Where is the custom of holding a wedding? How did it happen?

According to the story of the older generation, there was a custom of making bridal chamber in Ming and Qing dynasties, which has been passed down to this day. With the changes of the times, the content has evolved and updated, but the form remains the same. Marriage is a great event in life. Relatives and friends get together to eat wedding banquets, count red envelopes, set off firecrackers and share wedding candy ... After the wedding banquet, it is a lively time to see the groom in the bridal chamber that night. Accompanied by her aunt, the bride sat on the bed with heavy makeup, and behind her was a quilt mountain with new red and green quilts. In the bridal chamber, the red candle has a high fever and likes to joke. It is also a civilized behavior to ask the bride and groom for red eggs or candy to make the scene festive and lively. However, there are some uncivilized behaviors in the process of disturbing the bridal chamber, and some even take the bedding, pillows or other utensils in the room as a threat to ask for red eggs or other things. Although this is an excessive act of a few people, it is incompatible with making the new house truly entertaining, and it is also unacceptable and opposed by people with high civilization. At the end of the noisy room, the groom's parents came forward, distributed red eggs and candy, pleaded for everyone, asked everyone to leave, and sent the groom into the room to form a couple. At this point, the bridal chamber is over, and the activity of sending Lang into the room will be carried out. Wedding customs such as welcoming relatives, visiting the church and returning to the door have a long history. Since the Tang and Song Dynasties, and even the Ming and Qing Dynasties, it has been circulated among the people for a long time. Marriage is an important event in life, and it has always been about ostentation and extravagance. The form is grand and festive, and the cost is relatively high. Because it is a happy event, ordinary people are willing to spend money or even borrow money, but they should also make the wedding decent. Young people grow up, men are older than women, and it is natural to get married. Parents have carefully planned the marriage of raising children since they were very young. When they are near the age of marriage, they will entrust a matchmaker. At the same time, they are going to raise some big fat pigs, and they will give bride price and pork when they are engaged. This is called carrying blue. Besides rice noodles and pork, other gifts are given. When getting married, the man should also bring blue, steamed bread and zongzi. The woman wants to give the groom a set of dress shoes and socks in return, ask someone to choose a good day, invite a matchmaker when it is due, hold a banquet for four relatives and eight relatives, invite people to come in, kill pigs and sheep in advance, have the first banquet, call Feng wine, and have the luncheon the next day, call Media wine. All the people attending other banquets are considered as dowry. After the banquet, prepare the sedan chair, arrange the bride selection personnel, in addition to two matchmakers, and Gu (. Short-term task is responsible for delivering lanterns with a pair of lanterns (red cloth with masthead lights). When you arrive at the bride's house, please have tea (longan litchi tea) and snacks (dried noodles). At night, the bride's reception team will be the first in the east, and grandpa and uncle will be the first in the west. At night, the sedan chair will stop in the bride's courtyard, with oranges at both ends and a pot of water on it. Don't put it out. In the middle of the meal, the chef and the maid of the bride's family will send face wash soup, and ask the matchmaker and the long-term receptionist to wash their faces and hands and add vegetables. Relatives of the bride will give red envelopes and cigarettes to end the party. In the evening, relatives of the bride's family will beg for firecrackers, and firecrackers will be set off at the same time to show their joy. Before the bride goes out in the middle of the night, the relatives of the bride will have firecrackers. This is called urging the bride. The bride herself is dressed by her companion in the boudoir. In the past, she wore a pearl crown and red clothes. It's time. She got into the sedan chair. The bride first asked the matchmaker and carriage for a red envelope (called sedan chair silver), then stepped on it, stood on it, was picked up by her brothers and sent to the sedan chair. At this time, suona * is blowing festive music, firecrackers are ringing, and the bride. The bride should prepare several red envelopes to be collected by relatives. These red envelopes are weighed as water bags and arrive at the groom's house. Firecrackers are also exploding one after another, and suona is blown hard to express a warm welcome and make the bride proud. Before getting off the sedan chair, she had to receive a red envelope from the groom's family to meet the needs of getting off the sedan chair at the rear. Otherwise, sitting still expresses dissatisfaction. This is called begging for the money of the sedan chair, and then accompanying my aunt to the red pocket. After entering the bridal chamber and sitting on the bed, the kitchen holds out a bowl of macaroni, which is for the bride to eat first and then for the groom to eat. In fact, she moved chopsticks a few times and didn't really eat them. People who come back from the wedding have tea and snacks, and all the guests have snacks to rest. When the time is up, a ceremony of worshipping heaven and earth will be held. The lights and candles in the class are brilliant and the offerings are rich. Gong Guan ordered them to worship the heavens and the earth and their ancestors to remove offerings and other sacrifices. Lunch begins. This banquet is called bride's wine. The bride is led by her aunt and sits on the east side. Grandpa, uncle and other relatives are present. In the evening, please send the groom to the bridal chamber and read a congratulatory message to the effect that Lang will be sent to the room, and a pair of mandarin ducks will be paired, so that a plum blossom girl will be born this year and a champion Lang will be born next year. After seeing Lang off, the bride and groom will close the door and quit after drinking longan litchi tea. The bride and groom should hide the red eggs brought by their parents in a secret place in the room, then go to bed and officially become. The next morning, my sister-in-law still sent the washing soup sent by Dong and others into the room and began to open the door wide. Many people go in to search for eggs or directly ask the bride and groom for red eggs. This is a sign of early birth, and everyone is encouraged to quit, so that the bride can comb out of the house and make tea to honor her parents, grandparents, uncles and other elders. After drinking tea, she will put a red envelope and call it meeting money. Some brides still charge a meeting fee after drinking (to prevent guests from making tea after drinking). At noon, the groom's family continued to hold a banquet and called the chef to thank everyone for their busy work for the wedding. In the afternoon, the waiter (waiter) returned the borrowed bowls, pots, tables, oranges and other utensils, and the happy event was called a complete one. On the second day after the wedding, the bride and brother sent red egg candy on behalf of their parents, held a banquet and went back in the afternoon. On the third day after marriage, the bride and the bride went to visit their relatives at their husbands' and mothers' homes. That night, both of them went back to the groom's house and brought back presents, especially a pair of male hens, called offspring chickens, which meant that the children of the two couples were prosperous and generations would come. The secret of the bridal chamber is the last procedure of the wedding and an indispensable part of any wedding. It is the climax of the wedding and the most lively and interesting program. On the wedding night, relatives and friends sit around the room and joke with the bride in various ways, which is called "disturbing the room". There are various ways to "pretend to be the bride", and there are similarities and differences in different places. To sum up, it can be divided into two kinds: literature and martial arts. Wennao often uses a more elegant way to let the bride tell riddles and couplets, let her tell her love experiences and tell things about men and women that are not usually seen in her mouth. In Shanxi, the folk call it "Tell your son", which is full of fun, forcing the bride to make a fool of herself because she can't answer. "In the evening, busybodies are mostly composed of harmonic language, forcing the bride to sing it, which is called' noisy room'. It has intensified recently, and the celebration is still a joke, which is very rude. " (Republic of China: Yicheng County Records) Fighting is a rude way, not only swearing, but also touching the bride, which is quite practical. When making trouble in the bridal chamber, peers, younger generations, relatives and friends, classmates and colleagues all crowded into the bridal chamber and laughed and played, especially the groom's friends. They tried every means to make fun of the bride by performing in public. As the saying goes, "three days doesn't matter", except for parents. During this period, the casual relationship between people is allowed by etiquette and customs, and many taboos have been lifted, much like the carnival in western culture. Therefore, no matter how ridiculous and unacceptable, the bride must never turn her face. If the person who makes trouble in the bridal chamber is angry, it will be considered as the bride's willfulness, bad popularity and no better future. Making trouble in the bridal chamber is a way to congratulate the newlyweds. In folk customs, people think that foxes are always in the bridal chamber and ghosts worship them. In order to drive away the evil spirits and strengthen the yang of human potential, they made trouble in the bridal chamber, so there is a folk saying that "people are not haunted." Having a noisy room is also a functional test for newlyweds, including wit and patience. Originally, it was a "gateway test", but it often went too far among the people and became a vulgar custom. The custom of disturbing the bridal chamber has a long history. Hanshu records that "on the wedding night, there is no difference between men and women, only pride." (Hanshu Geography) The custom of disturbing the room may have originated from the "listening room". On the wedding night, relatives and friends eavesdrop on the words and deeds of the new wife outside the bridal chamber window. People are only interested in the relationship between men and women. From the perspective of sexual psychology, this kind of behavior seems to be "psychosexuality" in Freud's theory. Later it gradually evolved into a bridal chamber to tease the bride. This custom became popular in the Tang Dynasty. Not only the relatives of the man, but also the guests and friends have the right to tease the bride. Even an irrelevant stranger can stop, criticize, tease and tease. This custom has changed from individual behavior to collective behavior since ancient times. Looking at the custom of disturbing the bridal chamber, the psychological motivation that drives people to listen to disturbing the bridal chamber is complicated. First of all, this is an externalization and subconscious impulse of human sexual consciousness. People show some teasing to the opposite sex from playing with women and caressing women. After venting, they can overcome the psychology of envy and jealousy, so as to achieve a certain gender balance in the boundary of "subconscious". This attitude and behavior towards the opposite sex is strictly restricted at ordinary times, and making love in the bridal chamber just provides an opportunity. Secondly, the bridal chamber is the product of arranged marriage in traditional marriage. Because only after the wedding ceremony can the excited groom open the bride's red scarf. The husband and wife have never met, have no intersection, and have no emotional communication. It is obviously strange and embarrassing to fall in love at the first meeting. Therefore, the custom of having a bridal chamber can eliminate each other's distance and strangeness, coordinate each other's tension and harmonious feelings. There is no doubt that the trouble of the bridal chamber is a necessary preparation before the 100-meter race. Furthermore, under the prosperous psychological trend, most newly-married families have the dual psychology of not only bearing the troubles of relatives and friends, but also being willing to let them make trouble. Noisy rooms can familiarize relatives and friends of both sides, show that the family is full of guests and prosperous people, enhance communication and feelings between relatives and friends, and promote harmony between neighbors. Liveliness is the aesthetic ideal of China people's life, and disturbing the bridal chamber is the means to achieve this goal. Only when people are busy can an atmosphere of happiness and celebration be formed. Noisy is a scene of joy and a symbol of exultation and prosperity. Only when people are noisy, there will be a market for celebrations, extensive wealth and a prosperous population.