate.
Note: The pictures in this article come from the hand-taken photos of Huining potatoes.