"Dwelling House" made the post-80s generation have the impulse to be a mistress. " In the reflection of readers and audiences, this is a phenomenon worth pondering. Many netizens prefer Song Siming, a middle-aged civil servant who is having an affair, to Beckham, a young boy who simply loves her.
"Beckham in the eyes of the audience only dropped two words-poor, female audience up to 85 years old, down to 15 years old, all ran to Song Siming. But my favorite character is Beckham, because he is very much like when I was young. He was not knocked down by life, because a man named Song Like taught him a profound lesson. He is always optimistic and healthy, still looking for his own life and his own way. This emotion of the audience is understandable. A woman has a psychology, that is, she wants to be strong. If she is given a choice between an incompetent man and a capable man, she will naturally be inclined. If it were me, I would never choose this way, because I am a strong woman (laughs). I don't like the desperate man in Song Like at all. This 40-year-old man, if he is a flower, is in full bloom, if he is a month, it is a full moon, but when he blooms, he loses it. When he is at the peak of his life, he actually has a fear that the best time is about to pass away. This is the basis of his feelings for girls like seaweed. He will make sense. Throughout the ages, he has never said a wrong word or taken a wrong step, but how terrible such a person is. I will say these words, but I won't use them to deceive the young man. Men over 40 years old can't mix in the world without ordering these goods in their bellies. A wily old fox is the normal development process of middle-aged men. Few people have been climbing all their lives, and Song Siming was the one who came down at the top. "
The love between a girl and a middle-aged man is called "hitchhiking"
Some viewers think that the affair between seaweed and Song Siming expresses a kind of love supremacy. Many people feel sorry for their tragic ending, and even many people hope that the author will change the ending of the story and not make it so tragic.
"They are true love. Every time I hear such a cry, I can't help laughing inside. I just don't think they love each other. Very objectively speaking, a girl is in her twenties. If she wants to choose a middle-aged man, she will definitely add an attribute-successful career. No beautiful young girl will like a middle-aged man who has accomplished nothing. But the word success contains many things in it, which is obviously an exchange. "
"If you want to know what love is, it's easy. I'll give you three conditions. If you all answer "yes", it is love and you can go straight to marriage. First, if he is down and out in the future, will you stay with him? Second, if he is sick and paralyzed, will you take care of him for life? Third, are you willing to serve his parents as your own? If there is a' no', you put a question mark on this love. In fact, the three answers of seaweed must be' no'. What is the love between a young girl and a middle-aged man? Ask for a ride. It has nothing to do with love. She doesn't intend to spend her life with him at all. It's just a wonderful period. It was the best time of her life when this woman was in her forties. With a 60-year-old man, will she stay with him forever? "
"Song is really love her? This question is more interesting. I can say that men's love is complex and diverse, and they can eat green vegetables and tofu. If the ability permits, no one will refuse a meal with vegetables and chicken soup. The question is, as a woman, do you prefer to cook green vegetables or chicken soup? I'm not saying that all men are Song. But this is a reality that everyone can't avoid: women are more picky and choose a strong life, and men are more likely to be rivers. "
Marriage can never be separated from one word-faith.
There is a passage in the book that is widely circulated on the Internet. Song Siming's wife said, "I used mussels to endure the pain and grind pearls, and finally hung them around my neck to show off." Some time ago, Chen Lin committed suicide, and many women around him were discussing "What should I do if my husband is derailed?" .
"I sometimes feel sorry for this kind of thing and think it is a punishment for good people. When we were young, girls like us, relying on our own efforts, pursued the love we believed in, and were willing to share joys and sorrows with this man, giving up all opportunities to take shortcuts, working hard with him and living together, hoping to grow old with him. When I was in middle age, I met with severe challenges. I really want to say this sentence. I was beautiful when I was young, not worse than any beautiful girl now, but I must admit the reality that I am middle-aged. Originally, I expected that there would be true feelings in this society, at least goodwill, sympathy and pity. It's hard to expect a man to walk with you all his life without a trace of pity for the past days. But I must confess that I am really old. I am in my twenties and I can't compete with girls, and no one will notice my kindness, wisdom, openness and generosity. What shall we do? In the transitional period, someone will always pay the price, so we women should be the bearers of the price. A woman loses the marriage she has managed for half her life, which is equivalent to everything she has. Sometimes these make me not believe that good people are rewarded, but am I not going to be a good person because of this? Marriage can never be separated from one word-faith. No matter what twists and turns appear in the middle, both of them should aim at persistence. If you bring it to the end of your life, then you have this belief. "
I will never put my feelings on the scale and weigh them for sale.
Of course, many viewers think that the "Little Three Children" seaweed is simple and lovely.
"A 25-year-old girl, when you do nothing, enjoys the life she shouldn't have enjoyed. When filming in Shanghai, seaweed lay on 500,000 sofas, 65,438+10,000 dining tables and 20 million houses. Don't you feel guilty? At least if you let me stay there, I will feel scared. Because I didn't work hard for it. But I definitely don't think seaweed is the mainstream among young girls. If most people seek comfort and take shortcuts, society will definitely go backwards. " Liu Liu said.
Liu Liu wrote an essay earlier, "Friendship is a thousand pounds, but lost to the chest." He scolded Hua Gehui, the host of Phoenix TV, who took her husband away. It seems that over the years, Liu Liu's contempt for "mistress" has not changed at all.
"If you want me to tell you the truth, I don't like seaweed. It's better to add a note: the way she behaves. Because she doesn't conform to my education and my values. You can call me an antique, but I know that a large part of women born in the 1970s received my education: self-esteem, self-love and self-reliance. Girls should pursue love and despise material things. I am 36 years old, and this idea is still deeply rooted. I think I can give up my house, money, fame and fortune, but I will never weigh my feelings on the scale. I have always been proud. Thanks to my mother, I did what she asked me to do: I bought every yarn with my own efforts and wisdom. I really did it, staying for love and walking for love. "
Liu Liu obviously likes Mrs. Song. "She is the original wife and is willing to help her husband when he is in danger, including selling his parents' and brothers' houses, including taking out all the money to save her husband. What she wants is this man. Even if this person will lose everything in the future, it doesn't matter if he has no job. Unfortunately, men can't see this, especially men who are deeply loved by women. "
Young people have a sense of loss, and middle-aged people will be crazy about revenge.
Some unmarried female viewers, after watching Dwelling House, think that men will cheat, so they are hesitant about marriage.
"Now the middle-aged men, do these things, and courtesy, grace, integrity, affect the younger generation of men. Girls don't choose men who are entangled in their youth. Such a man has a sense of loss, and people will be crazy about revenge in middle age. This is a vicious circle process. China people talk about doing good and accumulating virtue. What your generation does depends on whether it is profitable or loss-making for the next generation. Moreover, if such a middle-aged man doesn't feel guilty, then think about your own daughter, who grew up in her twenties and chose this path. How do you feel? I am thinking, my children are in this world, and my children's children are in this world. The material wealth I left them will depreciate to no value, and what I left them should be spiritual wealth, such as adherence to order. "
"A healthy, orderly, efficient and fair society must have rules. If we drove and everyone stood in line at the red light and waited quietly, then I think there wouldn't be such a crowded traffic jam. And everyone thinks it's fair. But it is precisely because someone jumped the queue in this society that he took a shortcut and kept you waiting long enough. Those who take advantage are complacent, while those who don't take advantage feel that they have lost. The original normal rule became that they lost without taking shortcuts, which caused confusion. Cicero, a famous philosopher, said that the armor of happy old age is a well-spent life, a well-spent life. In other words, if you want to be happy in old age, you must live by yourself when you are young. Since we took the shortcut, we must pay off the old debts. Do you want to live in an orderly place? Or do you want to live in a dark and disorderly place? I believe that most people want to live in a healthy environment. "
In 2009, when My Dwelling House first aired, I was 20 years old. At that time, I thought, why did seaweed choose Song Siming? There is a Beckham who loves her very much. Beckham is very good and loves her. The only thing is that he didn't have the life that seaweed wanted at that time, the life of a lady. 20 16 years, I was 26 years old, I watched my humble abode again, and suddenly I understood seaweed again. Although Beckham is just as pitiful. Guo Haizao may be vain, but among them, Guo Haiping is a pusher. I hate Guo Haiping's last words. It was obvious that she caused the algae, but in the end it became out of her control. The culprit here is Song Siming, and such people are not allowed to exist in this society. Even without Guo Haiping, just because Song Siming has a crush on Guo Haizao, Guo Haizao can't escape. Song Siming has a lot of money that women want. When women are in trouble, he helps them solve their problems. He will give women everything they want, but he is greedy. If he loved Guo Haizao, he could get a divorce, but he didn't. He destroyed seaweed and ruined a woman's life for his own interests and desires. Maybe without Song, seaweed would be tempted by another person, but in the final analysis, what she loves is the power in Song's hand, the ATM that can solve her problems all the time. What is love and not love? I chose it myself. I can't blame others.
Yes, seaweed is common, but not common in Song Siming.
I'm quite right. What do you think of Song Siming?
As for dwelling in humble abode, we don't dislike the role of Xiao San played by seaweed, and we don't dislike Song Siming's infidelity. Although it is realistic, it gives people a feeling of true feelings. People want a complete and true feeling.
For Song Siming, a thoughtful, intelligent man, his depravity in career and seriousness in love left a deep impression on the audience. When the humble abode was just on fire, how many girls wanted to meet a man with Song Like's four bright faces, not how rich he was, but the kind of love that every woman yearned for, the kind of love that was cared for, cared for and pampered. I don't hate him, but I also like him. No matter what the result is, which girl doesn't want Song Like to accompany her desperately?
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Speaking of "Dwelling House", it subverts many traditional cognition.
Song Siming's affair with seaweed has been recognized, which is what love should look like. Song Siming's wife said: "I endured the pain of grinding pearls with clam meat and was finally hung around my neck to show off."
Who hung it around someone's neck? Is Song Siming himself.
Beckham, a perfect boyfriend, has become a poor cuckold.
Who stole Beckham's thunder? There is no doubt that it is Song Siming.
Dwelling House involves many sensitive and hot topics: mistresses, house prices and high officials. In the end, in the name of justice, the screenwriter punished the mercenary and lowered their bottom line. But it didn't make the audience buy it, but it was hard to accept the ending.
So, who changed the hateful nature of this play? Is Song Siming himself.
So the question is, how did he do it?
The charm of Song Siming lies in its ease of lifting weights. In all kinds of relationships, Song Siming has performed with ease. A seamless connection between two women. He can release himself in his limited space. Let the people who come into contact with him have no pressure, which is an important reason why seaweed likes him and the audience likes him.
Especially for seaweed, a girl with great pressure in life, Beckham's existence is only companionship, and only Song Siming can lead her out of the predicament. This is why many young women like middle-aged uncles.
However, what is Song Siming thinking? Seaweed, to him, is just a glass of red wine with steak. Good food can't replace dinner. So seaweed is more like her than love. So he won't divorce for seaweed, and he won't think that what he did ruined seaweed's life.
After all I've done for you, you just repay me with your love. We are even. It is this mentality that makes him extremely relaxed and calm, and he can enjoy two of a kind to his heart's content. In contrast, seaweed wants more than that. With bread, it wants roses.
So this play is doomed to have no happy ending. However, to say that Song Siming can be so fascinating, the key lies in Zhang Jiayi's acting for the sake of not acting, which really makes people feel that he is Song Siming himself.
/kloc-I watched it once when I was 0/9 years old and thought Beckham was worthless. I'm not too desperate for Song Like. At the age of 24, I completely changed my mind. It is impossible to be indifferent to Song Siming's help again and again. I don't think Su Chun is a coward. In real life, he is definitely a smart man. I don't know if you have noticed that his lines are the most constructive in the whole play, and you can see that there is something wrong with seaweed at a glance. When Song Siming promoted him to section chief, he resolutely resigned and said something would happen. As a result, Song Siming was finally caught, and if he didn't resign, the consequences would be quite tragic. As a woman, few people can resist the temptation of Song Siming.
At first, Song Siming was fresh and exciting. Later, it was learned that seaweed was pregnant with a boy, and Song's balance was completely tilted. I think there is the idea of carrying on the family line in Song bones, and his official career is excellent. In fact, he is eager to have a son to honor his ancestors, so he loves seaweed more. And seaweed, because pregnant with a boy, is more precious to the mother, so later San Xiao really feel at ease, but people are not as good as heaven, the official relationship is caught, and finally the talent is empty. Greed kills men and women.
I think this is a very complicated feeling. There is no shortage of women in Song's position, but he leads an honest and clean life and does not defile women. When he met pure seaweed for the first time, he was tempted and looked like his first lover. In fact, Song is a middle-aged man who has begun to age. He worked hard every day and struggled for many years. His wife didn't get married because of love. Very utilitarian, because his wife's father can help him get promoted. He has struggled for half his life. What he lacks most now is not a woman, but the love he didn't get when he was young. Pure and beautiful. Therefore, it can't be said that Song just looked at seaweed as young, so he stayed with her and traded power and sex. But you don't want a divorce, and the idea of having an extramarital affair is despicable. But it is shameful to want what you lack, but this seemingly successful old man really wants an extramarital love. Hey, it's time for bed. Let's just say so much. Talking nonsense before going to bed. Is anyone here?
Song Siming is a charming "bad character".
Song belongs to the villain in public opinion, but judging from the characters portrayed in the play, he is a man of flesh and blood, worldly wisdom and deep feelings, so it is easy to understand and get rid of extramarital affairs.
I like seaweed because it looks like his first love in college, which shows that Song is a very affectionate person. Song Siming's help to seaweed is also comprehensive, which shows his intention. At the same time, he always thought that seaweed was his first shot and felt responsible and manly. I didn't even know the truth when I died, and I died on the seaweed road to watch the abortion.
Song Siming is knowledgeable, with many classic quotations, as well as many life insights about the government and his work. For example, "Glory and Decline Behind the National Metropolis", the dual dialectics of spirit and matter, and so on.
Song Siming has a very regular thinking and mode judgment, which is undoubtedly very attractive to women.
Many people on the Internet have analyzed Song Siming's role, and even analyzed his working ability, gains and losses and reference from the perspective of secretarial science. It can be seen that this role can be loved by everyone without moral elements.
A long time ago, I read a website about a survey, and 6447 people participated in the survey. When it shows "If you were the role of seaweed in real life, who would you choose?" No matter Song Siming or Beckham, 46.2% people chose Song Siming, far exceeding the 22.2% who chose Beckham. It can be seen that Song Siming's role is still recognized in the new generation.
I only watched Dwelling House this year, which was also recommended by my friends. She said that I would fall in love with Song Siming after reading it, and I would change my mind a lot! Then I watched it. In the plot, Song's strength and skills of picking up girls impressed women deeply. At first, seaweed was unacceptable. Later, I slowly accepted it and fell in love! To tell the truth, if it were me, it would probably be the same as the choice of seaweed, because knowing the troubles caused by money, the reality is cruel, and it is really warm to send charcoal in the snow! This relationship is spurned. I have scolded countless times before, and now I am in my thirties. Sometimes I think about what's wrong with falling in love, saying that seaweed is immoral or shameless. She belongs to this society! Politics aside, Song should be the object of 50% women's hearts!
Let's take a look at his classic quotations first. That's how attractive men are trained.
1. seaweed borrows money. You have a good reason to borrow money, which makes me very moved. Give me a chance and let me help you solve this trouble-free problem. Such a man, originally seaweed wanted something from him, but it turned out that seaweed helped him and gave himself a chance to help her. This human touch is really enough! Let us see this man's high emotional intelligence!
2. Help seaweed's brother-in-law. If this is about it, you have to move a lot. The more you move, the more you participate. The deeper you sink, the worse you rot in the pot. We should always be able to tell you from me. It takes time to settle accounts every time, and it is important to owe them often. Don't worry if you owe more. He will do one thing for you or ten things for you. At the end of the day, he saw you and his head ached, so you won. You must get wind and rain. Song Siming turned to a lawyer friend for help. This classic quotation explains the essence of Chinese-style relations, but this is not what I want to say. Song Siming solved the big problem of seaweed's sister's house (brother-in-law was jailed for leaking secrets). Please note that this is voluntary. He and seaweed have broken up. It's okay to pretend you don't know. But he just wants to help the algae do something. This man is affectionate and righteous. Who can not be moved? What's more, he loves his seaweed very much!
3. Advice to businessmen. It is impossible to maximize profits at any time. When you pursue the highest profit, you actually stand in your way. I think it is ok to make a reasonable profit! This is a man's rational attitude towards money and material needs at a certain level. It's really hard for a wise man to know when enough is enough and how to stop. Here I remember again, and there is a famous saying by Song Siming: "A person's greatness lies not in how much you have contributed to society and how much you have achieved, but in knowing how to give up when you face temptation." That's what he said. Don't do things that maximize benefits, give others some convenience and know enough is enough!
There are also many classic quotations, such as "people who wander the rivers and lakes will always meet experts." If you do something, you must finish it. Now that you have promised, you must finish it. Who do you want to throw this stall to now? " "Can you play Go? There is a saying in Go that "it is better to give up some small gains and losses than the overall situation" ... I won't go into details here, and interested friends can go online and have a look. It's really classic