In Who Moved My Cheese, there is such a short story.
Charlie Jones worked hard, and the best thing in his career was the successful broadcast of track and field events in the last Olympic Games.
I thought the glory would last forever, but suddenly one day, the boss told him that he would no longer be in charge of track and field events, but of swimming and diving events broadcast in the next Olympic Games.
After learning the news, Charlie Jones was shocked, because broadcasting swimming and diving events was a completely strange field for him.
He was very upset and depressed, thinking that the boss didn't understand him and didn't pay attention to him.
Under the psychological hint that "someone has touched my cheese", he hates everything around him and is very passive and lazy at work.
It was not until he heard the story "Who moved my cheese" that he put down his ridiculous prejudice and ignored the boss's "moving his own cheese". Instead, I actively put into my work and seriously ponder the relevant knowledge of swimming and diving.
Seeing that he was full of energy, the boss assigned him more tasks that could reflect his personal abilities and specialties.
Charlie Jones grew up rapidly in various exercises and was elected as one of the best announcers in the Professional Football Hall of Fame.
Charles Jones was different from "caring" to "not caring", while Guo Ziyi, a military strategist in the Tang Dynasty, didn't care from beginning to end.
When he went all out to quell the Anshi rebellion, eunuch Yu Chaoen always played tricks behind his back. First, he spoke ill of him in front of the emperor, and then he encouraged the emperor to dig his ancestral grave.
Supposedly, Yu Chaoen got things done, and Guo Ziyi should have fought back, but he didn't.
After the rebellion was put down, Guo Ziyi returned to the capital. The emperor apologized and handed Yu Chaoen over to him.
Guo Ziyi was generous and let bygones be bygones. He said: "When it comes to digging ancestral graves, I have dug the most in these years abroad. Now my ancestral grave has been dug. This is God's punishment for me. I can't blame anyone. "
Yu Chaoen was moved by these words, and he never felt sorry for Guo Ziyi again.
After Guo Ziyi's death, Yu Chaoen came to power, but he never hurt Guo Ziyi's family, but protected them well.
As the saying goes, "the amount of the stomach is the amount of the heart."
People who care about things think that everything in the world is against them.
It is raining. TA thought getting wet was providence, but she didn't know that streets needed cleaning, plants needed irrigation and people needed cooling. This rain is for all this.
Being left out by friends, TA felt that friends had changed their minds, but unexpectedly, friends also had their own troubles and needed space to dump their garbage.
The career was frustrated, and TA felt that the boss didn't train hard, but in fact, the boss had given everything to the other party and supported it everywhere.
On the other hand, people who don't care are just the opposite.
In life, they observe people's difficulties, forgive people's sufferings and tolerate people's losses. After such a long time, they have accumulated word of mouth and popularity for themselves, so that birds and flowers are fragrant;
In the process of self-growth, they don't stop at temporary gains, nor focus on the shortcomings of the moment, but climb high and look far, lock in bigger cities and let themselves grow step by step.
As the founding marshal Zhu De said: "The world is big and the belly is wide, and there are often ferries."
People who don't care have their own vision.
2. Without comparison, happiness comes.
Liang Wendao once said, "Happiness can never be compared. If you compare with others, you will only feel sad. "
That's true.
There is such a story.
There is a man who has exhausted his hard work for half his life, but has been living a hard life. He asked the wise man for advice: "I have been pursuing happiness, but why do I always get pain?"
The wise man asked him to talk about how he pursued happiness.
He told his story:
"When I was living in a small town, I tried to make myself the happiest person in the town; When I moved to a small town, I tried to make myself the happiest person in the town;
Later, when I settled in a big city, I set a goal, which is to be the happiest person in this city. In this way, I have been pursuing happiness, but happiness has been leaving me. "
Life is alive, maybe we all have such moments:
Seeing that someone bought a duplex villa, he gritted his teeth and took the single-door clause;
I heard that my friend's company went public, and immediately started to apply for an independent office;
Knowing that my classmate's children have gone abroad, I turned and ran to various training classes to register. ...
In this way, after comparing the two, they will be secretly more energetic and will not give up until they fall behind and live alone.
But in fact, what if you win? What you get is a false sense of superiority, but what you lose is the perception of happiness.
The Indian philosopher Osho once said, "A rose is a rose and a lotus is a lotus. Just look and don't compare. "
Song Lian, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty, was born in a poor family. When he was studying, he had to live in a very humble school.
The students dress up every day, making his old clothes and rags shabby.
What is more sad is that every day others eat fresh and delicious food, and he will always be a bowl of gruel that can reflect people's shadow. Sometimes he can't even eat porridge. He can only eat two meals a day.
Someone asked him out of kindness, "Don't you feel inferior?"
He replied haughtily, "I don't compare with others." Being able to learn knowledge is happiness. Eating and wearing is not what I should care about. "
A normal person never compares with others, because TA knows that everything in life is his own, and the so-called happiness and worry, gain and loss, success and failure will not be factors that interfere with TA's happiness.
Everyone has their own "flowering period" and their own "time zone". The spring breeze at this time is proud, and it may be stormy at that time; Or, today is full of thorns, but tomorrow, it will be clear.
Because without a flower, it will never bloom; Without a flower, it will only bloom forever.
The happiness of life, in the final analysis, has nothing to do with anyone, but lies in one's inner satisfaction. Compared with others, it will only lead to injustice and misfortune; If you don't compare with others, happiness will come uninvited.
3. A philosopher said, "Your mentality is your real master."
A great man also said, "Either you control life, or life controls you." Your mentality determines who is the mount and who is the jockey. "
Whether people are happy in this life is not judged by others, nor by the surface, but by "mentality".
If you care less, don't stick to the present, and don't be demanding of personnel, you can stand tall and look far, and walk wide;
Less comparison, less inferiority, less envy of others, you can get gifts, harvest, and live a happy and long life.
In this way, I repaired my normal mind and enjoyed my wealth.