First, prepare incense. Incense is like a signal that we dial out with our mobile phones. As long as it is lit, our ancestors will know that future generations have come to sacrifice.
Second, prepare fruit. Since the cemetery can manage our five generations, it's best to take five kinds of fruits. It's really inconvenient. Just take one. Don't be lazy.
Third, prepare the cake. Fruit represents yin, and cakes represent yang. Generally, fruit and cakes should be prepared for ancestor worship. Sacrificing ancestors to eat meat is just a custom in some places. In the past, it took three beasts and five beasts to sacrifice heaven and earth, which was more sacred. Our ancestors did not achieve the merits of heaven and earth, nor did they have great blessings of heaven and earth, so it is disrespectful to offer flesh and blood to our ancestors.
Fourth, prepare paper money. What kind of paper do you burn? Hemp money paper. This is orthodox. Such as Mingbi, Tiandi Tong Bank, etc. It's all done by liars. Just like counterfeit money, taking this money to burn in the cemetery also defiled our ancestors. Think about it. How angry would you be if you took fake money? ! This is not a blessing, but a curse. Including burning mobile phones, telephones, cars and buildings, it is useless. These are all behaviors of merchants to collect money. We should not be fooled. Don't think that burning these things is called filial piety. What Apple phones and buildings have been developed recently are useless and wasteful.
Fifth, prepare candles. It's best to light a candle, which is called a lamp. This is Yang, so that children and grandchildren will not go astray or go down to the underworld. This is the so-called Ming Dow (usually a pair of customs offices).
Second, paper and incense.
Wouldn't it be better to burn more paper? Unless something happens. The family is particularly unfortunate, and there will be many disasters in the future. If you feel that everything is not going well. Then you have to think about it at this time. Is there a vacancy in your sun? Are you filial? Are you looking for a lover outside? Bad for his wife and children? Are you nervous about your sister relationship? Did you misappropriate the money from your unit?
I met a friend whose daughter is mentally ill. The daughter doesn't talk to anyone. When she saw me, she spoke to me very well and wisely. Her parents think it's strange that children are not nervous to see you. Are you the same after you left? I told her father that the child has no nerves, it's your nerves. He asked why? I said, think about it. When you were a leader, did you have everything at home? You turned things at work into property at home? As soon as he thought about it, everything at home was really transferred from the unit. I said that you did something wrong and lacked morality, which is what children do. I said, think about how many things you have embezzled. You donate it, so that she will be fine. As a result, it took him two years to donate, and the child was mentally ill.
Therefore, the grandson has a loss, and the children and grandchildren have a bitter experience. You have to find the reason from this aspect first. If not, it depends on whether you have made a good sacrifice. If there is, burn more incense at this time, burn 365. If the whole family comes to sacrifice, it is necessary to divide the males. Male 10, male 10, male 12, male 12, male 5. In front of the cemetery, all the incense should be lit. Light incense, which is called tonifying yang.
Third, matters needing attention
1, you can't pick up paper with a stick when burning paper. It's better to read the Bible. At this time, the more paper you can have, the better. But when burning paper, you must not pick it with a stick. If you pick it up, it will look like we are disabled. Why are you burning in such a hurry? I only go to the grave once a year! Sacrifice your ancestors slowly and with dignity. It's called adding fragrance to the fire. Many people burn paper and can't wait to pick it up. After burning, they should leave quickly. It's nice to stay here for a while and chat with the old people. If you have faith, you can read scripture by burning paper. If you believe in Buddhism, the easiest thing is to read Amitabha. If you believe in Taoism, you can also read some Taoist classics. Reading scriptures in the cemetery will help the living descendants. Families with too many girls will add men, which will make it easier to earn money.
2. Wear elegant and dignified clothes. When we go to the cemetery, we'd better wear black or white clothes to look more dignified. Never wear bright clothes, shorts or skirts, or there will be romantic children at home. I met a woman who often went to worship her ancestors and always wore skirts. Seeing that men can't walk, my daughter changed six or seven men and had five abortions. She said, why is my daughter like that? I said you always wear a skirt when you go to the cemetery. She said it would be nice to wear a skirt to take to the grave for an outing. In fact, this is disrespectful to your ancestors, so your children will leak and damage your face.
3, the expression should be serious. Sacrifice is a very serious matter, such as offering sacrifices to ancestors by law, so that future generations will prosper and future generations will prosper. When you enter the cemetery, your expression will be heavy, so don't laugh. Why? The cemetery is people's home, and it is disrespectful for you to giggle there. Smiling, the ancestors will think that you are watching us die and our jokes are coming. If he watches them together, you will be in trouble.
4. Don't take pictures. Don't take pictures in the cemetery. Anyway, the cemetery is shady. I have met people who like to stand by and take pictures on tombstones. As a result, he was not only assassinated by a villain, but also always investigated by the procuratorate.
Fourth, the steps of going to the grave
incense
1, the first thing is to put three incense sticks. Many people's ancestral graves may not be found, such as grandpa's grave. How to burn incense?
The first incense, if you want to be surnamed Wang, say that Wang's ancestors are widely smoked and come to enjoy the sacrifice. The whole family name has been listed in the past dynasties.
The second wick fragrance is the main fragrance. If it is grandparents who are sacrificed, you can say, grandparents, today is your festival, and you are warmly invited to enjoy the sacrifice.
The third wick incense represents the beginning of the family. If many grandchildren and sons are outside and don't come back, they will say that they are very busy at work and really can't come. Don't take it personally. I will take their place. You can mention the names of people who should come to sacrifice and pray for ancestors to bless them to work smoothly, walk smoothly and be safe all year round.
2, insert incense. Don't put three incense sticks together, just cut one. Use your left hand when inserting incense, and insert it from right to left. We were born on the left and died on the right. We insist with our left hand to show our respect for them, they are our elders; It is reasonable to insert from right to left.
3. Kneel down and repay the favor. After offering incense, you must kneel down. If you don't kneel, it's not enough to repay you, because you're here. Don't say your knees are dirty. Dirty pants are easy to wash, heartbreaking and ungrateful. You can't wash them clean.
(2) Fruit cake
(3) burn paper. I started to burn paper respectfully, thinking about all the kindness of my ancestors.
(4) The environment is clean and tidy. Clean up weeds and dirt around the cemetery. Take all the plastic bags and things like that with you when you leave. Many people go to graves and throw rubbish everywhere. This is the home of our ancestors. You won't be angry if someone throws it at your house like that. You know, if we don't behave in the ancestral graves, we will get into trouble.
(5) handling sacrifices. After the fruits and cakes are supplied, pinch a little residue with your fingers and sprinkle it on the grave. Never throw it in the cemetery at will. It's called wasting your happiness. After fruit and cake are served to ancestors, it is best to share them. If there are many people, everyone will take some back.
Fifth, the time to go to the grave.
If you are often away from home, you don't have to go to the cemetery every Tomb-Sweeping Day and every solar term. Your close grandparents or your parents can go as long as you have time. Holding the fruit, holding three sticks of incense, one point, one insertion, one release, chatting with them, just like when you were alive.
I have a very rich friend. Generally, people worship their ancestors four times a year, and he does it dozens of times a year. I will go back to my hometown, my uncle's house, my grandfather's house and the cemetery when I have nothing to do during the eleventh holiday. Mercedes-Benz drove directly there and said, Grandpa, I'm coming, and I'm here to pay homage to your ancestors. Look, I brought all the Mercedes. Burn incense, put some fruit, and say, Grandpa, you're going to leave late. If I had so much money, it would be good for you. He has this habit. He said that he didn't expect this habit to make him rich. He said that if others can't do it well, he can do it well. If others can't develop the market, he will do it as soon as possible. Ancestor protection! At first, he drove a van, Little Big Dipper. He drove to the graveyard and said that you used to pull a car, but now you drive a car. You are happy for your grandson. Every time he changes trains, if the business is done, he will run to talk to grandpa. He said people were afraid to go to the cemetery, but he wasn't. This is an example I met. It is very prosperous here, and everything is fine. People have never heard him say that he met a villain and his work was not smooth. Their company says that he is a general who breaks through difficulties, as long as he does well in any difficulty. He went it alone and the company took the initiative to cooperate with him. That's how he got rich. He said he was used to going to the cemetery, and he didn't know when it started. He wants to show it to the old man. He was very sad and said, look, I'm rich and the old people are gone. His idea changed the geomantic omen of the cemetery. Actually, I went to see the Feng Shui in front of his grandfather's grave, and it was not good either.
But I want to remind everyone, don't say that Teacher Qin said that I can make a fortune this time, so your grandfathers lied to me at first sight! We must be sincere and respectful. When we are in the cemetery, we should get rid of bad habits and don't smoke when burning incense and paper. This is disrespectful. If you do this, you will easily get angry, and children will easily refute you.
Now I hear that there are still people crying and dying, I dare not. I met a man who did this. He can't go to the cemetery every year. He always calls his relatives and asks them to burn paper for his parents. Later, he married a wife, got pregnant, and the child was born for three days. His wife told him that his son was not yours, but someone else's. I can't hurt you, or I'll get a divorce. At that time, he asked me how I met this bad luck. I said, from generation to generation, worship your ancestors and let others replace you.
Parents have a lifetime, ancestors have a lifetime, they are decent, have morality, and cultivate blessings for future generations. But now people think that my father has never found a mistress in his life, and my mother will not be angry if she dies. Find a mistress for my dad and buy a beautiful woman to burn. This is called defileing ancestors and damaging their morality. Once these things are burned for the ancestors, the son is likely to have an affair and the daughter is likely to be unfaithful to her feelings.
Sixth, sacrifice ancestors to show respect.
I summed up, * * * has seven aspects:
? First, behave respectfully. Be respectful, including kowtowing. Kowtowing to the dead is three times in a row. To offer birthday felicitations to the living, one can only kowtow, which is called uniqueness. He is your parents, and no one can replace him. This is called uniqueness. We don't want to divide ghosts and gods, but also kowtow to the living. This is the etiquette of kowtowing. When kneeling, put down your right leg first, then your left leg.
? Second, words are respectful. Words can only praise the merits and help of the deceased, and can't expose people's scars and say people's shortcomings. I met a family that was not rich. Not only is it not smooth, but my son often beats his mother and father. The phenomenon of gnawing at the old is particularly serious. His father asked me why his life was so bitter. I said that you often complain about your father when you worship your ancestors in the cemetery. He told me that every time he went to the grave, he said, Dad, you have been a farmer all your life, leaving me nothing, making me so hard, and your grandson complains every day that I can't earn money. Even tell your son to burn paper for your grandmother. Your grandmother is not good to me, so I won't burn it. This is disrespectful to him. We can only praise the virtues of our ancestors.
? Third, the voice is respectful. Don't have a ragged voice, or the child will talk to you by first name. The voice should be soft and calm. When you talk to your ancestors, you should not raise your head, but lower your head, as if you were listening to your ancestors with great respect.
Fourth, there was respect. Your father is leaving. You can't take away your father's light Burn incense, burn paper, you rob the head, you die. Let mom and dad burn it first, and then do it yourself. This is in line with the law. Five ethics should be observed. In many places, women don't go to the grave, nor do their daughters-in-law. This is not right. In ancient times, it was often said that living is someone else's person, and dying is someone else's ghost. Don't you let future generations respect you after you die?
Before a boy marries a daughter-in-law, it's best to let him take his girlfriend to the cemetery to give good news to his ancestors. There are many family members. After giving birth, you should also go to the ancestral grave as soon as possible to report that another baby has been added to your ancestors. This is good news. Girls also get married. Tell your ancestors that when the girl is older, you should always bless her not to suffer indignities in her husband's family and let her be virtuous and filial to her family.
Fifth, advance and retreat. When entering the cemetery, be very quiet, don't look up again, and have a sad heart. Now you are living so well that your parents haven't enjoyed it yet. This is the time to enter. When you retire, don't turn around and give your ancestors an ass. You should take three steps back, look at the graves of your ancestors, reluctantly take three steps back and turn around. If you don't understand, your son may really go to the woman's house and never come back in the future. As soon as the daughter got married, she was very close to her husband, and her parents threw them aside.
? Sixth, there is respect near the cemetery. The cemetery may be a big cemetery. When we are near the cemetery, we should not only respect our own families, but also respect other people's families. Don't make any noise when you enter the cemetery. I met someone peeing in the cemetery, and when I got back, my prostate was hyperplasia. I was too young to see clearly.
? Seventh, sacrifice respect. People are in the cemetery, don't burn incense and think about whether the children have come back. My father doesn't know what to buy in the street today. What did my mother do this morning? If your heart runs away, you will be in trouble. If children go to school in the future, they will be half-hearted and will not listen to the teacher. When the teacher is giving a lecture, his mind will wander off. After we enter the cemetery, our clothes should be tidy.
Seven, the most suitable trees planted in the cemetery.
The most suitable tree for planting in cemetery is Platycladus orientalis. Platycladus orientalis is shady and its roots are not very big, so it is most suitable for planting in the place where paper is burned. If there are more people working outside the home, the cypress on the left is closer to the cemetery if the boy wants to benefit. If you want to benefit girls, the one on the right is a little closer; If both men and women have it, the two sides will be closer. Our right facing the cemetery is its left.
The most taboo in the cemetery is Toona sinensis, whether it is Toona sinensis or Ailanthus altissima. I met a family when I was in my hometown. For five generations in a row, there was a cyclops. All the smartest people have a problem with one eye. I asked them if there were any Toona sinensis trees in the cemetery, and they said yes, they were very lush, and a thick root was directly inserted in the tomb. The actual cemetery is the location of a person's eyes, so there are five cyclops in their family for five generations, all of whom are the smartest children. The sixth generation hasn't appeared since the tree was destroyed. This kind of root is too deep to respect ancestors. Why? It absorbs the bones of its ancestors as fertilizer. Therefore, it is forbidden to plant some trees with particularly lush roots and deep roots in the cemetery.
The above is the basic knowledge of ancestor worship. Many people are concerned about it, but they don't understand it. I will explain it here. In fact, the most fundamental thing is that the heart can change and all problems can change. If you really understand this, then your ancestor worship will be as rational as law, your descendants will be as rational as law, and your work will be as rational as law.
Someone asked me, what is Feng Shui? I said that people should live the taste of people, and this taste is Feng Shui. When you meet people, people have a taste; At the last moment, things taste; Eat, something stinks. All external things will follow your taste to help you and achieve you.