Sincerity and trust are the keys to a friend.
Crocodiles are ferocious in appearance and behavior and have a bad reputation in the animal kingdom. Therefore, they have few friends. But it also wants to find a good friend. It wants to get along with it and never hurt it.
One day, a toothpick bird flew to a tree on the shore to rest. The crocodile in the water looked at the toothpick bird happily and said, "Hello, can I make friends with you?" Seeing that it was a crocodile, the toothpick bird said warily, "It's dangerous to make friends with you. I cannot promise you. " "But I really need friends. I think you are very suitable. We can help each other and benefit each other. " "But, call me how to believe? Some bad guys speak better than they sing, but they are actually very vicious. " "Get along with people can't just listen to what you say, it depends on what you do. Please believe me, I need friends like you to help me remove tartar, and you can also solve the food problem. " The toothpick bird saw that the crocodile was sincere and hungry, so it flew into the crocodile's mouth and ate the food between its teeth. Crocodiles really didn't hurt toothpick birds. They became good friends.
In real life, if you don't give sincerity and trust to your friends because you are afraid of being hurt, then you won't get the sincerity and trust of others. Therefore, when you treat your friends, you must really trust them. You may get hurt, but if you don't get hurt, you will never have real friends.
A child with an empty flowerpot.
Once upon a time, there was a king, childless and old, who wanted to choose a child from the countryside for him to inherit the throne. He gave every child in this country a grass seed, and made the person who planted the most beautiful flowers with this grass seed king.
A child named Jin Song also brought back a grass seed. He planted it in a flowerpot and watered it every day. Like other children, he hopes that this grass seed can germinate, grow branches and produce the most beautiful flowers. However, as the days passed, nothing grew in the flowerpot. He changed a flowerpot and some soil, and planted grass seeds in the hope of sprouting. But two months later, when everyone sent flowers to the competition, the flowerpot was still empty and nothing grew.
On this day, children from all over the country came to the palace with their own flowers, red, yellow and white, which were very beautiful. The king walked past the children, but he kept frowning and saying nothing. Later, when he came to Jin Song, he saw Jin Song holding an empty flowerpot with his head down. The king asked, "Why are you holding an empty flowerpot?"
Jin Song said sadly, "I planted grass seeds in the flowerpot, but it didn't sprout."
After hearing Jin Song's words, the king said happily, "I found it. I want to find an honest boy to be king, and you are the honest boy. "
It turned out that the grass seeds that the king sent to everyone were cooked with boiling water. How can they sprout and bloom? Other children grow flowers only after changing grass seeds. Jin Song didn't do that. He is an honest boy.
All talk and no practice is not good for you.
In Yin Ji, a businessman capsized while crossing the river, clutching a floating dry tree and crying loudly. A fisherman saved him by rowing a boat. Before he arrived, the businessman hurriedly shouted, "I am a rich family in Yin Ji. If you can save me, I will give you a hundred dollars. " The fisherman helped him to the shore, and he only gave ten gold coins. The fisherman said, "You promised to give one hundred gold, but now you only give ten gold. I'm afraid not? " The businessman got angry and said, "You are a fisherman. How much can you earn in a day? " ? Now, you suddenly get ten gold, aren't you satisfied? "The fisherman left in silence and listlessly.
A few days later, the merchant sailed through the Longmen of Luliang Mountain. The boat hit a big stone, turned over again and was hit by a fisherman. Someone asked the fisherman, "Why not save him?" The fisherman replied, "This guy broke his word. Last time I saved him, he promised to give me money, and then he broke the contract. " He leaned the boat against the shore and stood by. As a result, the businessman drowned.
Someone once said: if you lose money, you only lose a small part; If you lose your health, you only lose a small part; If you lose your integrity, you are almost bankrupt.
This businessman is dishonest and untrustworthy. Although he can make a profit for the time being, in the long run, it is really not worth the loss. He finally lost his life because of a small breach of his promise.
Honesty test
A scholar who studies economics did an experiment about honesty. It is to buy things in different stores for ten times and pay twice for each purchase, depending on how many people refuse to pay the second time.
The experimenter first walked into a clothing store and bought a shirt made in 20 yuan. After paying the money, he went in and said, "Sorry, I forgot to pay for the clothes just now." The shopkeeper is a kind-hearted middle-aged woman. It seems that she should be a good person. The experimenter described the scene of buying clothes to her in detail, giving the shopkeeper enough time and opportunity. But she interrupted the experimenter impatiently and said, "well, pay the money quickly." The experimenter had to obediently give her 20 yuan money.
The experimenter tried 9 stores in a row, and no one refused the second payment.
The last time, the experimenter didn't give up, so he found an acquaintance, a drink seller. He bought a bottle of mineral water and came out. After a few minutes, he went in again and said, "Oh, old classmate, I forgot to pay for the mineral water just now." The old classmate said, "I'll give it to you." The experimenter wanted to carry the experiment to the end and said, "How is this possible?" Take out two dollars and hand it over. Old classmates actually reached out to pick it up. Just as they each took half the money, her son said, "Mom, didn't uncle just give money?" You still have that money "Indeed, the old classmate another hand holding the two dollars he just gave.
The old classmate was embarrassed and had to let go. The experimenter regretted doing experiments with acquaintances, and he walked out of the drink shop in embarrassment. Hardly had he reached the street when he heard the honest little boy crying in the shop. His mother must have hit him.
This experiment of honesty ended in this way, leaving us with not only the results, but also the reflection on the lack of social honesty at present. As small as a person, as big as an enterprise or a country, if you don't pay attention to honesty, you may benefit for a while, but you will definitely lose your long-term trust.
The fact is true, Jin Jian.
In ancient times, there was a very beautiful queen. One day, on a whim, she sent someone to cast a sword inlaid with gold, and then called an official of the Qing Dynasty to announce, "I only know that I am beautiful, but I don't know how beautiful I am. You are all knowledgeable and eloquent people. Whoever can describe my beauty will give Jin Jian. " The queen gave her a sword, which was extremely precious, and all the civil and military officials in the Qing Dynasty were salivating. As a result, those officials racked their brains and concentrated on praising the start of the game. Some said, "The beauty of the queen lies in being ashamed of flowers when the moon is closed." Some retorted: "It is too vain to say so. The beauty of the queen should be natural and charming. " "The beauty of the queen is the best in the world ..." Before this person finished speaking, someone immediately retorted: "The beauty of the queen is not only the best in the world, but also the best in the sky. The seven fairies dared not look up when they saw the queen, and the jade emperor had to be tempted when he saw the queen. " Everyone is noisy, and the more they boast, the more mysterious they are, while the queen is quietly there, seemingly unsatisfied. At this time, a loyal and kind old minister stood up and said, "I have seen countless women in my life, and the queen is the most beautiful." Hearing this, the queen quickly said, "This is my favorite. I will give Jin Jian. "
Why can't all the ministers' praises impress the queen, but the simple praise of the old minister makes the queen be elated? Because the old minister's praise is neither excessive nor demeaning, seeking truth from facts and properly portraying the beauty of the queen.
Honest return
One day, a 0/0-year-old elementary school student in Tacoma, Washington, USA, played baseball with his children in the open space in front of his home, and accidentally threw the ball in his neighbor Kiel's car, breaking the window glass of the car. Seeing the trouble, the children fled home one after another. Hansen stood for a while and decided to come to the door to admit his mistake. Kiel, who had just moved to the city, forgave Hansen, but told Hansen's parents about it.
That night, Hansen told his father that he was willing to use the money saved by delivering newspapers to others to compensate Kiel for his losses.
The next day, accompanied by his father, Hansen visited Kiel again and explained his purpose. I didn't expect Kiel to say with a smile, "Well, you are so honest and willing to take responsibility, so I not only don't want you to pay compensation, but also want to give you this car as a reward." Anyway, this car is what I intend to abandon. "
As Hansen is too young to drive, the car is temporarily kept by his father. However, he has found someone to repair the windows and often washes and waxes the car like a child. Leaning against the Ford Mustang (1978), he said, "I can't wait to grow up and drive this car. I still can't believe this is mine. " He also said: "After the lessons of this incident, I have learned more about the value of honesty. I will be honest with others all my life. "
English stupidity
When I came to England, the first feeling was that the British were stupid. If you are walking in the street and accidentally bump into an Englishman, the other person will say, "I'm sorry." It seems that he touched you, which is incomprehensible.
If you buy something, you suddenly don't want it when you take it home. No matter how long you buy it, as long as it's not dirty, you can take it back and return it. No reason, as long as you say you don't like it. Think about it, I'm not afraid of losing money. That's stupid.
After a long time, I gradually understood the stupidity of the British.
A gentleman who used to be a visiting scholar in a British university told me: "In the laboratory, there are many precious metals, such as gold and platinum, which have no special management or monitoring. If necessary, just get it yourself. It doesn't matter how much you use, but you can't use it for your own use. If you bring some home by the way, it means that your reputation is completely finished, and no unit will hire you in the future. "
Under this premise, looking at the stupidity of the British has become synonymous with honesty.
Nobody checked in the car. You just need to go to the window to buy a ticket. The platform is absolutely open, but no one evades tickets. Of course, there is no need to be afraid of short weight and bargaining in the supermarket. Because their prices are absolutely true, they won't do anything on the scale.
Not surprisingly, if a society values reputation more than money, it becomes inevitable.