The ancients said: "It is most important to be taciturn in self-cultivation, and to be virtuous in dealing with things."
Wealth is not a destiny. What kind of person you are will determine what kind of person you attract. Feng Shui.
When you change your mentality, be silent when you are at a low point, be gentle when you are in trouble, and be kind when you are down, your destiny will quietly change.
Just work hard for the rest of your life and everything will take care of itself.
Those who speak less are more valuable
"The Book of Changes" says: "A good person has few words, and a rash person has many words."
The calmer the heart, the better the speech. The slower.
A truly wise person knows how to think twice before speaking. Words are faster than brains, and speaking without thinking will only bring disaster.
When Zeng Guofan was young, he fell into a mouth several times.
He often speaks freely, mocking his classmates and friends for not being as good as him, and taunting his colleagues whenever he gets the chance, showing off his power at every turn.
As a result, I offended people all over again without even realizing it.
Until one day, in the court, facing the newly enthroned Emperor Xianfeng, he blurted out an accusation: "Smart in small things, confused in big things, just a pretentious person, not practical."
Xianfeng When the emperor heard about it, he was furious and wanted to punish him. Fortunately, other great scholars begged for mercy and was spared from the crime.
After this tribulation, he suddenly came to his senses and established the saying "Don't do things according to your heart, and don't speak according to your mouth". He reminded himself to always remember to behave steadily and speak slowly.
Since then, Zeng Guofan has been particularly cautious in speaking.
According to historical records, when Zeng Guofan spoke later, he must speak after others had finished speaking, and when he said one sentence, you must prepare ten sentences, otherwise you will be left in the cold.
Because of this, he was able to become one of the very few people in history who achieved a good death despite his great achievements.
Plato said: "Smart people speak because they have something to say; foolish people speak because they want to say something."
A wise man speaks with his brain; a fool, Use your mouth to speak.
Before speaking, slow down for three minutes, keep your brain clear, and smooth out your thoughts, so as to avoid saying things that are irrational and that you will regret.
?The Langya Wang family, "the most prominent family in China", has gone through dynasties and lasted for thousands of years, creating a miracle of three saints and thirty-five prime ministers.
Among his family mottos that have been handed down to the world, the first one is: speak slowly.
The deeper the water, the slower the flow; the slower the speech, the more valuable the person. Guarding your mouth means guarding your blessings.
All reliable people have these two characteristics: speak slowly and have a calm mind.
Lu Xun said: "Once a person understands it, he will become silent. It is not that he has no ability to get along with others, but that he has lost the interest in making fun of others."
This There is no real empathy in the world. I used to long for someone to share my feelings, but now I have learned to digest them alone.
You can be ambitious, but you must be quiet.
If a person is caught up in the hustle and bustle, all he sees is trouble. Only by being quiet and calm can he encounter the Phoenix.
Before we shine brightly, we all have to spend a quiet time, either growing up in loneliness or healing in the dark.
The soft man is rich
There is a story in "Aesop's Fables":
The sun and the wind argued about who was the most powerful.
But no one could convince the other. In the end, they agreed that whoever took off the clothes of passers-by first would be the most powerful.
Next, the strong wind blew hard, but the more it blew, the tighter the passers-by wrapped their clothes.
The sun was shining gently on the passers-by, and it was getting warmer and warmer. Slowly, the passers-by took the initiative to take off their coats.
When doing things, gentleness and kindness are more powerful than force and coercion. Being too tough is often counterproductive.
Pressure only results in submission; gentleness results in conviction.
Zeng Guofan, who had just entered the officialdom, showed his sharpness and liked to be tough when it came to problems. On the surface, things seemed to be settled, but in fact, he hurt the harmony and lost the hearts of the people.
In the end, he was deprived of military power and returned home in embarrassment.
During the time at home, he repeatedly reflected on himself and realized: If it is too strong, it will break easily, but if it is soft, it will last forever.
When dealing with people, one must be firm but not soft, square but not round, advance but not retreat, and one is doomed to failure.
After his comeback, he was low-key, humble, gentle and polite, taking the word "soft" to the extreme.
In order to ease the relationship with Zuo Zongtang, as the coach, he chose to go to Zuo Mansion on foot to show his sincerity.
When he walked up to the door, facing the deliberate difficulty of Zuofu opening only the side door, he entered calmly and reviewed himself as soon as he entered.
It is precisely because of this that he later became a popular person, popular among people, and his official career was successful.
There is an old saying: Water is soft yet strong. Water is good for all things without any competition. Water is the king of all grains, so it is good to live under it.
Gentleness is never cowardice, but a power that penetrates people's hearts, a kind of mind, and a pattern.
If you treat people and things with gentleness, you can move a thousand pounds with four ounces, and defeat a strong force with a small force.
When you have a soft heart, your impetuousness will subside and your happiness will grow.
Those who are virtuous will be prosperous
As the saying goes, auspicious people will have their own destiny, and those who are virtuous will have their help.
Ieoh Ming Pei, a world-class architect, was born into a prominent family in Suzhou, with many talented people in his family.
People say that you can only be rich for three generations, but the Bei family has been rich for 15 generations and is still prosperous today.
All of this comes from the persistence of Bei's ancestors in the word "virtue and honesty".
The first generation of the Bei family made money by setting up a street vendor, selling herbal medicine and practicing medicine.
Because they were honest and kind, they gradually gained a reputation and opened a pharmacy in Suzhou.
One day, robbers came to rob the house late at night. The first reaction of the Bei family was to transfer the client's money.
When the robbers left, all the medicinal materials were robbed, but the client's money was well protected.
Later, the Bei family developed into the largest medicinal material trading house in Suzhou, but the ancestor Bei Muting still insisted on being charitable.
During disaster years when rice is scarce, merchants drive up prices and make huge profits.
However, Beimuting sold the grain in stock to the people at a low price of two-thirds of the market price.
At the age of 65, Bei Muting was seriously ill, and he donated a large amount of property to the poor people around him.
After doing this, he said happily: "I have nothing to worry about anymore, I can rest in peace."
For generations, the Bei family has put the moral character of life first. Always educate the next generation:
"It is better to pass on morality to your children than to pass it on to your children; it is better to pass it on to your children with something unique than to pass it on to your children."
Although you have something passed down from generation to generation. In order to gain wealth, the Bei family still requires their children and grandchildren to work hard, and there has never been a "gongzi brother who carries a cage and walks a bird".
The so-called good Feng Shui means that a family has a profound foundation and can survive any major setbacks without disaster.
If you have deep roots and luxuriant leaves, you will become a towering tree; if you have a kind heart, you will be blessed forever.
In a family, the most prosperous Feng Shui is to accumulate virtue, and the most valuable wealth is to do good deeds.
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Writer Bi Shumin said:
"Trees should not grow too fast. Trees can be used as firewood in one year, tables and chairs in three or five years, and trees in ten years can be used as firewood. It takes hundreds of years to become a pillar. Therefore, you must cultivate your talents and wait for time."
A person's destiny is hidden in his persistence.
Speaking slowly will cultivate nobility;
Being soft-natured will bring you blessings;
Being virtuous will bring prosperity to future generations.
The years are long. We must take our time. The quieter we are, the more we can swim upstream.