Source | Taste Zunyi
"Caigen Tan" has a cloud: "Where the path is narrow, leave a step with pedestrians; When the taste is strong, subtract three points to make people eat. "
People's hearts are all meat. You are convenient for others, and others will leave you a way out. The heart is one foot wide and the road is ten feet wide. Undoubtedly, this is the great wisdom of life.
Lin Yutang wrote in "The Wind is Trembling": "There is no struggle, it is a great struggle: there is no struggle, and the whole world does not compete with it." Admittedly, this is not cowardice, but generosity and foresight.
I have read a fable: two little ants saw two pieces of bread on the road. But the two pieces of bread are not the same size, and everyone wants to fight for a bigger one.
One said, "I am young and eat a lot. I should take the big one." The other said, "I am old, and it is not easy to find food." I should give me the older one. "
None of them is willing to give in, and no one is willing to suffer, and they are red in the face. But no one can compete with anyone, so there is a stalemate. At this moment, a stray dog came, picked up two pieces of bread and ran away quickly.
Two ants regretted it. If we can give in to each other, we won't end up with nothing.
In life, we are not like this, often in order to fight for a sigh of relief, and both lose. Those who know how to make concessions in time seem to suffer, but in the end they are big winners.
In the food market, a lady's booth business was particularly hot, which attracted the envy of many colleagues. The stall owners swept the garbage and fell in front of the women's booth. But the woman didn't get angry or stop, just cleaned herself up silently.
The stall owner next to the woman saw this situation and couldn't stand it anymore. She felt wronged: "They all took out the garbage in front of your booth. Why don't you get angry and stop them? "
The woman smiled and replied, "In our hometown, during the Spring Festival, we always sweep the garbage at home, which means that the more garbage there is, the more money there is at home. Now people send me money every day, how can I be angry! Besides, make money harmoniously! If you hurt the gas, it will ruin your fortune. "
The stall owner, who was embarrassed by her, was particularly ashamed and never went to take out the garbage in front of her booth again. And women's business is getting better and better.
As the saying goes, "Take a step back and broaden the horizon." Women don't argue, but they win the hearts of the people.
"Caigen Tan" has a cloud: "Where the path is narrow, leave a step with pedestrians; When the taste is strong, subtract three points to make people eat. " People's hearts are all meat. You are convenient for others, and others will leave you a way out.
The heart is one foot wide and the road is ten feet wide. Undoubtedly, this is the great wisdom of life.
It is said in "Augmented Sage": "Be patient for a while and don't worry for a hundred days."
People live all their lives, and it is inevitable that everyone will be angry and sad sometimes. Some people make a scene with others when they are angry, while others can calmly reflect and make themselves stronger.
A long time ago, there was a man named Aidiba in Tibet. When he is angry, he never quarrels with others, but silently runs around his house and land three times. I will work harder after every run.
Slowly, his house and land became bigger and bigger, but he kept this habit. Many years later, Aidiba, who was already white-haired, was angry with others again. This time, he couldn't run, but walked around the land three times with a cane.
When he finished walking, the sun was about to set. He was so tired that he sat on the edge of the field and gasped. His grandson couldn't help asking him why he ran around the house three times when he was angry.
He said: "When I was young, I ran and thought, how can I be angry when my house and land are so small?" Then work hard. Now every time I walk, I feel that my house and land are so big, so why bother others? The gas will disappear. "
If something happens, you will get angry. If you get angry, you will quarrel with others. What if you win? It is better to work hard when you are angry and quarreled.
There is a saying: "it is better to complain than to work hard, and it is better to live up to expectations than to be angry." Only by holding your temper can you become an atmosphere. " I'm impressed.
It's easy to lose your temper, but control is the real skill. A really smart person never compares with others emotionally, but proves everything with his own ability.
No joy, no sadness, no noise and no trouble is a person's best state. Knowing how to be angry is better than living up to expectations, and turning your face is better than turning your face. This is the best feng shui in life.
Low-key is attitude, not showing off is pattern. There is a good saying: "when people are outside, the sky is behind." Don't be too ostentatious, but know how to converge in time.
Once, a male writer was invited to attend a pen meeting. He was well dressed and noticed a woman writer, who was simple in dress, modest in attitude, polite and quiet. The male writer thought she must be a bad writer, otherwise she wouldn't be so low-key.
He immediately felt condescending pride and asked, "Miss, are you a professional writer?"
"Yes, sir." The woman writer replied.
"So, do you have any masterpieces published? Can I read one or two books? " He asked again.
"I'm just writing a novel, not a masterpiece." The female author said with a smile.
The male writer proudly boasted, "You write novels, too? Then we are in the same trade. I have published 339 novels. How many books have you published? "
The woman writer said, "I only wrote one."
Male writers are more proud. He said contemptuously, "Oh, you only wrote one. Can you tell me the name of this novel? "
The woman writer said flatly, "This novel is called Gone with the Wind."
The male writer who was talking loudly just now immediately blushed and closed his mouth. The female writer is margaret mitchell, the author of Gone with the Wind. She wrote only one novel in her life, but people all over the world know her, but no one knows this male writer.
People who like to show off their talents are not necessarily really talented people. A truly outstanding person never shows his mountains and dew, but keeps a low profile and is modest and restrained.
Gorky said: "Wisdom is a gem. If you add a modest edge, it will be even more brilliant. " The higher the level, the more introverted, the less you will show off yourself.
Mr. Jiang Yang once said: "We were so eager for the waves of fate, and finally found that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually inner peace and calmness.
We were too eager for the recognition of the outside world, and finally found that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. "More than half of life, more and more understand, a lot of things don't have to care too much.
Treat people with one step higher, and retrogression is progress; It is a blessing to be lenient with others, and it is also self-serving to benefit others. Optimism and calmness are the most comfortable lifestyle.
People who really live fully understand, don't argue, don't make noise and don't show off. Don't lose face, just look at the flowers in front of the court; Going or staying is unintentional, and it is easy to follow the clouds.
For the rest of my life, I wish you and I can live a full and calm life.