Marrying a wife is a man's second reincarnation.
Many people say that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation, because the quality of your marriage will determine whether you will be happy in the next few decades.
But in fact, marriage is as important to a man as having another child. Because your wife and your marriage will really affect your life.
As the lines in the TV series "Beijing Youth" say: The quality of a man's life depends on what kind of wife he has found.
When I came home during the Spring Festival, I was filled with envy when I learned that my cousin had been promoted again. When it comes to my cousin, what relatives say most is: thank him for his good wife.
My former cousin, who idled around all day, got a bachelor's degree and became Mi Chong at home. In those two years, my parents were so angry.
Later, I met my cousin. My cousin seems to be a different person after they got married. He began to look for a job and learn various skills. He changed from a greasy uncle to a promising young man, and now he is an executive of an Internet company.
Looking at this photo of my cousin now, I can't imagine how decadent he was a few years ago. He has been completely transformed.
These changes in my cousin are actually due to my wife.
She guides her at work, encourages her in life, and always accompanies her cousin to become herself now. She is not only a wife in marriage, but also a partner and comrade-in-arms in life.
Cousin said that his wife unexpectedly changed his life, so now he is full of gratitude to his wife, and the two are more and more loving.
Occasionally, when I hear people praise my wife for being particularly good, my cousin says, "Sometimes we quarrel, sometimes it is very fierce, but she gives me three chapters: First, we can't quarrel in front of outsiders; Second, anger can't stay overnight; Third, no matter how angry, you can't sleep in separate beds. "
Marriage is the biggest choice in a man's life. I remember my mother said, "Whether a man is lucky depends on what wife he marries."
Mother gave a man a first life, and his wife gave him a second life.
Warren Buffett said: The most important investment in my life is not which stock I bought, but who I chose as my partner.
The importance of a wife to a family is self-evident.
Just like "Pheasant Brother" Jordan chan, he had a bad temper before marriage and lost his temper after marriage. Before marriage, he was unsmiling, but after marriage, he was all smiles.
He said, "My wife changed me. I have to see my wife and son when I get up every day, otherwise I will be unhappy. " At first glance, it looks like coquetry, but in fact it is full of happiness.
Really, choose a good wife and you will be born again. On the contrary, you will get into trouble.
02
A wife is the blessing of a family, and a husband is the blessing of a wife.
We all say "everything goes well at home". A family is harmonious and everything is fine.
But the root of a happy and harmonious family is the husband. How you treat your wife, you will get a family.
A husband is good to his wife, and a wife is good to her family. Only when they are happy can they be happy.
In the variety show "The Most Beautiful Time" some time ago, Chun Wu took his wife for the first time. He looked at her and said proudly and happily to the camera, "That's the woman behind me."
Chun Wu and his wife fell in love at the age of 16, and now they have been together for 24 years.
Even if he is busy at work, he will find time to be with his family, as he himself said, "I want to be with them every minute."
When it comes to loving his wife and family, Chun Wu really did his best. Because of this, there will be two people who love each other and a happy family.
The husband hides the blessing of his wife, and the wife hides the blessing of his family.
I have read a very classic sentence:
When you put down your face and treat your wife well, it means that you have become a real man.
When you give your wife face, you succeed.
When your wife gives you face forever, it means that you are already alone.
When you still stay there selfish, rude, playing with your uncle, asking your wife to serve you, giving your wife nothing but self-centeredness, it means that this is your life.
A short film by Tik Tok left a deep impression on me. The husband who is playing games tells his wife to let the children go to bed. The wife who was busy washing dishes looked at her husband with a sigh of relief and told me that it was not easy to stay at home.
As a woman, I have to take care of my family and be busy with my career. When I get home, I will have all kinds of chores.
Every day from morning till night, when my husband comes home, he only knows how to play games and does nothing.
If this is really the case, then this man who "only talks and does not do" in marriage will not be very good in his career or life.
Many people don't attach importance to marriage, thinking that when they get married, it is natural for their wives to take care of the family after marriage, and they can be the shopkeeper who cares about everything.
But who thought, if there is no busy wife, how can you be glamorous and chic outside?
Some people say that women's beauty comes from men's pain, and women's gentleness comes from men's habits. A good man makes his wife a good woman admired by everyone with his love, while a bad man turns his wife into a poor and bitter woman with selfish indifference.
So it's not that a woman is not sensible, but that she needs a man who knows how to love her and love her.
After all, home is not only an umbrella that a husband holds up for his wife, but also a port of call that a wife builds for her husband.
A wife is the blessing of a family, and a husband is the blessing of a wife. When you become the pride of your wife, she will light up your life, even change your family fortune and prosper your family.
03
Wife is the feng shui of the family.
As the saying goes, "A good wife at home makes three generations prosper".
Therefore, getting a wife is a very important thing, which is related to family harmony and prosperity.
A person's best feng shui is personality, and a family's feng shui lies in his wife.
I have such a real example around me. A pair of brothers about my age next door are married and have children.
After marriage, their lives are different. My brother is good-looking, and my brother is old.
My brother's wife is kind and generous, filial to her in-laws, and they are very loving.
My brother's wife always wants to take advantage of her husband's family, and regards herself and her husband's family as opposites, so she always quarrels over a trivial matter, so that they are very unhappy.
When I go home, I often hear quarrels from the house next door. I didn't know at first. Later, when I was eating, I heard a woman scolding the child next door. The voice is loud and the language is terrible. I just know that this is the wife of two brothers and younger brothers next door.
My brother's wife has also seen it. I once accompanied my mother to the market next door to buy food. She took two children to buy food. The children are very polite. She saw my mother and aunt calling from left to right, so she bought bread in her hand and asked my mother if she had breakfast. She wants to give one to my mother. The child's mother smiled and spoke softly, looking very comfortable.
My brother has a happy marriage, a smooth career life, obedient children and a happy family.
And my younger brother, approaching the Spring Festival, heard that he was getting a divorce.
The same two brothers, the same family starting point, have embarked on different life paths after marriage.
It is said that if a man can find the right woman, he can struggle for 20 years less, but if he can't find the right one, he can ruin it for more than 20 years.
It is by no means a casual thing for a man to get married, nor can it be an impulse. From the moment you get married, your life will start to change, whether it is good or bad, because the woman around you is largely influenced by your other half.
Women control the details of a family, and quantitative changes produce qualitative changes.
The regret of many men after marriage is that they didn't think of the influence of a woman.
We all know that investment needs to be cautious. Marrying a wife is not an investment, or even a lifetime investment. The chips are yourself and the family behind you.
According to official statistics, the divorce rate in China has increased year by year in recent years.
More and more people don't pay attention to marriage and don't care about marriage certificates. Even in the eyes of many people, love has become a "fast food", leading to more and more phenomena of "flash marriage" and "flash separation".
However, no matter what kind of marriage, it needs the irrigation of men and the care of women, so that it can grow into a big tree from a small bud, then spread its branches and leaves and harvest the fruits.
The root of this big tree is that husbands respect their wives, and wives love their families, love each other and cherish each other.