Then why do some people choose to divorce? Is it because people who "see the right eye" are actually "seeing the wrong eye"? The answer is yes or no, because marriage involves too many things, not just the love between men and women. You should not only be in tune with your husband, but also with your parents-in-law, even your seven aunts and eight aunts, otherwise any out-of-tune note may bring devastating disaster to your marriage.
When Xiao Xia fell in love with Xiao Wang, the girl was quiet and the boy was lively and cheerful, which seemed to be a huge difference. They don't belong to a group at all, but two people with diametrically opposite personalities, and finally complement each other and become lovers in love. It's just that this seemingly well-matched couple has entered the sight of Xiao Wang's mother. what do you think? Xiao Xia, a girl with a small door, has climbed up her son.
Xiao Wang's family has a little savings because of the demolition a few years ago. Xiao Wang's mother thinks she has money, so she must be looked up to by others, get a new car and buy a big house. Seeing that my son found an ordinary working-class girl, I had to give the other party a scare for the first time. I took my girl to eat Shi Huai Cai, which I thought was very tasty, saying that I wanted her to see the world, so as not to be embarrassed when my son took it out for entertainment in the future.
A rich life can be decorated, but temperament, which is something in the bones, cannot be easily cultivated to half. Xiao Wang's mother always treats Xiao Xia condescendingly, which is not what a person with taste like her should have.
Fortunately, Xiao Xia is very kind and doesn't care about these things. Her mother-in-law did these things to stimulate her, and she was not angry. She just silently followed Xiao Wang and followed suit. Because Xiao Xia knows that he has married Xiao Wang and will live with Xiao Wang in the future. As long as the husband and wife have a good life, nothing else matters.
After marriage, her mother-in-law always looks at her daughter-in-law like a passive Nuo Nuo. The more I look at her, the angrier she gets. She always finds some reason to hit her from time to time. At first, Xiao Wang would defend Xiao Xia, but after a long time, Xiao Wang also felt that what his mother said seemed to have some truth, and his gentle personality gradually became dull in his eyes.
In fact, Xiao Wang himself is an ordinary boy with a plain appearance and a very ordinary job. If there is still some savings at home, he may be one of the sentient beings. Only here in Xiao Xia, with the special filter of "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder", Xiao Wang feels that he has become the boy who is excellent at everything in Xiao Xia's mouth.
One day, her mother-in-law saw Xiao Xia washing clothes and deliberately unplugged the washing machine. "Do you know that my son's clothes are expensive? What if the washing machine is broken? " "Then I'll send it out for dry cleaning. I'll pay attention next time. " When the mother-in-law saw a punch on the cotton, the daughter-in-law didn't respond at all.
"What clothes are sent to dry cleaning, how expensive, how can there be so much money in our family, can't you wash them by hand!" Xiao Xia looked at her mother-in-law's anger and didn't know what to do. Just as Xiao Wang came back from the outside, he heard the quarrel and came to see what was going on. Xiao Xia thought her husband would say a few words for him, but Xiao Wang threw away the clothes in Xiao Xia's hand. "I can't even wash clothes. What's the use of asking you Divorce! "
What Xiao Xia doesn't know is that, in fact, her husband has promised her mother-in-law to divorce herself, which is just a random story. Mother and son sang a duet. It turned out that her mother-in-law looked down on her daughter-in-law, encouraged her son to divorce and remarry with his wife, and she "invited" Xiao Xia out of the house. Naive Xiao Xia thought she couldn't do housework, and she was rejected by her husband's family, which led to her divorce for a long time.
However, seeing Xiao Wang sending friends circle again and again, she said that she finally got out of her misery and wanted to change her unchanging life. She didn't know that during the period of marriage with Wang, her understanding and serenity in each other's eyes turned into a "sea of suffering", and she finally made up her mind to start her life again and was glad that she could escape from this "sea of suffering".
Later, under the arrangement of his mother, Xiao Wang met a girl who was "suitable" on a blind date. The woman opened a small company at home and was also a shopkeeper. When the girl came into contact with Xiao Wang, she showed a completely different personality from Xiao Xia. She is omnipotent and tactful.
When I visited my future mother-in-law for the first time, I bought her a luxury brand silk scarf, which made her full of praise for her taste and understanding of life. Moreover, she can also help Xiao Wang at work and let her father's company provide many customers to Xiao Wang, which has improved his work several steps.
Xiao Wang's mother forces Xiao Wang to marry the girl into the house quickly every day, saying that such a good girl can't be found with lanterns. The two sides cooperated well and everything seemed perfect. Xiao Wang also secretly rejoiced that it was a very wise decision to divorce Xiao Xia according to his mother's words.
However, the day after the new daughter-in-law entered the door, the girl called a meeting of her family and set rules for her family. She said that she was an accountant, and that all expenses at home should be accounted for in the future, and all expenses should be approved by her. I also gave it a reasonable reason. My mother-in-law's money is the demolition money. If she can't make rational use of it, she can only live on empty pockets.
At first, my mother-in-law thought her daughter-in-law's proposal was constructive, for the sake of her family, but slowly she found that her son had to look at her daughter-in-law's face when he bought a pack of cigarettes, only to find that her daughter-in-law's so-called "financial management" was just trying to manage her husband's wallet.
The wind and water have turned, and Xiao Wang's mother is not as carefree as before. She cooks and washes clothes for her daughter-in-law every day, and she also buys organic and pollution-free vegetables. Some clothes need to be washed by hand because they are expensive. I didn't like Xiao Xia washing clothes with a washing machine before, so I let my son divorce her through this matter. I didn't expect to do the same thing every day now, and sometimes karma comes so quickly.
Because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have long established a "tasteful" person, there is no way to easily overturn what she once said. Therefore, the new wife should do her best to serve her with food, clothing, housing and transportation, and can't complain at all, driving away the powerful mother-in-law of the former wife. Now, she is crushed and beaten by her current daughter-in-law: everything has its vanquisher, and the ending is really gratifying.
I can only endure the fruits I planted, but when my daughter-in-law orders me, I will think of my former daughter-in-law Xiao Xia. I used to point fingers at her, but now times have changed, and my daughter-in-law has become the master, and she has long been a "big momma". I regret it every time I think about it, but my son's current job is supported by his daughter-in-law's family, so he can only swallow his words and continue to suffer. The ending is really gratifying.
As the saying goes, "it is better to tear down ten temples than ruin a marriage." Xiao Wang's mother looked down on Xiao Xia, thinking that she was not worthy of her son, and tried her best to separate them. But I really found a daughter-in-law worthy of my son, but in the end I became the wronged "kannika nimtragol".
This is the so-called cycle of heaven. Everything has its vanquisher. When you have a kind and easy-going daughter-in-law, you don't know how to cherish it. You have to find a powerful "malicious character" to know the original kindness. If things don't happen to you, you will never feel pain.
Xiao Xia loves him and is willing to submit to humiliation for him, depending on her mother-in-law's face, but Xiao Wang accepted her mother's mercy easily. Love in adolescence is the purest, but Xiao Wang doesn't know how to cherish it. He has to marry a wife who has money business dealings, so he is in a dilemma.
In fact, Xiao Xia was also at fault. The fault lies in his cowardice. Equality is always the premise of marriage. Just because the other person is his mother-in-law, he feels inferior and wants to control it. Not only does the husband look down on himself, but he also looks down on himself. Perhaps after a long time, even he himself has a negative evaluation of himself, forming a habit of resignation. For Xiao Xia, divorce is an opportunity for a new life.
Some religious teachings say that everyone has the impulse of self-destruction, and what is obviously perfect will always find a way to destroy it unconsciously. Just like Xiao Wang, he obviously has a gentle and virtuous wife, but on the other hand, he hates the boring life and needs to escape from the bitter sea. And Xiao Wang's mother, even worse, obviously has an obedient daughter-in-law, but still hates the east and the west, and she has to find a grinding daughter-in-law to serve herself before she knows her regret.
Everything is interdependent, so is interpersonal relationship. He is weak if you are strong, and he is strong if you are weak. If you have to play hardball, you will only lose both sides. However, marriage is not a battlefield, and there is no need to be "arrogant" in the way of mother-in-law. You have to "everything has its vanquisher" and crush your wife's head or your daughter-in-law's head, so that you can feel that you have not lost your dignity and that life is very interesting.
China's "The Way of Confucius and Mencius" has always been a "golden mean" way of showing others, impartial and always doing things just right. Not speculative, not arbitrary, not opinionated, not self-centered. Moreover, marriage life should also pay attention to the "golden mean", and all kinds of relationships should be balanced and restrained, instead of insisting that the mother-in-law is in charge of the daughter-in-law, or the daughter-in-law surrenders to her mother-in-law. Why can't the two sides be equal and have to "everything has its vanquisher"?
We always hope that every love can begin and end, and every marriage can last for a long time. Why do some people just don't cherish what they have and have to wait until they lose it to regret it? There is no regret medicine in the world. You should be careful with every decision, especially in love and life.