There are indeed many articles saying that "children's rooms are in a mess, and they have no interest when they grow up." The source is a study by Harvard Business School:
Successful people with a strong sense of happiness often have a very clean and tidy home environment; Unfortunately, people usually live in chaos and filth.
There is nothing wrong with this statement, but it does not mean that people with cleaner home environment are happier and more successful, and people with worse home environment are more unfortunate.
Economist Tim? Harford's statement in Chaos runs counter to the conclusion of Harvard Business School:
If a person's desktop is neat, books are neatly arranged, and water cups and stationery are neatly arranged, such people generally lack creativity; And those who have made great achievements, such as Picasso, Einstein, Zuckerberg, Jobs and so on, often have messy desks, and chaos can stimulate creativity.
Therefore, it is not absolute that "children's rooms are in a mess and worthless when they grow up", which may have a bad influence on some people's lives and may achieve some people's creative talents, so we can't judge whether a child is promising by the messy room.
Parents must be relieved to see this analysis, thinking that "my child seems" can be cured! "Really, you should think so. The child has not yet been finalized. Don't deny his future prematurely.
What happened to those children whose rooms were in a mess?
Many friends have shared stories about children's messy rooms, and later found them promising.
Netizen 1: My daughter's room is in a mess, but she is a top student. She said it was very effective.
Netizen 2: In junior high school, my desk drawer was the most messy in the class, but my grades were the best.
Netizen 3: My daughter's desk is almost always messy and full of things, but she should study hard.
Netizen 4: There is a woman in our building. Her sister said that she was lazy at home and littered things, and her eyes lit up as soon as she got to work. She began to do business in her twenties. Now there is a billion, eight houses and two companies in Shenzhen.
Netizen 5: My friend's son is sloppy. He doesn't change clothes or wash the room. But he is now a postdoctoral fellow in Tsinghua, and his living habits will affect some study habits to a certain extent, but his concentration and good study methods are really the main reasons for his good or bad study.
Judging from the sharing of netizens, it is almost one-sided, thinking that the messy room has not affected the children's future prospects, and they are all doing well. Finally, the analysis of netizens hit the nail on the head and revealed the true meaning of messy rooms. When a child is particularly focused on one thing, he will ignore other things around him. Therefore, although the children's rooms look messy to outsiders, it does not necessarily affect their future development.
Why don't children want to clean up?
From the children's point of view, they think it is reasonable not to tidy up the room.
When they get to school, children will become busier and busier. Homework may be done after 10, or even 1 1, 12. Children may want to clean up, but they have no time to clean up. Go to bed after finishing your homework at night. If you want to stay in bed for a while, open your eyes, read early and eat a fast food, you have to go to school. Your spare time is very limited.
Although the children's room is messy, everything is probably impressive where it is placed. You tidied up, but you don't know where it is. This may be a matter of study habits.
From the parents' point of view, it is their own practice that makes the children's room more messy.
I haven't developed the habit of cleaning since I was a child: in fact, children like to imitate adults to clean since 1 year old, but parents will say, "You can still do it when you grow up!" It has dampened children's enthusiasm for cleaning, and children gradually don't like to do it. There is no definite age limit when to start training children to clean their rooms. Parents have long forgotten to cultivate their children's ability in this respect.