Although the country now advocates cremation, in rural areas, many places will take the cremated ashes back for reburial. What should I do if someone builds a new grave within 50 meters of his hometown?
1: First, let's judge whether the location of this new grave belongs to a cemetery. Nowadays, in many rural areas, the management of burial is becoming more and more strict. The village will set aside a place for the villagers to bury their ancestors, and villagers are not allowed to find a place to build graves without permission.
If the other party's newly-built grave happens to be within the specified grave range in the village, then it is reasonable for others to build graves there. As long as people don't want to move away, it doesn't matter where you go.
Moreover, there is a public grave, even if this one is moved away, new people will come here to build a grave in the future. So, if you mind, you can only move it yourself.
It's 2: 50 meters in diameter from the house. To be honest, it's not too close. If you have to be serious, 100 meters is not far, and 500 meters is not far. So does the owner have to allow others to build graves?
To solve this problem, I think we should first understand the local customs and habits, local attitudes towards the living and the dead, which is more important to the living and which is more important to the dead.
In some places, the custom is that the dead are the biggest. As long as the deceased is buried, it is impossible to move within three to five years after the tomb is built, unless it is land acquisition.
In this case, I think you can only admit your bad luck. It's no use asking for advice everywhere. Nobody knows you at all. Instead of asking for opinions everywhere and paying attention to the tomb owner, it is better to discuss with the tomb owner and give them some money to move out after three to five years. Of course, generally speaking, there is a set of procedures for building graves in rural areas. You can discuss with the grave owner before building the grave.
In some places, the custom is that the living are more important than the dead, so you can discuss with the tomb owner to move out first. If you can't discuss it, you can ask the village Committee for help.
Generally speaking, local customs are very important to strangers and will help you cope positively. And the owner of the tomb will move away because of indefensible. If you really can't do it, do it yourself. Using the worst means is not necessarily a good idea.
Generally speaking, the countryside is a place that pays great attention to customs, so we must grasp the local customs and find a treatment that is most beneficial to us.
Like my home, there is a grave more than ten meters behind the house. Because our custom there is that the dead are bigger than the dead. At first, my family will feel unlucky and afraid, but under the pressure of custom, there is no better way. A few years later, the new grave became an old grave, and the family did not care. Now the grave behind the house has been more than twenty years, and it has long been regarded as a mound.
This question. Maybe I am qualified to answer, because I am a professional in this field, and my occupation is fortune telling, watching Feng Shui and doing things. So I know something about this topic. If a grave is built 50 meters away from the house, will it affect the owner of the house? I'll tell you this question, as long as it's not facing the door, it won't affect it. If it is very close, within 10 meter, it will really affect. It's different. It's true. It's nothing, don't be afraid,
Someone built a new grave within 50 meters next to the old house in the countryside. In fact, it is still necessary to treat and deal with it according to local customs.
For example, in China, people's houses are naturally built at the foot of the mountain or on a relatively flat mountainside because of the small population and many mountains, and graves are buried on the mountainside because of customs. Moreover, because most rural areas have not made unified plans for building houses and burying graves in recent decades, it can be said that every household in our country has this situation within 50 meters of its own house, otherwise it can be said that there is no place to build houses.
The reason for this is that the distance of 50 meters is very small, but for many rural areas with small population, high population density and scattered self-built houses, the distance of 50 meters is very large. So here, as long as the grave is not in front of the house, even if the new grave is less than 20 meters away from the homestead, everyone will basically say nothing. There is not much definition of distance. As long as it is not too close to home, such as 10 meters, most people will not say anything by default. Of course, this grave must be around the homestead or behind the house.
Finally, if you really feel that the tomb is too close to your home, or it interferes with your feng shui or local customs, the best solution in rural areas is of course to rely on mutual consultation. For example, it is the best way to solve this kind of rural disputes by exchanging the value of reserved land, keeping graves away, or finding a village Committee to solve them. As for the situation beyond 50 meters, according to our actual situation, there is no problem at all. If you really want to be reasonable, you will only be said to be unreasonable by others!
Everyone said that your grave is 50 meters away from your homestead. Is it near or far, or does it hinder your home? Need to deal with it!
Someone built a grave within 50 meters of the house in the rural hometown, and we have no right to manage it, because it does not belong to our land, but we can talk to the person who built the grave.
There are many customs in the countryside, and the so-called superstition is not surprising. Some people are always worried that something will come to you at night. Actually, it's nothing, just building a grave. If you are really worried, you can communicate with your neighbors and ask this person not to let him build the grave here.
There is one in our hometown. Of course, he didn't build the tomb next to it, but he lives within 50 meters of the tomb, and only his family is within 300 meters. At night, he didn't feel afraid. He wants to eat, drink and sleep as if he had never seen anything, but in fact, there is nothing. Those nightmares and things that come into the house at night are feudal superstitions in the countryside, so we don't have to pay too much attention to them.
If you are too worried about not being able to sleep, talk to your neighbor and discuss with the person who saw the grave not to let him build it here. After all, it's so close to his home. If you live there alone, it's really scary. Everyone has fear, which is normal, but after all, it is someone else's private land, and we have no right to interfere. The only thing we can do is to talk to him and let him.
Therefore, communicating with the person who found the grave is the only way to deal with it, because this is someone else's private land after all, and we have no right to interfere. It is also a clear choice for him to build the grave in another place. After all, what he said alone was a little scary.
This is rare in rural areas, because houses and cemeteries in rural areas are generally far apart. However, there are also special circumstances, such as some homesteads expanding outward and finally reaching the edge of the cemetery.
We can't solve the problem here, we can only say what we know here.
In fact, the two do not conflict. It sounds a little close to 50 meters, but there is nothing wrong with people burying people here, if we want to distinguish whose place the grave is built, such as the family that belongs to the owner.
In addition, we should pay special attention to a situation here, that is, where is the owner's house? If it is a normal street in the village, it is quite annoying for this person to suddenly build a grave. But it seems impossible to think about this kind of thing, because there are many families living on the normal streets in rural areas. I believe that it is not only the owners who live here, but many people should object.
If the owner lives here, it is either a normal rural street, a new homestead found on the edge of the land, or farmland bought by others.
In that case, people also build graves in their farmland. What's wrong with that? You can't bury people in your own farmland just because you built a house, can you?
So this still needs to be divided into specific situations.
It can be negotiated, but people who often live in rural areas will understand that it will be difficult.
Why is it difficult? Because when a family decides to bury their ancestors somewhere, they will definitely find someone to look after them. Even the graves and tails have strict rules. Let's not discuss whether this is superstition here. Only in this case, the place they choose will not be easily moved because others say a few words. This is ridiculous to others, but it is a real event in agriculture.
So suddenly there is a grave around our house, which will make us uncomfortable to live in, but we have to consider many things to distinguish why there is this grave.
In general, in this case, you can only adapt, and you want to change unless you change yourself. It should be noted that what is said here is that the grave is in the victim's own place, and the description of the problem is unknown, so there is not much comment here.
Written at the end: I saw an answer. The tomb was leveled when they were not paying attention. This is a very impulsive move and will bring disaster. Impulse can only increase the problem, but never solve it. So this still needs careful consideration. Unreasonable, you can say anything. If not, I just want someone else to move my grave. Anyone who has lived in the countryside knows that it will be very difficult, very difficult!
This matter is more troublesome to handle!
People build graves within 50 meters of your house, which is quite common in rural areas. The first reason may be that it is within the scope of public cemeteries in the village. Another reason may be that there is no public cemetery in the village, and people build it in their own contracted land. These two reasons are difficult to reconcile. Because, people don't build here, and there is no place to build graves elsewhere.
In fact, many villages have retired from their graves. Because of the growth of population and the expansion of homestead, many graves have become villages. At first, some people still have some impressions. After a long time, people no longer care.
In your case, you can coordinate through the village Committee. If you really can't move, you'd better adapt yourself psychologically as soon as possible. In order to speed up the adaptation process, it is best to build a shadow wall to cover it and reduce the chance of being directly seen.
Funeral culture is an important part of China traditional culture. There are still a large number of tombs in the vast rural areas of China. Some areas have cemeteries in rural areas. All the dead relatives will be buried in the cemetery. This is also the funeral mode encouraged and supported by the latest policy. In some rural areas, although cemeteries have not yet been built, their families will be buried in the same place after their death, forming their own family cemeteries.
However, in some mountainous areas and villages, after the death of relatives, they are not all buried in one place, but scattered together. Like the Dabie Mountain in our hometown, every dead man's grave is not piece by piece, but buried in a suitable place on the mountain or in the field by Mr. Feng Shui. Therefore, as the theme says, it is particularly easy to choose the cemetery around rural houses. For example, my grandmother is standing next to my house, with a straight line distance of no more than 30 meters. Also in our village, all the houses in Fiona Fang have graves within 50 meters.
For such a situation, it won't cause much conflict in our local area. Because the deceased is great, it is a virtue to respect the past. However, when we are buried in the local area, we will also take some corresponding compensation measures to avoid the problem of being too close to others.
First of all, when Mr. Feng Shui is looking for a cemetery, he will expand his search scope and try to avoid other people's homes, especially the land in front of the gate. Because we are in the mountainous area, the houses are scattered along the mountain. Only when it is unavoidable, or it is really a treasure trove of feng shui, can you get close to other people's doors. When Mr. Feng Shui is optimistic about his purpose, if he gets too close to a family, he will take the initiative to communicate at home and generally agree. If the land occupied by the cemetery belongs to others, the undertaker will take the initiative to exchange the best land with him and make compensation.
Secondly, rural customs and habits are common and everyone abides by them, and there are few contradictions and disputes. Birth, old age, illness and death are natural phenomena, and no one can escape. So it's hard to say who will die. No one can guarantee whether the cemetery chosen by Mr. Feng Shui for his deceased relatives is in front of his own house or on his own land, and it is likely to fall on someone else's house or land. So this is a behavior that everyone agrees with, because if you don't want someone else's cemetery to be built near your home, in case someone in your family died at that time, and the cemetery chosen by Mr. Feng Shui is near his home, it can't be done. After all, the villagers in everyone's hometown despise it. They have lived together for decades and hundreds of years, and they must continue to live, so they respect and understand each other's things.
Moreover, building a cemetery within 50 meters of a family's door is a good thing to communicate in advance and will not be built for no reason. Generally speaking, it can only be based on the consent of others. Judging from our local funeral culture and history, I have never heard of conflicts over such things.
Of course, even if there are graves within 50 meters of the house, it's nothing. In the past, children said they were afraid to see graves. In fact, when they grow up, they all know that there are no ghosts in the world, and it will not affect their Feng Shui. Like most of us locals, it is normal for people to have graves in front of and behind their houses. In the past, there were many graves of orphans in rural mountainous areas. Decades later, they became small mounds full of weeds and trees. They are like mountains. They can't be separated.
These are my views on this issue. If you have any different opinions and suggestions, please leave your opinions and suggestions below. Are there any funerals in your area? What if there is someone else's grave around the house? Welcome to comment below.
Judging from the subject's expression, he should live in the city and see someone building a grave nearby when he gets home. If the owner's house is in the planned homestead and there is no planned cemetery in the village nearby, then the construction of this grave may be illegal.
In our hometown, burial is not allowed at present, and everything has to be buried in the cemetery. Yesterday our old man was buried, and the urn was placed in a cemetery far away from our village. Even if everyone didn't like it at first, they now accept burial in cemeteries, and the state clearly stipulates that arbitrary burial is not allowed, depending on whether the local area conforms to the mechanism of burial. Generally speaking, there are many funerals of ethnic minorities, and they are all concentrated in the western region.
Graves can't be built at will in agricultural land, and the management in many areas is not very strict, but our village has always been under high pressure supervision, and no one can bury it. Perhaps the subject's hometown does not have this requirement, but if it is built on a homestead, it is obviously not possible. After all, it violates the principle of use.
If the subject thinks that it is taboo to have a tomb nearby, after all, China people pay attention to auspiciousness and don't want to have anything to do with "Yin", then we can discuss it with the village cadres and see if it can be removed. However, if the village cadres don't think it is illegal to bury, the local management is not strict, and the subject may not find a place to reason.
It is also difficult for the other party to move the grave. Moving graves in rural areas is a taboo. In this case, people from the Civil Affairs Bureau can only be invited to see how to deal with the problem. Generally speaking, you can protect your rights through laws. After all, the grave is too close and affects yourself, and the country will give you a reasonable statement.
Of course, China people want to feel at ease, as long as they are in good health, that's fine. If they are really uneasy, they can use Taoist runes, so that this matter can be solved. There are many such things in the countryside, and some things are difficult to judge even by honest officials. In the final analysis, it is best for both parties to negotiate.
If it is an old grave, you can't blame others, because you are willing to build a house next to it. If it is the grave of the new base, it is obviously bullying you. However, there are a few things to explain. First, is there anything left over from your family and his family? Second, his family is so powerful that the whole village is afraid of him. If there is a grudge between your two families, there must be such revenge. What he did must be deliberately embarrassing your family. But people in most places don't do this,
Under normal circumstances, in our local area, if the family's old grave, that is to say, where is the ancestral grave earlier than the residents, in our local area, future generations are allowed to die and enter the old grave. In this case, even if the place does not belong to the "place" where the family is buried, the locals will acquiesce in the new grave. If the grandfather of that family is buried somewhere, you can't let the grandmother of that family be buried somewhere else after her death, so the "husband and wife" will be separated, right? This is against humanity and makes no sense.
There is also a situation, such as this place belongs to the family's "land". Although rural areas have been divided into residential sites, in some areas, places were owned by families before they were "expropriated". If so, the family will bury people on their own land to build a new grave. If I had known, I would have discussed it in advance If conditions permit, the family may change their original intention. Suppose the family has begun to bury people, or it has been buried. I advise the subject not to mention this matter again, because you can't go to theory. Even if you find the most just person in charge in the village to solve this matter, the family is burying people on their own "land" and the whole family is "mourning". Isn't it a bit "bullying" for you to go to theory? Even if you don't want to, what can you do?
Generally speaking, there are many such things in rural areas. People will talk about the word "reason" and never go to other people's new graves to bury people for no reason. Without a certain "reason", no one in our village will build a new grave. As the old saying goes, superstition says that the village is strong in yang, which is not good for the grave owner. In fact, these are superstitious statements and have no scientific basis. If the subject can't cross "that road", he can only "spend a lot of money" to help others bury the cemetery and see if the other party agrees or not. Personally, I think that "people die like lights go out", so why waste people and money and start over? Not worth the candle!