Just like housework, it is difficult to be honest and clean, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to solve for thousands of years. What shall we do?
In fact, in Bai Lian's view, treat each other honestly, there are no bad people and no bad things! People's gas fields echo each other, unless there is eternal fate, that is another matter.
After getting married, I moved about a dozen times (a lot of internal adjustments in the unit), and there are many neighbors, all of whom get along like a family. I sometimes meditate on myself. How lucky I am to have a good life given by God. I always feel that Bai Lian is a blessed person. Therefore, whether neighbors, relatives or friends, whether they meet by chance or have a long-term relationship, An Baili treats each other with sincerity. Thanksgiving life, every encounter, acquaintance, know each other, stay together. ...
2. An Baili lived in the countryside since childhood, with simple folk customs, harmony and friendliness. Don't say that children know each other when they play in the street. Whose pig, sheep, cat and dog got lost, and who knows which one is the owner and was driven back. Although the days are tight, there is only enough to eat and drink, but the road is not lost and there are few things.
Even if things are lost occasionally, there is a 7788 in my heart. How many people have lost things! They all belong to the villagers. Forgive them once for a while. I'm sorry for stealing you next time. Keep an eye on it at home.
This kind of thing rarely happens, and the motivation is poverty and being forced to make a living. People are lacking in ambition, sometimes evil thoughts are inevitable, and neighbors are merciful because of understanding. People leave their names and geese leave their voices. Once confused, they will be relieved by compassion and grateful for their neighbors' tolerance, which will be correct!
To tell the truth, there was nothing to take at home at that time, and neighbors could still see who came in! You can't go out empty-handed with things that don't belong to you. Of course, borrowing is another matter. As soon as anyone opens his mouth, he will borrow socks and even give shoes as long as there is one.
In Bai Lian's impression, my hometown is Tao Yuanming's Peach Blossom Garden. The land is flat and spacious, and the house is just like it. There is a country with fertile land, beautiful ponds, mulberry and bamboo, transportation and chickens and dogs. Among them, men and women wear clothes (zhuó), know they are strangers, have yellow hair (tiáo) and are happy (yí). Living in such an environment since childhood, the family in the neighborhood will naturally come into contact with it.
There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people.
It is normal, trivial and insignificant for neighbors to stumble. Sometimes the misunderstanding is so big that no one can tell who, so they go their own way and don't disturb each other, let alone hurt each other.
When there is a wedding at home, please ask the deacon to help them arrange it in advance. At this time, no matter how big the face is, there will be no one-night feud. Men bring a pack of cigarettes at home, and they invite their neighbors to help. The woman's family prepares food and drinks early, which is delicious and entertaining. It is reasonable not to fight the masses, and no matter how big the battle is, it can't stand the great events of the villagers. Please, or be good brothers and have a cigarette and go home.
After three rounds of wine and tea, nothing will happen if you forget the past. Can't people be embarrassed? The main family came to ask for help. We can't be unappreciative, get sick and die, have a funeral and get married. In the future, everyone will have to rely on neighboring countries for help! Get off the steps, the man who knows the time is Jie Jun! Although I can't say so many reasons, what I do is to go in the right direction, without any leisure (dislike).
4. Marriages and funerals in rural areas, happy events are harmonious neighborhood relations!
The family did something and all parties supported it. All the red events came to celebrate, and the host family thanked the villagers for their help and support. They eat and drink well and are greeted by relatives and friends. It's lively and peaceful inside and outside!
White matter is a little messy, and the grief of the host family is self-evident. The neighbors put down their own affairs early and offered to help. The world is big, the dead are big, and the grave is safe! Many things are done step by step, not arranged by people. Women help calm their emotions, do housework, cook and greet them. People build their huts, decorate their shops and do their own things, exactly the same. If they are family members or respected elders, they need Dai Xiao to show their respect. You can't let relatives in Shiliba Village joke about being rude next door.
5. Bai Lian moved once more for her children to go to school, more than Meng Mu moved three times. It takes ten years to educate people and a hundred years to plant trees. Bai Lian is a baby girl, and she also wants to be a phoenix. It is difficult for children to go to school. Renting a house by yourself is the same as renting near the school, and it also saves time on the way to school.
Children grow up listening to the school bell because it is close to the school. When I was in kindergarten, I lived in a friend's dormitory, which was a tube-shaped building of the Education College of Dapi College. * * * Using toilets and water pipes, the kitchen is a corridor, which is also very lively.
We are on the first floor, and there are several young single teachers. Every meal, when I was cooking, those boys and girls came back from work to have a rest. I couldn't help but look at it a few more times. She also asked, "Sister-in-law, what are you cooking? It smells good! We haven't set off fireworks in this corridor for a long time. Older people move to the family building, and we young singles are too lazy to do it. Watching you cook is just like being at home! "
I was 27 or 28 at that time. After all, I am older than them, and I will respond with a smile: "What a shame! I'll bring you a bowl later! " Then I stewed more minced meat soup, fished out noodles and sent a bowl of noodles. Sometimes I cook porridge and leave a bowl of soup. All the way, I was carefree and comfortable to eat.
Young people don't eat for free, and the unit gives welfare. When they returned to their hometown, they gave An Baili some special products to share. Once, the washed electric heater was placed under the window sill and disappeared when it was collected in the afternoon. As soon as the little girl inquired, she thought that the garbage collector had come in and taken it away, so she asked someone to bring it back for me and take it home. Give it back to Bai Lian: Sister-in-law, this yard is old, the residents are mixed, it is difficult to manage, and it is not safe to put things outside. Let's talk about it later.
In Xi 'an, older married women are called sister-in-law, and Bai Lian really becomes their sister-in-law.
Before long, the girl and some children had a good time in the front building. Books, toys, snacks, share with each other, your home today, my home tomorrow, have fun together! Adults also know each other because of children. Today, your family has cooked food to taste. There are rare things at home tomorrow, and I'll give you a long knowledge. It's enjoyable. Sometimes children occasionally have small frictions, and adults don't care. At best, talk about your children, and be generous. Children's house, dog skin socks are ok anyway, it will be fine in a couple of days, don't worry so much.
When my daughter was in the bungalow, she was as happy as when I was a child, but she lacked a broader field.
6. After attending elementary school, I rented a house in Defu Lane Community. The bathroom and kitchen are indoors, so you don't have to come out when you enter the door. There are four households on the fourth floor of the Dianlou rented by Bai Lian, which was discovered by colleagues in the same unit and separated from her home. I haven't seen anyone visit each other except our two families. I always feel that something is missing, but I can't say.
My friend said it would be nice if you could come. The child finally has a companion. Usually, after school, I go home to finish my homework. It's almost time, and I'm too lazy to go downstairs. While speaking, the two girls went crazy together. The two of us also send our children to and from school, exercise, read books, knit sweaters, go shopping, buy food and cook. Sometimes, it is common for anyone who has something to do to help pick up children and take care of them. Love is stronger than gold's big sister and little sister.
Sometimes I just say hello symbolically when I meet my neighbors on the same floor. After all, they are older than us, so we cannot be rude.
When there was an opportunity, Bai Lian went to work in the children's school, and her friend's girl moved away in junior high school. Like our friends, we won't come out if we go upstairs and enter the door. At that time, my lover's unit was far away and I didn't often go home. Girls occasionally ask, "Mom, is Dad busy at work?" Why do you never go home? Feel like a child from a single-parent family?
In the face of children's questions, I was speechless. ...
I was the one who told the children that Dad was busy at work and couldn't go home on time every day to study, eat and play with her. Sad can only pretend to smile and ask the child: "Isn't mom's love enough?" Do you still miss dad? Didn't dad just come back the other day? "
"Not particularly want to, is bored, go out to play, also don't know other children. Besides, it will be dark after finishing homework, and no children will go out to play. They said that there was a big bad wolf outside at night, and they would take the child away! ? "
7. Defuxiang Community also belongs to the school district, and 80% of them are foreigners. There are three gates in a community, and chickens fly and dogs jump at midnight, which often happens. Not to mention cats and dogs, that is, children don't know anyone, don't know the floor and date, and can't ask others. Where do you start? What is your intention?
Outside the community is Telford Lane Bar Street, and Xi 'an's nightlife begins with the lights here. In places where the lights are dim and it is difficult to wake up, Bai Lian takes her children to work during the day and goes home at night, and occasionally goes shopping, bookstores and supermarkets, almost at two o'clock and one line. Work at sunrise and rest at sunset. During the day, through the bright windows, I imagine the fragrance of coffee and the mood of red wine. Anbaili knew her mission and never had a feast.
Once a friend came to the city to play and asked to go with him. He came to this antique Qingshiban Street and saw bizarre nightclubs and bars. Played a joke on Bai Lian: "Where do you live? How lively?" ! "Seriously tell her that she hasn't been to any home, I don't know what the Taoist priest looks like, and I don't know how happy she is!
The most visited place is Xiangzi Temple at the end of the alley, where I pray for Han Xiangzi, one of the Eight Immortals, and enjoy the fragrance of the ancient pagoda tree. I have been a neighbor for six years without knowing it.
During the Wenchuan earthquake in 2008, the earthquake in Xi 'an was particularly strong, and it was rumored that there were even bigger aftershocks, the epicenter of which was Xi 'an. The time that will be remembered forever has been fixed at 2: 28. At that time, the children had just started class and were preparing for their lunch break. The bed shook and almost dropped the white lotus from the upper berth. Windows rattled against the cracks in the wall, and it seemed that light could be seen through the cracks in the wall. Colleagues in shoes and lunch break staggered out of the dormitory and stood on the small playground or staggered.
I don't know who said that, it seems to be an earthquake! Everyone put on their shoes and ran to their classes to help the substitute teacher evacuate the students to the open playground. At this critical juncture, no one hesitates, and everything is based on the safe evacuation of children.
After counting the number of people, make sure that all the children in their class are safely evacuated. Bai Lian thinks of her children. Looking around, the child is running in my direction from the farthest northeast corner, and quickly stepped forward and hugged the girl tightly. Only then did I know that their class was the first to run to the playground. The teacher said he ran away and made room for other classes. I have counted almost every class this time. The teacher asked me to come to you.
That afternoon, Bai Lian's tears flowed in ... all because of moving.
First of all, holding those timid girls, just like an old hen protecting a chicken, I wish my wings were longer, which could comfort and warm a few frightened and helpless children, crying and crying for their mother, and tears could not help but come to my eyes.
Then I hugged my safe daughter, listened to her talk about the teacher's broad mind, and whispered tears again.
That afternoon, the phone couldn't get through. My wife called the office to confirm that the mother and daughter were safe, and dragged my colleagues to tell me to send a telegram back. When the last big-hearted parent came to pick up the child, it was already seven o'clock in the evening, holding the child's hand and saying, I also want to pick up early. Later, I thought it was not as safe as the school, so I came late. It's getting dark and I can't see her face. Thank you for your trust. It's true. Nothing is safer than school.
On the way home with the children, all the shops on the roadside were closed without exception. When I opened the door, I saw a mess, and tall objects were scattered on the ground. The child was scared to cry. Let the children's homework be quiet and tidy up calmly. I don't know how worried my family should be when I think of the phone, but what should I do if I take out my mobile phone and still can't get through?
9. Bai Lian thinks of her neighbor's sister. She usually just says hello. Is it appropriate to take the liberty of calling home at night? Try it first. It's always right to be nice to others.
When the child knocked at the door, the door opened. It's us at first sight. My sister said happily, "You're back. You can't hear the door ringing. You worry about people. Come back. Very good! " My uneasy heart suddenly melted! Choked and asked the elder sister if she could call home to report her safety. "Come in, come in, that's the phone, go and call, only the landline can get through!"
Go to the sofa and pick up the receiver and hand it to Bai Lian: "Hold it down quickly and dial quickly. The family doesn't know what's the hurry? "
As soon as I dialed, I heard my mother-in-law's anxious voice calling my name, apparently sitting by the phone waiting to report peace! I couldn't bear the joy and sadness of rebirth after the robbery, so I called out to my mother! I will never say a word again, tears will flow freely. The elder sister told her mother-in-law with a microphone that she was a neighbor, her mother and daughter were safe, and everything was fine at home. Please rest assured.
My daughter was frightened by my gaffes. What happened to my mother? ! Wipe your tears with your little hand. Mom won't cry and mom won't cry.
Hearing the warm words of the elder sister and the comfort of her daughter, she calmed down and picked up the phone to let her mother-in-law not worry. His old man's anxious tone kept telling me: "Nothing is good, don't cry. I was in a hurry because I couldn't get through the phone this afternoon. I'll call you at work, but I can't wait, and I'm even more anxious. I will be relieved after this call! " Wake up with the baby at night! "
After this call, Bai Lian came forward to hold her sister's hand tightly and thanked her. My sister's hands are warm, just like those of her family. The words were warmer and went straight to her heart: "Come to me if you have anything, we are all neighbors!"
For a time, Bai Lian was in poor health. Her mother-in-law came to Xi 'an to help take care of her children and became good friends with her sister. Your family and mine visited and chatted, cooked food and shared it with each other, and became good sisters again. At the insistence of her mother-in-law, Bai Lian is called big sister and aunt, and the child is also called grandma. Mother-in-law said that three generations are not at home, it is right to live a little, and three good words are used as money. My neighbor is ten years older than you. How can you call me elder sister?
Listening to her mother-in-law, Bai Lian seems to have returned to her childhood village.
When I left, I could not bear to part with my aunt. I still have my contact information and WeChat, and I have an interactive chat from time to time. During this year's ancient meeting, Auntie specially came to Centennial Oil Mill to buy vegetable oil and osmanthus ball rice.
10. When the children entered junior high school, they moved to the Big Wild Goose Pagoda. The streets are spacious and bright, clean and tidy, and scientific research units and institutions are concentrated here. Cuihua Road is a street dotted with scientific research institutions such as two colleges, three middle schools and three primary schools. Walking in the street, talking softly and smiling, busy during the day and quiet at night, with few cars and pedestrians.
This is Bai Lian's favorite life, completely out of the hustle and bustle of Telford Lane, full of luck, but reluctant to part with China's good neighbor and aunt.
In the morning, the Big Wild Goose Pagoda Square practices morning dancing, and the door is the morning market, so it is convenient to buy food. I also took part in vocal music classes and literature classes, and made many friends in dancing, singing and poetry during my study. In my study, I am a friend who has forgotten my friends. In my life, I am the teacher of Anbaili. He is a good teacher, a good friend and a good neighbor of the First Hospital across the street.
1 1. My former tenant is my friend. When I came, I specially introduced the opposite door and said that it was very nice. Take care of the children and bother others to get to know each other. This is another good neighbor.
Sometimes I don't come home on time when I go out, and the children don't have keys. My aunt ate and drank all the food and did her homework. In return, Bai Lian shared her delicious food and fresh vegetables cooked by her father with her sister.
My son is married and my grandson is full moon. My whole family received my sister's invitation and wedding candy and became neighbors' guests. Big sister also loves Bai Lian's life very much, taking classes together, dancing and singing together, and changing from a neighbor to a mentor, the relationship has been further sublimated.
Sincerely, Shi Kai, Bai Lian feels that this is the fastest progress in recent years since she grew up with her children, and her body and mind have made a qualitative leap. Of course, there is no lack of the precipitation of years like songs and the gentleness of time. I would also like to thank An Baili's good neighbors, mentors and friends for their concern and help.
12. We had to move farther than Meng Mu, and the landlord was very friendly. When we moved in to sign the contract, we said that our grandchildren went to school one year later than the contract, and they rented a house outside, so it was not easy to move once. Bai Lian remembers this feeling and cherishes the corner of the room. Now that I have moved in, I am my home. Clean windows with green plants on the windowsill are full of vitality, comfortable and warm.
The landlord came to collect the rent, but looked at the clean ground and refused to come in. He said: "I have lived for more than ten years, and I didn't know that my room could be cleaned like this. It doesn't feel like my home. I am embarrassed to go in and dare not step on it. "
Living in a house for a long time and aging facilities will inevitably lead to some problems. Solar energy has been repaired several times, and natural gas meters and water meters have been replaced. The natural gas boiler was blocked from time to time, and finally the upstairs leaked water, making the toilet really unusable. The landlord was embarrassed instead: "I was thinking about redecorating after your child graduated. It seems that the plan has to be advanced. You find a new house, I'll refund your rent, and the children probably won't use the furniture in this house anymore. You can use it, so you can take it away. After all, I broke the contract first, so I will make it up to you! "
I really like this home where we all grew up, with a group of mentors and good neighbors. What can I say to a sincere and kind landlord? Thank God for giving Bai Lian a beautiful life and luck!
13. I found a new house on Cuihua Road, which is close to the children's school. The old two-bedroom house. As soon as I entered the room, I saw four doors, mottled walls and floors, and I had a sense of mission to rearrange my home. Heaven rewards diligence, as long as someone has everything!
The children are extremely dissatisfied and there is nothing they can do about their mother. This is the school district! It's not for you to go to school. Why do you want to come here and experience life with our newly renovated three-bedroom and two-bedroom apartment? You grew up in a honey pot, how can you know the hardships of life! Taking out the white lotus is the immortal spirit of Xiao Qiang. Hard-working hands can create everything, and there are always more ways than difficulties!
I'm afraid of people's jobs. With the consent of the landlord, I smashed the cement pool that occupied a lot of places in the kitchen and bought a ceramic pool myself, saving a lot of places. Painted the wall, paved the floor leather, put the furniture according to the size, pulled the screen window and replaced it all.
After cleaning up for more than a month, I finally got the look and taste of home, and the children didn't dislike it. Sometimes he will tell me excitedly: mom, our classmates live in this yard, and many students don't know! Every day, we are like crossing. When we go out, we cross from modern to modern. It's good for us to come in, cross the dimensional gate from modern times and bring back modern times.
Well, not only because neighbors are classmates, they encourage each other. ...
14. After continuous improvement, this home with a sense of crossing has some flavor. The flowers and plants on the balcony make the room more vivid and fragrant!
Tidy up the house and start cleaning the outside. The child's father tidied up a little and knocked at the door and asked. After obtaining the consent, the furniture and waste products piled up in the corridor all the year round and covered with dust will be disposed of. Some neighbors, upstairs and downstairs don't understand, ask, are you from the property? I don't know when it was left, and I don't know whose family it is. Let's live here, that's all!
Amitabha! Bai Lian doesn't understand? What's it like to walk in a pile of garbage and walk in and out of the blinds every day? ?
Because it is a school district, neighbors are like lanterns, changing wave after wave. They are good neighbors who feel at ease when they hit the wall twice. The environment in this yard is negligible, as long as girls have neighbors. Bai Lian still has so many teachers and friends, and now she is still a neighbor!
15. I keep an abandoned dustpan and broom at my door all the year round. Either there is something special about feng shui, or I sweep the corridor regularly. Bai Lianhua loves cleanliness and uses dirty places. How can the home be clean?
* * * environment, who doesn't like to go home to clean every day, go out to do things, the in the mind also clear.
Lived here for two years and swept for two years. Once, the beauty of the former unit asked me that the corridor of this unit was clean and bright, and there was no debris accumulation. We also paid the property management fee, so why not clean this unit? Bai Lian paused and told her that she was a resident, not a property. The beauty turned away puzzled. . .
Work is property. Is Bai Lianhua that much like property? Life is inseparable from material support, but not everything is based on material. Without the drive of interests, you will muddle along and turn a deaf ear to living in garbage!
Although sweeping the corridor is dirty and choking, no one understands it, but it cleans the public environment and the family and neighbors who come back and forth every day, and Bai Lian knows it! On that occasion, the treasure mother upstairs took the children out, and when she met them, she asked them to say thank you aunt!
The joy of dedication is infinite! Also harvested love, warmth and harmony!
16. Today, the smog in Xi is very heavy. Ambry didn't go out to exercise. When shopping in the supermarket, she saw that the corridor was dirty again. Picking up a broom and dustpan to clean, family and neighbors can comfortably cross the time tunnel.
Putting down the broom, Bai Lian's thoughts also passed through this tunnel. Childhood memories, former good neighbors, mentors and friends are all in memories, and we meet again!
In a trance, I looked up and saw the sun. It was only noon! It's neither too early nor too late. It's time for lunch!