Extreme people are generally impatient and impatient. The main manifestations of extreme psychology are: first, the situation is "dark"; The second is to be emotional in front of right and wrong, either affirming everything or denying everything; Third, dealing with problems tends to go to two extremes, either left or right. When dealing with people or things, it seems that there are no shortcomings when it is good, and there is no hope when it is bad. The extreme psychology of teenagers is more serious than that of adults because their psychology is not fully mature, which is mainly manifested in: emotional excitability and prejudice; Impulsive behavior, blind obedience; It is difficult to grasp the discretion in dealing with problems; It's easy to get out of control when stimulated.
Overcome prejudice
People with extreme thoughts tend to set the objective reality with the ideal model of subjective structure, so they are divorced from reality, demanding others to be perfect and blaming others. Therefore, to overcome extremes, we must first overcome cognitive prejudice and learn to analyze and deal with problems comprehensively and objectively. Secondly, we should be good at standing in each other's position and understanding other people's situations and difficulties. In addition, when looking at a problem, we should not turn a blind eye to the forest or judge it as an outsider, but should analyze it comprehensively and objectively from a dialectical point of view, seeing both problems and achievements; We should not only see the positive side, but also the negative side, and devote ourselves to the reform practice as a master.
Act calmly.
People who are extremely impatient are prone to behavioral deviations and do bad things. If you know that your thoughts are extreme and irritable, you should learn to control your emotions, remind yourself to be calm, calm and think twice, and avoid being impulsive and eager to deal with things. If you have opinions and comments on the shortcomings of society or units, you must pay attention to the occasion, object and discretion. Otherwise, it will be contrary to its original positive motivation, bring negative social effects, bring right and wrong, and affect the relationship between people.
Learn to wait
People who are extremely impatient often walk blindly and are eager for success, and often screw things up as a result. This requires learning to wait, because to solve a problem and complete a task, we always have to wait until some subjective and objective conditions are ripe. The strong have the will and can wait for the opportunity.
Be good at self-regulation
Overcome extreme impatience, but also be good at self-regulating bad emotions. Bad mood can lead to big mistakes. The ways to adjust emotions and maintain a good attitude are: cultivate an optimistic spirit, don't be carried away by immediate achievements, and don't hurt your liver because of trivial things; Remind yourself by self-suggestion, be patient, don't panic when encountering strong stimuli, be calm, and have the demeanor of "sudden surprise, no anger for no reason"; It is also an effective way for family and friends to remind and enlighten them in time when they are extreme and impatient.
4. Ways to overcome jealousy
Jealousy is an emotional experience caused by jealousy of talents and fear that others will surpass themselves. It is a narrow psychology. The essence of jealousy is a kind of jealousy towards people who are better than themselves in some aspects. Jealous people will feel uncomfortable, unhappy and even angry when they see that others' talents, progress, achievements, specialties and even looks surpass their own. They tried their best to slander, belittle, attack, talk and even try to kill people behind their backs.
People with similar abilities, similar status, similar age, similar space, the same major, the same gender and the same hobbies are prone to jealousy. The jealousy between women is not only the jealousy between men and women, but also more complex, subtle, subtle and lasting. This is because the same sex, the basis of mutual comparison has increased, and women are generally narrower than men.
Jealousy not only harms others, but also harms oneself. Most people who are prone to jealousy will have some physical diseases, such as stomachache and backache. Envy, if left unchecked, will make people hypocritical, cunning, decadent, hateful, and even degenerate into crime.
Everyone is jealous. So how do you lead your jealousy to the right track of competition and catching up?
Introspection and jealousy
We should thoroughly realize that jealousy begins with the purpose of harming others and ends with the result of harming ourselves, which corrodes social atmosphere, harms career development and social progress, thus generating a sense of disgust and spontaneously restraining jealousy in psychology and action.
Transcendence of competition law
Psychologically speaking, jealousy is a manifestation of a person's inner weakness and inferiority. Jealous people are unable to compete with the strong because of great trauma and some irreparable defects, and are afraid of being surpassed by others. This psychological imbalance has to be made up by belittling others. After realizing the essence of jealousy, we should be a strong person who dares to challenge the strong, turn jealousy into catching up, strive to surpass each other and gain a higher position than the opponent. Otherwise, you will rack your brains to get the other person down or take the means of attacking, discussing and belittling, which will not only expose your narrowness, selfishness and incompetence in front of everyone, but also be despised and punished by others and make yourself fall into greater pain.
Eliminate jealousy by transfer
It is to consciously transfer your own thinking content, or to devote yourself to busy study and work. When things get busy, one's attention will be devoted to new work, and there is no time to think. In addition, you can also consciously adjust your attention to your own strengths and weaknesses. When you are jealous of a person, it always hurts you deeply because of his advantages in some aspects, and this aspect of yourself is precisely his shortcomings. This difference is the root of your jealousy. If you adjust your attention center, that is, you see that you are superior to each other in other aspects, the original unbalanced psychology will be rebalanced.
Broaden the way to dispel jealousy
People who are jealous are often short-sighted, narrow-minded and self-expanding. Always think of yourself, not others, and don't regard the achievements of others as a contribution to society, but as a threat to yourself first. Therefore, to get rid of jealousy, we must eradicate selfishness and broaden our minds. First, we should tolerate people, not only those who are different from others, but also those who are willing to strive for self-improvement. Only in this way can we truly achieve: to be first, to be first. Second, know yourself. Flowers, like flowers, always fade; The crown of a tree is like a pavilion, which is hard to survive. A person can't be better than others in everything, and everything is better than others. Therefore, in your study and life, you either agree or agree. Be good at absorbing the essence of others and constantly enrich and improve yourself. This can largely dispel jealousy.