Therefore, when it comes to cleaning up the house, our hearts generally refuse and we can delay.
Eiko Yamashita, the author of Break Free, put forward different views.
? Eiko Yamashita began to learn yoga in college, and thoroughly understood the practice philosophy of "thread breaking, thread cutting and offline" through yoga. Later, she devoted herself to advocating a brand-new finishing technology based on this kind of practice that anyone can personally practice-thread breaking.
Breaking up is different from simple cleaning and tidying up. The point of consideration is to ask yourself, "Is this thing suitable for you?" . In other words, the protagonist of parting is not the object, but himself. This is a technology of selecting objects with "the relationship between objects and themselves" as the core. The author wants to tell us through this book that by sorting out the daily furniture environment, we can change our consciousness, get rid of material desires and obsessions and live a free life.
? Let's learn about "separation" from the following aspects: the mechanism of separation, the reason why it can't be discarded, and the thinking law of separation.
The most important thing to break up is to clean up. The definition given by the author: sorting is a job of screening necessary items. We should consider it from two aspects, one is the relationship axis between me and things, and the other is the current time axis. In other words, sorting is the process of asking yourself whether an item is really related to you at present, and then choosing the item.
? 1. View the project from the relationship axis and timeline.
In the process of breaking up, most of the things we have to do are based on the relationship axis and the time axis. Tell from the action, or from-give up. If you just put unnecessary things into garbage bags and throw them into the storage room, it's not cleaning. It just changes the shape of things and stores them in another place. It is moving.
Breaking up is throwing unnecessary things out of the house and completely cutting off the relationship with yourself. After such a thorough "abandonment", the result is that only what is suitable, necessary and really useful for you will stay in your own space.
? The author points out that only by forming the habit of thinking before you act when shopping can we truly realize the "off" state. The meaning of separation is to get rid of the obsession with things and reach a relaxed state in the alternation of "breaking" and "giving up".
? Breaking up is not absolutely for the purpose of cleaning the room, but to understand and like the real self through the process of cleaning, and realize the sense of self-affirmation. The protagonist of the breakup is not the object, but himself, considering whether "himself" is still needed.
? 2. Self-awareness brought by screening projects
? To get the judgment that "this kind of thing is commensurate with me now, and it is a necessity for me now", people must know themselves clearly.
Through the continuous training of screening projects, the present self will appear more and more vividly in front of our own eyes, and people can judge the accurate self-image by this. Realize your self-image, and in turn, you will start to want to replace what you are using now. Know yourself and let go of your past self, and you can develop your potential.
? Goethe, a German poet and philosopher, once said, "The greatest sin of mankind is unhappiness." It is easy for us to let ourselves fluctuate with the ups and downs of other people's moods, and let ourselves fall into the gravitational circle of others. In fact, it shouldn't be like this, but let yourself be happy first, and then pull the unhappy people into their happy gravitational circle. It is best to have such an idea. So, let yourself be in a happy space first.
? 3, recapture the occupied space and energy.
? The task of parting is to get back all the time, space and energy wasted by management and maintenance. The essence of breaking up is to achieve self-improvement by judging and acting on the selected projects.
? 4. Start with clothes you never wear and get rid of your obsession.
? When the season changes, many people will feel that they have no clothes to wear, but the wardrobe is obviously full. This situation makes the author think: "If you lose some of these clothes, is it equivalent to losing your obsession?" Taking this as an opportunity, the author finds that this is actually not nostalgia, but an obsession.
? 5. When choosing goods, it also changes the interpersonal relationship.
Focus on the relationship between the object and yourself, and then you can see the self-image projected through the object. Next, you can slowly see what you look like in the eyes of others. You can use whatever you want, and others will treat you casually!
How you treat yourself determines everything. We always ignore personal factors and arbitrarily judge something as "good" or "bad", which is inappropriate. It's not that the goods are bad, it's because I misjudged myself and piled up the extra goods, which made it difficult for me to move. All the mistakes are due to the mistakes of their own perception. Disengagement is just a technique to sharpen inductive ability. In yoga, people call this sensory ability inner wisdom. Too many things upset you, and your inner wisdom will become dull, so you must take action to bring it back to life. The so-called action is to replace "unnecessary, inappropriate and uncomfortable" things at home with "needed, suitable and comfortable" things. Throw away a piece of garbage at home. This simple action can sharpen your inner wisdom.
? Things are valuable only when they are used.
? "Items need to be used to be valuable. At this moment, articles should appear where they are needed. Only when the object is in the right position can it show beauty. " Articles will become useless or useful because of different occasions. Therefore, through conscious choice, the article will naturally return to where it belongs and where it is needed. That's what breaking up is all about. Choose something that matches your present self.
1, picking up the trap of cheap psychology and discount
In this consumer society, in order to make people buy irrationally, merchants can say that they have thoroughly studied the skills inside.
? The author gives an example. Her mother bought extra-large commercial mayonnaise. This extra-large mayonnaise originally cost 500 yen, but it is only sold at a discount of 350 yen, while the ordinary size mayonnaise that can be eaten often costs 300 yen. This 300 yen mayonnaise is not discounted, but it is still the original price. In this case, we will only think that a large portion of mayonnaise is "cheap 150 yuan", and if we buy this, we will get a big bargain, and we will never compare the difference between 300 yen and 350 yen. It's obviously not a penny cheaper to buy the ordinary model of 300 yen. But the result is that this large size can't be eaten at all, and it cost 50 yen in vain.
We always fall into the trap of merchants unconsciously, and make such a stupid thing that seems to take advantage is actually a loss.
? 2. The entrance is a "broken" door and the exit is a "shed" door.
? We are like small fish in a pond on the middle reaches of a river. The entrance gate of our pool was originally intended to be closed, but the external material pressure is not generally large, coupled with the trap of greed and discount set by merchants, so this gate is often open. The exit door that leads to the downstream and is responsible for discharging unnecessary things will not be opened without conscious efforts.
? Social factors keep things pouring in, but due to some personal and social reasons, these things can't get out and always pile up in their own space. We will unconsciously fall into the trap of discount and completely forget whether something is to our taste.
? The author got to know many people who can't throw things by giving a lecture about breaking up, and gradually found that those who pile up garbage everywhere at home can be divided into three types:
? (1) escape from reality
This type of people are too busy to stay at home, so they can't tidy up the house. In most cases, such people are dissatisfied with their families and don't want to stay at home, so they find all kinds of things to keep themselves busy. Plus, the house is in a mess, so I don't want to stay at home. Slowly sinking deeper and deeper in such a vicious circle.
? ⑵ Persistent past type
People of this type, even things from the past, are no longer needed, so they should keep them. Photo albums, trophies, etc. Are kept as lifeblood. Most of them imply nostalgia for the good past. In the sense of never wanting to face reality, I also think about escapism.
? (3) Worried about the future.
This type of person is committed to investing in the future unrest that does not know when it will happen. This kind of people is characterized by excessive hoarding of daily necessities such as paper towels. Without these, they will feel troubled and anxious. Of these three types, this kind of person is the most.
3. The current definition varies from person to person.
? In the process of getting along with people who can't throw things, the author finds that the concept of time "now" varies from person to person. Relatively speaking, children always live in the present. This is because their bodies are still growing and they are always changing, so they are more sensitive to environmental changes than the elderly. In the final analysis, it is everyone's freedom to think "now"; But there must be a "gift" that suits you best. If you can find the most suitable "gift" during the breakup, it is naturally the best.
? I just can't bear to throw it away.
One sentence that students who attend the author's lectures often say is "I am the kind of person who can't throw things". This statement is basically a sexual decision for myself, and it also implies a simple and rude conclusion: "I am such a person and I can't help it."
It may be easier to understand the word "broken" in parting. Many people will say, "I can't refuse. Whatever it is, I will accept it. I can't say "no" to anything people ask me. On the other hand, it may be "I hate being rejected by others and I don't want to get hurt". I don't want to do what I don't want to do, so I don't want to use the same trick on others. It's the same if you can't throw it away. Although these things are "unnecessary, inappropriate and uncomfortable", they can't be thrown away, because they have always stayed at home.
? 5. An untidy house is like constipation.
When you are constipated, bacteria will release toxins, which will be reabsorbed by the intestines and then spread to all parts of the body, causing discomfort. When we are in a room full of garbage and rags, it is equivalent to continuously absorbing the waste gas of these wastes for 24 hours, which makes you unconsciously fall into a state of chronic poisoning. So for the sake of health, it is better not to make the room "constipated".
If you don't change your living habits, your home cannot be completely clean.
? The author once received a student who would never throw away useless things at home. Finally, I worked hard with this student to screen out unnecessary things, but the author was very worried that he would just ignore these things, so the author had to take those rubbish back. As a result, the author's car smells everywhere. These things are no different from physical decay.
? In this book, the author divides garbage into three categories:
? (1) things that are not used
Save or leave something you don't care about, even something you have forgotten about. Because I don't feel at ease at the thought of throwing it away, I keep dragging things that I haven't thrown away.
? (2) things that are still in use.
At least I still use it now, but I don't like it, so I just use it casually. We will mess up our hair and use these things at will without cherishing them.
? (3) things full of memories
? Because it is full of homesickness and memories, it can never be lost. It is a powerful thing.
Unused things are full of energy bound by spells. What is still in use is like a pile of mud. Something full of nostalgia itself will exude a powerful aura.
? Knowing this, we can understand that the state of "rags and chaos everywhere in the house" is a mixture of several negative energies of neglect, denial and chaos. So people fall into a state of being unable to extricate themselves and feel breathless. Recognize the relationship between yourself and things. As long as we can get rid of rags, rubbish and dust, we can eliminate stagnation and decay.
6. Find back your trust in yourself.
After the above classification, I think everyone should have a little understanding. The accumulation of garbage represents "the gathering of conscience" and "the gathering of worries". The author said that in the process of breaking up, we should put the timeline in the present, and the anxiety and anxiety of conscience actually misplaced the timeline to the past and the future. Let the room be in a mess, make the room in a mess, and pile things rudely, which is equivalent to giving yourself the energy of denial and inferiority.
The author believes that most people who make their rooms dirty tend to punish themselves. The living environment can be changed by our own efforts, so we should create a space where we can entertain ourselves. Only you can make a change.
? First of all, take the self as the axis and put the time axis in the present.
After reading the previous contents, I think everyone can feel that parting is actually a very simple method. In short, in behavior, learn to "give up" first, that is, just throw away all unnecessary things. As for the secret of "giving up", it is completely self-centered and takes the present as the timeline.
1, the trick of "self-axis"-pay attention to the topic when asking questions
For example, if I hold my glasses and say "Please use them", you may not know how to use them. But if you ask whether these glasses are "usable glasses", the answer is obviously "usable", that is, usable. It is also something that can be used, but the judgment on it varies from person to person.
The article was originally valuable because of "I use it", but most people say that "glasses can be used" and "chopsticks can be used", with the article as the protagonist. This is the state of focusing on objects. When considering whether we should leave things behind, the subject of thinking is "I", not things.
2. Understand the meaning of the moment-compare the relationship with the object to interpersonal relationship.
The author uses interpersonal relationship instead of "the change of the relationship between oneself and things" in order to be convenient and easier to understand.
A room that has become a temporary garbage dump is like a living condition surrounded by all kinds of people, a stranger you don't know at all, all over the house. Does this make you feel uncomfortable? Taking interpersonal relationship as an example, we need to raise this state from being surrounded by strangers to being surrounded by people we know, that is, let the protagonist move from available items to himself, and whether the items are useful or not is up to him. Introducing the concept of timeline is to choose the friends that are most important to me now.
? The key to choosing an item is not whether it can be used or not, but whether I want to use it or not, which must be engraved in my mind.
? Second, from too much information to the unity of knowledge and action.
China has a kind of physiognomy, such as palm reading, physiognomy and geomantic omen. Through the observation and analysis of the external image, we can observe the fate of people. The same is true of Chinese medicine visits, which judge the invisible world hidden in the appearance by the information in the visible world. There is also the concept of "phase" in parting. People's housing situation often presents some problems of their own. Knowing more about the visible world and making yourself better is the purpose of breaking up.
1, the world of phase and the world of consciousness
There is a word called the tip of the iceberg, which means that what you can see is only a small part of the iceberg. Outside the world you can see, there is a large part that you can't see but does exist. We often use this example to illustrate human consciousness. Generally speaking, only 4% to 15% of human consciousness belongs to explicit consciousness.
In the process of breaking up, we must first understand the "phase" of the room, and then through the "breaking up" and "breaking up" behavior, the room environment can be greatly changed. In other words, the "invisible world" will also change with the change of 15% from only 4% of the "visible world". While changing the environment, you will also get an indescribable wonderful feeling-things that are blocked subconsciously have also been cleaned up. Change yourself, change others, and change interpersonal relationships.
? 2. Do exercises regularly to achieve the unity of knowing and doing.
The so-called "unity of knowledge and action" is to make cognition and behavior consistent. Therefore, from now on, we should throw away those redundant information and only choose the information that we can put into action. Get rid of the "constipation" of the mind as soon as possible.
? Articles are valuable only when they are used, not when they are broken.
The article should appear where it is needed at this time and this moment, in order to give up.
? Only when the goods are in the right position can beauty be displayed, which is for the sake of separation.
Sorting out the environment visible to the naked eye and sorting out yourself at the same time is the state that life should have.