Give you some "worldly wisdom":
1. Even if you are not a big shot, talk to him with a consulting attitude and tone, because a person does not judge a book by its cover, and a mentor often comes from a humble life and work.
2. People who take the initiative to order food at dinner, don't let the host or guests order food, because that's not what distinguished people usually do; But please pay attention to asking their preferences, not just ordering what they like, which requires accumulating experience in ordering food at ordinary times.
3. Always find the positive aspects of friends, partners, colleagues (even children). Note that even the boss needs your approval, but you should try to say it in private; Ordinary friends and colleagues should praise publicly.
When others praise their looks, things and personality, don't take it for granted or pretend to deny it. The correct way is to thank your friends for their affirmation and support.
Writing notes will impress others, so learn to use them, including IOUs, receipts, leave slips and application letters. Taking the initiative to use notes will make people feel that you are very standardized. If you know enough, ask others to do the same, and you will be able to cope better in the future.
6. Even if you are not a service person, you should take the initiative to pour water when friends or colleagues have guests. This will make friends and colleagues have a lot of face, and also make guests feel that your friends and colleagues have a lot of prestige. They will especially appreciate your gesture.
7. Although you feel that you are a novice or a person with low status, you should be brave enough to ask questions and take the initiative to ask others' needs, instead of waiting for leaders or senior colleagues to be nice to you, because doing so often requires special efforts.
8. When others are not in their seats, enthusiastically help to answer and record phone calls, accept letters and deliver messages. Remember to remind colleagues or classmates in the team of some important agendas you know.
9. Enter other people's rooms after consultation, or look at other people's bookshelves or indoor items; You have to ask permission to use other people's computers and sit in other people's private seats, but don't rummage through other people's notebooks.
10. You need to be invited to participate in the activity. If you can't attend, you should inform the host in advance. If you are late, you should inform the host at an appropriate time and explain later. If you bring an uninvited friend, you should inform the host in advance.
1 1. Don't ask others for gifts. Whether you like it or not, thank you for receiving the gift, because the giver will care about your reaction. It is not appropriate to transfer gifts from one place to another, especially to keep the symbols and traces of the original giver, which is very impolite.
12. Take the initiative to introduce your friends to others, or take the initiative to thread the needle between friends you know.
13. When friends of different status are around, keep smiling and greet those friends who are introverted, unnoticed and may feel a little inferior. Helping the disadvantaged groups in social life will get special gratitude from others. In other social occasions, try not to show uncomfortable and negative expressions about the situation of people with lower social status, especially their unaccustomed living conditions and habits. Take the initiative to greet people with lower social status.
14. Don't eat alone if you have something delicious, take the initiative to tell your friends or colleagues the good information you know, and think of others if you have something delicious.
15. Don't criticize others emotionally when they do something wrong. Pay special attention to the facts and avoid judging others' character, personality and family upbringing. Criticism is more constructive when it can propose solutions. Don't criticize blindly, and don't forget to affirm the advantages of others when criticizing. If you can be humorous when criticizing, the negative impact will often be less. When you are criticized or embarrassed, you can laugh at yourself humorously and improve constructive communication.
16. Heroes don't suffer immediate losses, and don't continue to add fuel to the fire until the problem is solved. Calm down, collect more data and think clearly.
17. When you are not fully sure, answer the invitation of others with the tone of "strive for" and "try your best" and promise to fulfill it as much as possible.
18. Although we are talking about business, we should try our best to do something for others without talking about returns, so as to win a sense of superiority over others psychologically. A person's social status is the sum of social debts owed to him by others.