Zhai Hongshen emphasized communication and the importance of effective communication. First of all, Zhai encouraged the students to communicate with each other and shake hands with each other. He said that communication is the transmission of emotions, information and emotional interaction. Emotion is very important. Only when you are in a good mood and good atmosphere can you communicate effectively.
Later, Zhai talked about Gui Guzi and his four students, Su Qin, Zhang Yi, Sun Bin and Pang Juan. Several China students were almost provoked. What did he give the students? The first thing he taught was "coitus". What does getting married mean? Yan means to open your heart, open your heart, take active actions and take the initiative to attack; Closing is closing, closing your heart, being silent, and turning what comes in into your own things. One yin and one yang, one attack and one defense, one talk and one listen, know when to say and when to listen to the way of "making love", which can be said about people, countries and the world. A person should practice his communication, persuasion and speech skills, and practice his influence on others, so that he can unite Lian Heng and make something out of nothing; You can turn decay into magic, war into friendship, and the impossible into possibility-talking and laughing is all gone. Later, he naturally asked the audience to applaud him-this is also a kind of mutual communication. Applause is not only for the speaker, but also to show his quality and state, indicating that you are fine, you are still alive and so on. This is communication.
Zhai Hongshen said that communication is not just about imparting skills. Narrow-minded people can't say anything big, and people without a sense of mission can't say anything responsible. He also said that in this era, because there is a network and a lot of knowledge, retrieval is enough, and even too much knowledge reserve is not needed. Knowledge comes from learning and ability comes from practice. Communication is a kind of ability, which should be practiced or practiced. At the same time, cultivate people's mind, virtue and realm.
Zhai Hongshen once again mentioned Guiguzi: "The mouth is the door of the heart". He gave an example. A woman asked, does her husband often dislike going home? Why? Zhai Hongshen replied: Because going home equals suffering, who wants to suffer? It turned out to be like this: before I went home, my scalp was numb, so I had to deal with the mobile phone information first and think about the deceptive manuscript-she didn't believe it anyway. Soon after I got married, I found that I had to check with the "Secretary of the Discipline Inspection Commission" every day. Would you like to go home in such a family atmosphere? This long time is caused by poor communication between husband and wife.
"The Long March is too difficult. We all have bonfire parties." Why are you so angry? The most taboo of communication is playing dead. Because a person is born from the heart, and the mouth is the gateway to the heart. Management, finance, etc. It can be replaced by others, but its own pattern, mind and realm are irreplaceable. These have improved, and high-quality communication naturally began. Skills and so on, you can find many places, and there are many online searches. Some people have a good atmosphere wherever they go. "Never be a polluter of the atmosphere, never do anything to break the field." Just when someone answered the phone, Zhai was punished for doing push-ups. China people's communication begins at home, and filial piety comes when they enter.
He also gave an example. Learning to swim, people with high academic qualifications may not learn fast, and graduate students may not learn fast, because some are unwilling to go into the water. This is a question of attitude. Change your mentality, state and attitude, which is called "abnormal condition" for short. To succeed, you must be "abnormal condition"! The greatest power in the world is the power of change! Only change is constant. Come to class, not to take notes, but to change! Refuse to change, it is useless to remember how much. Communication must start from the heart! It's not that knowledge is useless, but that you are useless. "I am useless because I am useless" (can be understood as: I am useless, but I am useless; It can also be understood as useless because it is useless. He mentioned: knowledge is power, and using knowledge is power! Still the same sentence: to change, "don't let my face ruin the feng shui of the family, the atmosphere of the team, and the atmosphere of the enterprise. Don't be a polluter of emotions and atmosphere!"
Only with a happy heart can we establish a correct outlook, correct thinking, correct language, correct diligence and mindfulness. Some people look smart, why can't they succeed? Because, we pay attention to the problem, not the opportunity, and let the opportunity slip away in vain, and finally lose the goal. He gave an example: he recommended reading a book. Two days later, a student said that he had read it, asked what he had gained, and said that he would write to the author and say that he was not responsible. Ask again, what is this book about? Answer: No attention. This kind of person who specializes in finding faults wastes the ideas in that book. This kind of person certainly has a job suitable for him: professional proofreading. But most people can't think so. Without positive thinking, it is easy to find fault with each other. A couple divorced less than two years ago. They recalled that during the first big fight, the toothpaste was not squeezed properly: the man pushed too hard and squeezed too much toothpaste, just as the woman saw it, "You are sick, squeezing toothpaste like this." "Are you sick? Isn't it just a broken toothpaste?" As soon as the woman picked up the toothbrush, the toothpaste suddenly disappeared and suddenly the toothbrush fell on the man. The man's foam sprayed on the woman's face, and the two men started fighting! Later, I upgraded and had to divorce. Still no communication, still no positive thinking. How can we have positive thinking, mindfulness and diligence? Learn music first. For example, if you study, don't treat learning as a kind of hardship, but be willing to do it, then use it to make progress. Learning music is the key to establishing a learning organization. It is true that there is a hard way to learn in Shushan, but it is a problem that there is no end to learning from all rivers. Learning is not difficult. If you have a good attitude, you will think positively and act positively. When diego maradona played football, his opponent kicked and pulled, but he still scored. When asked why he was not angry about these punches and kicks, he replied, "It can reflect my value as a star." "Why not retaliate?" "The best revenge is to score goals!" This is a positive attitude.
Zhai takes his own experience as an example to show that unpleasant things may happen in time, and if you think about it, you will get unexpected gains. He said that because he changed the wrong shoes on the train last time, he gained a business, and because of his positive attitude, he got another buddy. Always have this kind of consciousness: "Be respectful to others, brother in the world"!
This video lecture is informative, but not boring, because it will be humorous and rich. As the lecture said, if you take your degree as fun and your work as fun, then this kind of mindfulness will move towards positive progress! It is this awareness of "learning to be happy" that we should study and watch these videos.