This is your life. Everything must be created by yourself, and no one will help you. You can get by at home, but the scenery is infinite when you go out. Your husband is a foreigner, more capable, and his first child is a boy. His life is bitter first and then sweet.
If the above is correct, you should be mentally prepared, and the next few years will be even worse for you. After that, you will have a pleasant journey.