Being a man, the most taboo is "hot head". Impulse will make mistakes and lose direction.
Some people can use their quick wits, while others are anxious to go to the hospital. When impulsive, a wrong decision can often destroy a person.
Generally speaking, when life encounters difficulties, it is easier to be impatient. But the reality tells us that if we want to rise in life, we must be patient slowly.
When people are at the bottom, they need to learn "three coldness".
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Learn to burn incense in a cold temple and find someone to help you.
As the saying goes, "Feng Shui turns."
When you are down and out, you can't keep buttering up the rich and powerful. Those who are above themselves are buttered up every day, and the threshold at home is broken. You'd better go to their house for help. Probably impossible. On the one hand, others don't have time to help you, on the other hand, you are too down and out to be helped.
To establish a good interpersonal relationship, we need to learn to "burn incense in a cold temple". The original intention is to burn incense in a temple where incense is not prosperous. You are a distinguished guest in the temple, and the Bodhisattva will remember your kindness and take care of you. Extending this truth is to tell us that if you make friends with people who are not very popular, others will appreciate you and take care of you when they have the opportunity.
People who are unpopular today may be big shots tomorrow. Who can say for sure?
In fact, many capable people are hiding around you, but they don't show up and just struggle in obscurity. You should be good at finding such people, because they are "people with great potential".
When people are in the trough, it is definitely better to have someone to walk with you than to be alone.
Build a good network, and others can help you at the critical moment.
For example, if you work in a company and have always been a humble person, then you will get close to the "relatively unpopular" boss, and after the boss reuses you, it will definitely have your benefits.
For example, if you want to change the status quo by starting a business, you should look for people who are starting a business but have not achieved great success and cooperate with them. After they succeed, you can follow suit.
As the saying goes: "Don't burn incense at ordinary times, cram for Buddha's feet temporarily." When you are at a low point, you can't think that all people are people who look down on you, let alone people who are unknown. Don't wait for others to be promoted, but also pay attention to the usual human relations.
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Learn to "break the ice" and find the development direction.
When you are at the bottom, if you want to rise as soon as possible, you must find a suitable way, and you can't bump around like a headless fly.
Finding the right path is the key to the rise of life. But how to find the right way? Look at those busy roads, there are many people on the road, and many people who "follow in their footsteps" have successfully shared a piece of the action.
Going to crowded places is a habitual mode of thinking. Even if we go to eat, we are used to going to crowded restaurants, thinking that the restaurants that everyone likes are clean and delicious.
In fact, where there are many people, there will often be a situation of "thousands of troops crossing the wooden bridge". If you squeeze in, it is estimated that there is no place to live.
When you are at a low point, you have no economic strength and no good experience. If you go to a popular place, it is estimated that you will not be able to stand still for a while, and you can only watch others succeed.
Smart people will try to find the "unpopular". When you are employed, you should choose a position that others are not very keen on, so your competitive pressure will be less and your chances of being hired will be more. When starting a business, we should seriously think about it, strive for "finding another way" and rise slowly without competitive pressure.
My friend Lao Liao went to Dongguan to work after graduating from junior high school. At that time, most people worked in factories. After staying in the factory for half a year, Lao Liao took out all his savings and began to set up a stall.
I have worked in Dongguan for several years and earned hundreds of thousands. A few years ago, he bought a minivan and sent "cheap goods" to the countryside, making a fortune.
Speaking of entrepreneurial experience, Lao Liao said: "I just succeeded by doing what others didn't want to do."
With the development of the times, vendors have become a hot industry. But the real "vendor" dug up a bucket of gold many years ago.
Doing what others don't want to do, such an industry is relatively deserted, but for people in the trough, it is mostly right. Instead of confronting others, it is better to "avoid reality and be empty."
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Learn to "think calmly" and get through it slowly.
The more depressed a person is, the more he wants to get up as soon as possible. This is a mode of thinking, which can make a person lose his mind, always think about "getting rich overnight", and even try to borrow money everywhere and want to gamble.
The rise of life must come slowly. The more anxious and confused, the easier it is to fall into a deeper trough.
When you work hard with the mentality of "grinding a sword for ten years", you will find that your achievements will gradually emerge.
If you want to succeed, you must first improve your ability. When the ability and position are relatively matched, a person's advantages can be fully exerted and the ability can be transformed into motivation.
People are at a low ebb and need to think calmly. Analyze what you have done in the past, accumulate experience and learn lessons. Analyze the direction of social development and find living space from the cracks in society.
The clearer a person's thinking, the greater the probability of success and the more confident he is. If your mind is a mess, don't do anything. Clear your mind before you start to act. Don't do nothing.
Author: coarse grains in cloth.
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