First, learn to burn incense in the cold temple and grasp the standards of "leadership".
As employees, we all like to be with the leader with the most power. From a certain perspective, he controls the fate of his employees.
For example, when there are personnel changes, one sentence from the top leader is more effective than a hundred sentences from other leaders. He decides who to promote with little opposition.
Following the trend is an unavoidable fact.
If you observe carefully, you will find that the biggest leader has an endless stream of people asking him to do things. You finally took a chance to chat with him alone, but his phone kept ringing and he didn't hear what you said clearly.
A leader with great power may not be able to remember you or help you, so you must know how to "step back and settle for the next best thing." Set your sights on leaders in general.
In the workplace, things are changing. Those ordinary leaders will be promoted to very important positions in a few years. If you lay a good emotional foundation before he promotes you to a new position, you can use this emotional card.
When getting along with leaders, you should take the initiative to get closer, but you should pay attention to "treat them differently and highlight the key points." Generally speaking, only leaders who can truly appreciate you are reliable.
Second, learn to pretend to be deaf and dumb, and grasp the standards for "colleagues".
Find a reliable colleague and take the initiative to get close to him. You will feel his positive energy and get his help. At the same time, you must understand that it is natural for colleagues at the same level to compete with each other. If all the employees in a unit do not strive to make progress, the unit will lose its vitality.
When colleagues get along with each other every day, it is inevitable that some will make irresponsible remarks, some will make trouble secretly, and some will establish small circles. All aspects of life are in it.
You have to learn to be silent and control your mouth.
Don’t take it to heart or say anything about trivial matters; don’t care about other people’s families, even if you know them, pretend you don’t know them; for the small circle of colleagues, don’t worry about them. You should join carefully and don't bear joint liability for other people's faults.
In front of your colleagues, if you are a relatively well-established person, no one will know your true identity, but you will see through others. When you compete, you know what to expect.
Third, adhere to moral rules and grasp the standards of the "opposite sex".
There is such a question: How to deal with the relationship with colleagues of the opposite sex?
The questioner told the story between her and her male boss.
The male boss is about ten years older than her. He is the head of the department in the unit. He is very charming and approachable.
One day, her male boss came back from a business trip and asked her to pick him up at the airport. She refused. After all, she didn't want to disappoint her husband.
After that, when she worked overtime several times, her male boss took the initiative to drive her home, and she did not refuse. When getting out of the car, the two people leaned together and were seen by an acquaintance.
Things escalated quickly, and she was pushed to the forefront. She wanted to leave, but she was afraid of losing her job and was in a dilemma.
If you are not single, do not provoke any colleagues of the opposite sex, otherwise when rumors spread, you will not be able to hold your head up and be a good person; if you are single, do not fall in love with colleagues casually, in case the relationship does not succeed. , it will not be easy to get along with him in the future.
When getting along with colleagues of the opposite sex, you must abide by the "clear rules and precepts" so that you can sit back and relax. Strictly separate work and life.
Fourth, know how to refuse decisively and grasp the scale of "villain".
As the saying goes: "Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes."
In the workplace, with so many people, it is mostly a pool of muddy water.
There are always many good people in the world, but there are also many villains. You must always be vigilant and don't let villains plot against you.
Generally speaking, when you encounter villains in the workplace, you should do these three things well. Once you understand them, you will have an idea: first, do things openly and above board, and do not let villains take advantage of them; Second, learn to be patient, observe secretly, find the villain's weaknesses, choose the right opportunity, and fight back; third, keep a distance from the villain.
The key is to reject the villain decisively from the beginning and don’t let him get a chance to get close to you. If he doesn't succeed the first time, he won't give up. If he fails to succeed many times, he will alienate you.
Never act like a good old man in front of villains. Your kindness is worthless in the eyes of villains.
In the workplace, people are also divided into levels. On the surface, everyone is equal, but wages, status, voice, and potential are all different, and there are also levels caused by different small circles. You have to find your own position and don't underestimate yourself or overestimate yourself.
If you know the right scale for communication, you will be like a loach, not easily restricted by others, and always able to find room for survival in the cracks.
You must know that people in the workplace eat from the same bowl when things are good; when times are bad, they tear each other apart; after leaving, "people leave and the tea cools down."
In short, no matter who you are with, you cannot cross the line and you must be measured.