I happen to be engaged in education for the disabled. I face all kinds of disabled children every day, including hearing-impaired, visual-impaired, mentally retarded, and now there are many children with multiple disabilities. The saddest thing is that even the disabled are full of all kinds of envy. Parents with multiple obstacles said, "I hope my child is only blind." Parents with visual impairment said, "If only my children were deaf, at least they could take care of themselves, and it didn't look so terrible." Hearing-impaired parents said, "If only my child could talk." . As educators, we always try our best to satisfy parents' envy in all kinds of rhetoric similar to parents'. Teach disabled people to deal with trivial matters of daily life, help visually impaired children to take care of themselves, and train hearing impaired children to speak. This process often gets twice the result with half the effort, but teachers are still willing to pay for that little income.
In the film, my mother said in an interview: "Many families think that it is sad for a white-headed person to send a black-headed person, but for a family like ours, it is happy." I don't know how many parents in my family have such experiences and ideas, because parents always want their children to be healthy and happy, to be successful in their studies and to be happier than themselves in the future. However, many families I contacted were helpless and even overshadowed by their children's disabilities.
Because the child can't hear, he said to the child, "Don't have children in the future." This is not that parents are heartless, but that they are affectionate. Because they don't want their children to suffer the same pain as them. Because the child is disabled, many families have more than one child, and other brothers and sisters are given the task of taking care of this special child when the child is born. As the mother in the film said, "What a pity to leave him alone when I kicked my leg one day." Therefore, many families have left this child with a "lifelong guardianship". There are many disabled children who need their parents to accompany them all day, so that one parent has to quit his job and stay with the child all day, even if he is twenty years old, just like the mother in the film.
Anyone who has been a parent knows that taking care of children is a very tiring job, not only physical fatigue, but also psychological fatigue. I brought up my son, from starvation, unable to sleep at night, to toddler, to babbling and talking to myself, until the child went to kindergarten and finally got a chance to breathe. The most worrying thing is that the child is sick, which is the most annoying thing. He is worried and anxious all day, as if his heart is not in his chest, and he can't calm down for anything. Only when children do this occasionally will I feel sad. Who would have thought that a born unhealthy child would be like that, and how his parents should feel?
Faced with these human tragedies, as a teacher and mother, I often think of the sentence "God is fair". How can I think it is reasonable?
However, human development has always been accompanied by disability, and this proportion has never decreased. Even the population base has increased, the environment has changed, and air, water and food have been polluted. This phenomenon will be more and more. Fortunately, there are more and more medical care, more and more social concerns and more and more welfare. Although it can't help every family get out of that predicament, it can also reduce part of the burden. At present, the state also attaches great importance to the education and life of the disabled, including employment, with the aim of making these disabled children leave their parents and become independent, so that their parents can leave home and have their own lives.
In short, it is not easy to be born, not here but there. ? But as long as the heart does not fall, life can go on.